| HUGE fight with gf! - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| s2oooR |
Id post the dialogue on here but i dont nkow how.....if u wanna take the time to read this fight .....let me know and i'll email it to you.
I dont know if im right or wrong on this one....it'll prob. be amusing to you guys but some objective veiws pleaseeee. Well its not a matter of right and wrong ...ugh!....just tell me what u think, k guys/gals?
a girls point of view would be nicer though....just cuz i have no clue whats completley going thrugh her mind.....its like she has selective hearing/reading?! |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| PM me bro, Guys speak a different language entirely... Let me try to help. |
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| Genki |
PM me too.
Turbo is right.. girls and guys think/spk totally different.
They are almost alien like <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> j/k |
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| REFLUX |
gimme a copy too
where's scint/dg/crystal & the other AN chix wen u need'm?<!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo-->
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| s2oooR |
Ok guys.....do u all have your emails handy in your profiles?....I'll send away to the ones that have their emails available...
You knwo what guys? Your totally right about that "different language" thing. I dont understand completely what she's saying. I think I brought up some good pts during our argument but it seems like she doesnt think so.....heck i even admitted I was wrong!...LOL....so i dont get it...
Anyways....I'll start pm-ing u guys and hopefully the girls can give us their point of view on the whole thing too? Who knows, maybe I AM an insensative A-Hole...LOL. |
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| s2oooR |
Ok, I sent Andy and Genki an email....reflux, I couldnt send it to you cuz your email isnt available or I coudlnt find it....you'll have to PM me your email or post it on here...
Thanks guys! |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
S2000R: e-mail me a copy.
<a href="mailto:girlracer_p1@hotmail.com">girlracer_p1@hotmail.com</a> |
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| s2oooR |
| Thanks for replying GR.....I just sent u a copy <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| Scintillater |
| wow! you need to e-mail it? Can't even just messenger the thing? scintillater@hotmail.com |
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| REFLUX |
s2000r:
<a href="mailto:terrylui@hotmail.com">terrylui@hotmail.com</a> |
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| s2oooR |
alright Scint, Reflux.....I just sent u two a copy too <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
...the rest of u better email me back or post what u think!...LOL.... |
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| REFLUX |
ok, because i noticed your chat was 27 pages, i read it pretty quick....BUT i DID read it ALL.
so here goes my thoughts:
1) You BOTH weren't listening to each other
2) Trying to have a meaningful convo over the internet DOES NOT WORK. Especially over a death. CALL HER.
Don't get her to call you, you have to call HER.
3) Your gf was in a terrible mood, her emotions were high strung and the ONLY thing she was looking for was someone to sit there and listen. BUT, because YOU did not know what was going on and because she was in such a sensitive state....the two combined together, exploded.
I'm sure for those who read the entire thing, that we all have a good idea of what went on, so I won't bother summarizing the problem.
Here are some solutions that I propose:
A) CALL HER. Go out, buy $40 worth of long distance cards (approx. 2000 minutes) and use them.
B) It is quite obvious that your communication channels are clogged, so you have to open them up and talk more freely with one another. If your gf wants you to talk more about yourself, if she wants you to tell her about your day....then go ahead & do that. Even if it's about some stupid red civic with an H22A dropped into it...just tell her about it. By doing that, it will show her that you still have an interest in her. In a way, it is like leading by example. If you talk about yourself, she will (hopefully) talk about HERself as well.
C) WHEN, (not IF) but WHEN you call her...this is what "I" would do:
--> Call her, when she picks up tell her it's you and she WILL have some kind of reaction. Tell her "Hunny...look, I apologize for what happened over MSN. I was tired, impatient & had a long day that day."
--> If her reaction is "Yeah, ok whatever you say. Uh huh..." DO NOT GET OFFENDED. You have done all you can do to make amends. Just shrug it off & go for the "dead aunt" issue.
Ask her: "Well...how is the rest of your family taking the death of your aunt? Is anyone flying to Italy for the funeral? How is your mother/father taking it?" (mother/father, whoever's sister the aunt was)
SHOW HER THAT YOU CARE.
Your gf is obviously VERY feminin and she WILL pick up on the "hidden" meaning of you asking about her family situation. She will think "Oh...he actually wants to know what is happening. Maybe he DOES care?"
Try to get her to talk about it, because DEEP DOWN she REALLY wants to, but she will ONLY talk about it if there is someone WILLING to listen to it (and as she said in the chat, she wanted YOU to be the listener)
HOPEFULLY, after she talks about her aunt, she will be in a better mood.
About the lies...you should stop apologizing for them because when you apologize for something small....it only makes it seem bigger than it really is.
Her train of thought goes: "He's apologizing for a stupid thing like THAT??? WHY??? It must NOT be something small/stupid if he has to apologize for it!!!"
You two had a pretty heated argument over these SMALL lies, and if SHE doesn't bring them up...I wouldnt' recommend you bringing them back up.
This is because, if SHE has forgotten/moved on, then you should be happy with that.
I don't know your situation & how often lies come up, but best thing to do with lies/lying is....NOT to.
