| what makes a relationship work? - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| 2000silverimpreza |
| if you sort of like someone but you don't know if you there is a relationship there or not. is it worth it to give it a try? also what makes a relationship work? |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -2000silverimpreza
also what makes a relationship work?
GOOD COMMUNICATION |
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| 2000silverimpreza |
| i feel stupid now <!--emo&:crazy:--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/crazy.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':crazy:'><!--endemo--> |
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| Bimmer |
| He's right though, good communication is key to making a relationship work. And go ahead and give the relationship a try, you'll never know what could have been unless you try. Good luck bud. |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Take a chance, what have you got to lose?, not much.
What have you to gain?, a great relationship.
Think about that.
And as Reflux says, Good Communication, Good Communication, Good Communication, Good Communication!.
Throw in lots of understanding and compromise and you have a good base to go from <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -BlueTurboEGG
understanding and compromise
being an understanding person is a good thing
being able to compromise is also a good thing, but compromising TOO much is a bad thing (eg. bending over backwards)
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| s2oooR |
Well here's one for you...
Me and my gf talk tonne's....we talk about everything and when we fight, we really get whatever it is off our chest. GREAT communication! But, why does it feel like I have to watch what I say now? |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -s2oooR
Well here's one for you...
Me and my gf talk tonne's....we talk about everything and when we fight, we really get whatever it is off our chest. _GREAT communication! _But, why does it feel like I have to watch what I say now?
your communication lines are wide open & free flowing......but it's too turbulent if you have to "watch what you're saying"
talkin WELL to a girl is like an art....gotta know what to ask, when to ask & how to ask it (also, replace "ask" with "say")
example:
you have something on your chest, it's been buggin u for a long time.
What you DO:
"Hon...can i ask/tell you something? _Remember that time we did this? And that happened? ...it's been on my mind for a while...and well....why did it happen?"
What you DON'T do:
"Hon...what on earth did you mean when that happened?<!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo-->? _I just dont get it, I was doing this, I was doing that and in return, I get this!!!"
yes, those r two extremes but i used them to make a point <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo-->
it's a really good thing that u 2 can talk freely & openly, now u jus gotta make it come out smoothly (be the gentle & caring bf that your gf loves)
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| GirlRacer P1 |
When did Terryshroom get all mature on us?? wow!!
Anyways, as Terry put it, communication, and understanding. There should be some crompromise, and you should always be "friends" with your signifigant other. I know you are thinking, well, duh! but there are a lot of people that seem to stop being friends when they become lovers. You are still friends with the person, but it is just different, if anyone knows what I mean by that. |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -GirlRacer P1
When did Terryshroom get all mature on us??
but there are a lot of people that seem to stop being friends when they become lovers. You are still friends with the person, but it is just different, if anyone knows what I mean by that.
1) hahahaha very funny Crystal <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
2) i totally know wat ur talkin about...once u get together with someone, the relationship changes
it becomes difficult to just have some plain old "fun" with the person
i actually have to work on that a little myself.....*sigh* |
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| s2oooR |
Those are some pretty good points....I have to ask u guys something later on...cant now though.....Im about to take off and enjoy the weather <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
I'll post later though <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -s2oooR
Im about to take off and enjoy the weather <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
wish "I" could do that...:(
dumb final |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
R: Ooohhhh... am I seeing a MSN chat??
Terryshroom: They'll be over soon.... |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by -GirlRacer P1
R: Ooohhhh... am I seeing a MSN chat??
Huh? What are u seeing?
...btw, did u find out how much those mags were? <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by -GirlRacer P1
R: Ooohhhh... am I seeing a MSN chat??
ohhhhhhhhhh....kk, i get it!
Yeah GR....quite possibly! I dont know if I should post it on here or just have us talk about it on MSN.....im sure anyone could join in....LOL....REFLUX?...LOL....mr. expert!? Well I guess I could post it here? |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -s2oooR
....LOL....REFLUX?...LOL....mr. expert!? _Well I guess I could post it here?
