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| DrunkenGoddess |
if someone you like, is say.. across the country from you and tells you that they will move just to be with you.. does that seem credible? okay.. so say you believe them.
problem is.. it's not going to happen for at least another 1/2 year. can there be a guarantee that that person won't meet someone else within that time? and if they do meet someone and like them.. can you trust them when they tell you that they will still hold you first in their heart and still make the move? basically, is it acceptable/understandable that the guy just needs someone for the time being? but for the distance to be present, can it also be said that there is no relationship and that it's all unofficial? that it makes perfect sense for the both of you to see other ppl before being together? or would that be more like cheating? and then the problem of falling for the person you were only seeing for the time being.. won't seeing someone in the meanwhile allow for a turn in future events? what if he fell for her.. he wouldn't make the move, then, right? and say, he does hold you in first place nonetheless until he comes, won't that be unfair to the girl he was seeing, prior to that? won't there be that huge jealous factor? or would that really set the whole fidelity thing to test? as in: if he sees other girls, he realizes either yes, he loves you most, or no, there was actually someone out there better for him?
or, would it be the smartest thing to step back and get some space and see what happens as it happens?
as in, no longer seeing that person as a potential companion, but merely someone who made a statement that holds no security.
would it not be better to regard that person as just anyone just so you won't be hurt later on?
but just how do you pull yourself out when you've already fallen so hard? does not talking to that person work?
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DG: sorry but i have NO idea wat you're tryin to get at
please clarify |
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| 2000silverimpreza |
| my opinion is long distance relationships like moving across the country just don't work. the only quality time you have with this person is over the phone or on a holiday. trust/security you have to decide for your self. long distance is like putting a wedge between a relationship. cause new place you meet new people. its always like that. |
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| Scintillater |
| just depends how strong your relationship is, and how much you trust the person. Real question being, are you looking for a reason to try new ppl? or do you even WANT to go in for it for the long haul? |
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| Genki |
i agree with Scint.. it depends how strong yoru relationship is.
I think that if your relationship is strong that u would not need "a person" in the meantime whiel u are waiting for that person or waiting to move. That is just not right... If u must see oehter ppl, then well i would consider that cheating if u consider yoruselves dating... Why should it be any different if u 2 are here or if u are separated by millions of miles... well ok maybe not millions but it may seem like it <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Sure it's beleiveable, just don't bet all your cash at once so to speak.
Welcome the opportunity with open arms, but just keep your options open so to speak, it's a chance, but it may not be a good one. |
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| Genki |
hey htis just occurred to me... a few posts ago.. i mentioned that DG and masterV should hook up! and now DG is asking abt LD relationships... hmmmm interesting <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
hehe j/k <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
hehe.. i found that coincidential too =P
the difference would be i've known this guy for over 3 years now..
i don't know.. it used to seem credible at one point but now, it seems impractical and so.. story-like. i thought about that too.. how he'd move and realize there were so many new ppl and stuff.. and more stuff..
so overall, we don't think it'll happen, right?
okay.. just making sure.. it's been bugging me for a while and i wasn't sure i made the right decision to detach myself from the situation
it's just the fully getting over him that's gonna make it difficult.. *sighs*
but i'm doing good, nonetheless =}
thanx guys ^-^ (and scint) <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| masterv |
| i really do wonder how i get pulled into all this.... <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| Genki |
quote:
Originally posted by -masterv
i really do wonder how i get pulled into all this.... <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
dont u know? AN revolves around u <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| masterv |
| hmmm...now THAT'S freaky.... <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
errr.. hahahahaha
i think i saw genki's comment drip with sarcasm <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| Genki |
quote:
Originally posted by -DrunkenGoddess
errr.. hahahahaha
i think i saw genki's comment drip with sarcasm _<!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
what do u mean dg?! <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
hahaha.. aww, c'mon genki =P
we know you don't really think that highly of masterv <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
| Let me tell you, LD relationships suck....even if you're with the greatest bf/gf who's totally trust worthy, etc etc....everything u want them to be.....If its not one thing, its another.....i.e, you wanna see them but u cant....u wanna go out with them, but u cant.... ..super tough....but sometimes you gotta do it....oh well,,,im still in the same boat. <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--> Blasting through groat road helps though <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
| Everyone's probably wondering why im posting so much, huh? Well im sick and cant go out <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--> |
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| Markis |
| I think everyone's happy you're posting so much! |
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| s2oooR |
....Well, start posting more, people! Cant u see im bored?!
Anyways, back on topic.....has anyone had a LD relationship that HAS worked???
DG, u said u knew the guy for like 3 years? Does that mean, you've known him LD for three years or, you've been "going out" for three years LD? Damn, thats a long time if u ask me. |
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| Bimmer |
Well I'm in a LD relationship right now, seems to be working, but like you said, it's definitely not the easiest thing. I think it's easier now compared to years ago before there was the interenet and stuff. At least we can see eachother through video chat etc.
As for how long it goes, well I have no idea, I'll let you know when it's over though. haha |
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| s2oooR |
Well great, me and you both.
How long have u known her for? And, how often do u see each other? Does she live far? |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
umm.. i'm actually in a new relationship =} hahaha..
ummmmmmm.. the guy's in the suburbs.. 30 mins away? not bad, right? ^-^
the LD was for someone totally different.. never dated him.. i dunno.. LD doesn't appeal to me.. a relationship must satisfy all dimensions and physically.. it's pure FRUSTRATION =P
so yea.. me not dealing with long distance really.. like.. this guy i'm seeing now isn't next door and i don't think he's in a busable area, but definitely not outta reach =}
GOOD LUCK all you LD ppl!! |
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| s2oooR |
DG, so how often do you see him? And how did you two meet? Have u guys been going out for long? How are things going with you two? Sorry for all the questions....im still bored, as u can tell
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