| elva |
| Generally, will you think girls are "shallow" if they chase after you? what do u say? |
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| Bimmer |
I don't think you'll get any guy who thinks a girl is shallow if they chase after you. I really don't understand why it's so sterotyped that it has to be the guy who does the "chasing"
Let me ask you girls this, have you ever liked a guy but never got together because you felt it wasn't your place to "chase" after him? |
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| elva |
I talked with one nice guy back and forth before and fell for him. Sometimes, couldn't help showing love to him with some "shallow" words. Maybe he just found this girl was just too "shallow" , even activly chase him, then he stop communicating with me, and never write back when i sent him email.
So I'm wondering if boys would think so. Anyway, tradition is so deeply rooted in ppl's mind that boys should chase first, and girls do so will be regarded as "thin-skinned" or "shallow" ..*sign*... Life is so unfair.. Girls even don't have the right to get love! |
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| 2000silverimpreza |
| i don't think so. if you like someone you go for it right? you can usually tell if the other person has any intrest in you after a few phone calls, e-mails,...etc. |
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| elva |
but that depends on how much he trust you..Again, trust is just too important.
Now i guess i just haven't gotten trust from him. A great relationship needs two sides' commitment..You say Tinman?? |
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| Bimmer |
Yes Trust is very important, but if he can't trust you now, how can he trust you in the future.
To be honest I think you did the right thing, it just sounds like he wasn't interested. Unfortunately that's another bad sideeffect of this whole situation. Because guys are not used to being asked out by a girl, this results in guys not knowing how to reject someone either. I think we are all aware of how horrible guys are at breaking up already <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
You bring up a great point Elva, I used to think it was such a horrible thing being a guy and always expected to be the one to ask a girl out. But after thinking about it more, I'd much rather be the one to ask someone out than to have to sit around and wait to be asked out. I guess that's where you have to take the bull by the horns and break tradition. Besides it's the year 2002.. be a trend setter <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
| Its a tough call....u sound like your the type that puts it on the line all the time once you've decided u like that person, huh? Which isnt always a bad thing.....just look at it as his loss, not yours <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| elva |
Well, one thing now quite clear is that:Boys don't want to be asked out by girls, even they do like this girl, but they would rather chase girls first, in other words, they would rather traditional girls with gentle manner, nice presentation, eastern looking etc.. right?
I did think that it's already 2002, and ppl would follow the trend, to be more open like westerners.. However I WAS WRONG.... No matter how much long you've stayed in western countries, no matter how many western ppl you've dealed with, no matter how far you are away from your eastern mother country, you will NEVER remove your root deeply in your mind, that is You are traditional person, you are eastern..
Trend is trend. But it's up to you if you chose western wild open style or keep holding traditional style..
Like the boy i like, he's from eastern country and move to western country at very early age.. I though he has been a totally in western style and been open but no.. he's not....
Since now i have tasted the bitter thing, here i just want to share my opinion with all of you that girls shouldn't be too open, too wild, too western, remember that where you are originally from, that you have your own tradition that nobody could change!
They say, time can change anything everything. I don't think so.. Even 10 years later, 20 years later, nothing could change that your origial location and your TRADITION!!
Time heals?? No, never heals my broken heart.:( I feel so sad.. and i cry every night.. But who knows? Girls usually couldn't drag themselves out from the situation even for a loooooooooog time.. but boys could..They usually move into next quickly!
Let me ask you boys, is it really that easy for boys to forget girls??
Sad,
Elva
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| s2oooR |
I think what u said was wrong. It all depends on the particular guy. I think some guys prefer that the girl does the chasing. Those guys are probably the ones that are more shy. Like me, for example...lol. I dont think I'd mind if a girl did the chasing. Not to say that I've never chased, but u know what im saying <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
Dont worry, lotsa fishies in the sea.....how old are u? Im sure your still young enough that there'll be tonne's of guys still available and wouldnt mind being chased <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->
....Again, for your question on guys easily forgetting about girls?....It all depends, again. It depends on lots of things...Sometimes it could another girl that makes him forget or a bunch of girls or his friends, etc etc....cuold be a number of different htings. |
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| Genki |
i dont think there is any problem wiht a girl chasing a guy, if the guy is interested why wouldnt he go for it!? Maybe this particular guy just wanted to be friends and just wasnt intereseted in a "furhter" relationship.
EAsy for guys to forget girls? I dont think its easy to totally forget.. partially yes and even thats not totally easy.... |
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