?? _ <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> _ ??
i'm assumin it's more women problems......so Rommel...first it's your gf..now problems with Crystal??
sh*t man...ur jus gettin it up the ass these days huh??
hahahaha <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo-->
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| Never have problems with Rommel!! Its all good. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
Yes, I have woman problems....why just last saturday night I got my ass grabbed a few times...wish I knew who did it the third time <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--> LOL. So PLEASE....keep your hands to yourself! <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo-->
Anyways, a few things happend that night at the club with a few girls and of course....ME, trying to be communicative, I told Maria about it....i.e, what the girls said to me and the whole ass grabbing thing..blah blah blah....im keeping the communication channels open, like u guys said, right? Anyways....she was NOT impressed! I didnt ASK for my ass to be grabbed, and I didnt ask to be told all that stuff!! Like I mean, Its not MY fault girls like to flirt with me, right? LOLOLOL.....Who knows why they were flirting? It must be the one day I actually looked good....either that or they were all drunk....I think we'd rather believe the latter <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
Long story short....we got into a big fight a few days later....Honestly, I feel like she was LOOKING for stuff to get mad at me for!....Oh well.....we had it out a couple of nights ago and the very next day (yesterday) we didnt even talk about it and things were almost back to normal.....weird stuff but Im happy <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| As lng as you are happy Rommel.... There are just some things girls get pissed about... that is such thing as too honest. hehehee... you'll never be able to win. |
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| s2oooR |
| so u think im too honest???...well that kinda suckssss....TOO HONEST, huh? LOL.....I always thought that was a GOOD thing....lol....maybe I should just keep my mouth shut and keep those things away from her? |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| I don't know about that... but be more careful when you tell her, or else she is bound to think that you are trying to make her jealous, or show off. |
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| s2oooR |
So how would you say it then? Either way u say it, I dont think it matters....she's still gonna think the same thing.... <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo-->
i.e how do u say u just got your ass grabbed a few times at the bar?
or, a few girls told u your a hot commodity and basically wanna take u home?...LOL ...even if it IS just flirting?...u know?
lets see how u squirm your way out of telling her that?! I had enough balls to tell her that! Thank u very much! <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
it's called "emotional infidelity"
girls CANNOT take it (just as how guys can't take PHYSICAL infidelity)
Crystal is right, IF you talk about how girls check you out/want you, your gf will think you are trying to make her jealous or that u r thinking/taking notice of those girls (which she does not want)
if your ass is grabbed, or if a girl tells you she wants you...do not tell your gf
don't be like: "Hey Hun!! guess wat happened to ME last nite!??!?"
i'm sure YOU wouldn't be impressed if she went:
"Hey Rommel, last night...all these guys were looking at my chest, 4 guys started rubbing my ass and one wanted to grind with me!! isn't that funny!??!?!"
get my drift?
women want their man to be true & loyal to them, so unless your woman asks you OR starts the topic of "flirting/being flirted with by strangers"......you keep your damn mouth shut
the reason why your gf was cool with you a few days later is because she had some time to cool down, think it over & say to herself: "Oh i shouldn't have over-reacted, he was just being honest, i know he didn't do it to make me jealous or anything like that"
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Just put yourself in her position, think about what you did/will do & think about how YOU would feel if she did the same thing to you.
"Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you" |
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| s2oooR |
Ok, I got it! I'll just keep my mouth shut next time <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> (unless asked, of course!<!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->
...but that doesnt always work either.....Ive tried that and she goes to me...."how come u dont tell me anything anymore? blah blah blah...."
....and if u keep your mouth shut and she finds out later through other means....doesnt that make u look even worse? She may wonder, "why the hell didnt he tell me? is he trying to keep stuff from me?"....that'll only open a new can of worms, if u ask meeeee <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo-->
If there is a way around those two scenerio's...please tell me! I cant seem to find the happy medium!
so "emotional infidelity" huh?....I never thought about that for a second!.....I just thought it was "female insecurities!"...lol
anyways, we need a girl's take on this......although I think Reflux hit it right on the nose! AGAIN!....u must get laid lots, huh? <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| 2000silverimpreza |
| wow. how did this thread get so long. s2oooR you gotta ask yourself if you really want to be in a serious relationship......... |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -s2oooR
although I think Reflux hit it right on the nose! AGAIN!....u must get laid lots, huh? <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
all i have to say to that comment is:
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| so that would be a no Terry?? haha. Its all good.... as long as you are happy. |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by -GirlRacer P1
so that would be a no Terry?? haha. _Its all good.... as long as you are happy.
hehehe yeah i'm happy (to say the least)
my Hon & I "get by" <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> |
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