And if you think that an email/picture/whatever is going to upset her, AVOID THE TOPIC.
But avoid the topic subtly.
Example:
Maria: "Who sent you this picture of herself?"
Rommel: "Oh, her name's Jenny, we've met before, blah blah blah" (give your gf some background on Jenny. If you don't, she may get suspicious/jealous, but if you tell her about Jenny, your relationship with her, who ELSE knows her, etc etc...she will be more at ease)
So Rommel...I hope this has helped (I know it's fucking long). If I've misunderstood anything, or missed something, tell me & I'll see what I can do!!!
Good luck bud!!!!! <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
Hey Rommel, check your e-mail.
I also agree with Terryshroom. Calling her is always good in situations like that.
Damn, I actually totally agree with Terryshroom..... weird. |
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| Scintillater |
| wow. it took me FOREVER to read that. I'd just have to say....she sounds like ME when I'm in a shitty mood, wanna take it out on someone, don't want to listen to my boyfriend, and just totally wail on him. Remember that she was having a shitty day, and give it a little time before you do anything again. But still, she shouldn't have attacked you like that, and you guys should refrain from using ICQ or whatever for serious conversations like that because typing can be SOOOO misinterpreted. My bf is amazing at getting me to feel crappy when I try to make him feel bad for something he didn't do wrong. Hahah. girls do that. Whether or not they admit it, we ALL do. some guys do too. So...I don't think either of you guys did anything wrong, just the reactions and communication wasn't the best form at that moment. But...if you want any more help....umm...just message. |
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| Scintillater |
| hey...and i just read what Reflux said...and yeah...i agree with him. |
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| s2oooR |
OMG, thank you, you guyssssss!!!! (girls too, u know what i mean!<!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->.....I cant believe how helpful you all have been! So amazing!
Reflux, thank you for that long analysisssss! I swear, you get in touch with your feminine side alittle too much sometimes...LOL....Thats like so detailed! Just kidding, I really appreciate that.....
Since everyone is agreeing with Reflux, I think your righ on the money when u talk about her feelings (u too, GR <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->)....and let me say thats some good advice on how to talk to her when I call <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> I think alot of the time I take it too personally when she replies like that "Yeah, ok whatever you say. Uh huh..." ...(she totally does that, btw) <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->.....I'll try to look past it next time and get down to whats really important.
As far as the lying....I hardly EVER lie to her....the only reason I decided to lie to her was because she didnt believe me in the first place(when I WAS telling the truth) so I decided to make it more believable?...i know thats such a poor excuse but i wasnt thinking at the time. Like i mean, what do u do when she doesnt believe u when your telling the truth?! GR, I think u have had some experience in this case?
I have to say that sometimes, she can be closed minded, in that once she makes her decision on something, thats it.....her mind is pretty much made up and there's no changing it. Thats a tough thing to deal with when she's like that or when ANY girl is like that!
Scint., I totally know what your saying.....She wails on me when she has a bad day too....its almost as if IIII get blamed for what happened! I dont like it but I know its one of our jobs to be that guy for them.....I know she appreciates it as should most girls, when a guy takes it in the shoulder for them.....she told me that night that "....now its like I have no one to talk to..."......im sure she has her girls to lean on but I think she tells me alot more personal personal stuff than she does with her girls, which says alot, i think <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
Well with all that said, I do have some good news! We made up yesterday! It was like a huge 180 degree turnaround....we were listening to each other....we understood why each other was feeling the way we were....it was so good....and I cant believe how excited I was to talk to her today <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> Ugh! im in <!--emo&:inlove:--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/inlove.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':inlove:'><!--endemo-->
BTW, when we made up.......it wasnt over the phone....lol....I think we're planning on seeing each other sometime this month so it should be good <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> Im so excitedddddd....I feel like a girl when im this excited.....girls? wanna scream with me?...LOLOLOLOL....jk! |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
EEEEE!!! YAY!!!!
As for the lying... yea... I know that feeling all too well. They thik you are lying when you are being honest. it sucks, but it is their own insecurities instead of you. |
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| s2oooR |
GR, Yeah...i knew u knew what i was talking about! And honestly, I WAS telling her the truth..she just didnt believe me....just cuz it WAS kinda unbelievable.
So what do u do when that happens? Do u just let them believe your lying to them? I went the another route by making up a lie so it IS more believable....but i dont know...what would u guys do? |
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| masterv |
Reflux here @ MasterV's:
Sometimes the truth is stranger than fiction...and if my gf didn't believe the truth...I would FUCKING PERSIST at it until she believed.
I don't believe in lying to people who are close to me..so why would I? Why would I at ALL???
If it means taking some huge as mofo detour & calling ppl up to call HER to explain to her (as proof/witnesses) then so be it.
When it comes to lies....don't do it.
What goes around comes around.
S2000R: your welcome!! hehe, really glad i could help & i'm very happy for you & your gf (that you two made up)
I have my own gf & as with every relationship...there WILL be problems...was going over some rough roads when I typed you that explanation...so i guess i was more "in touch" with the "girly side" of Terry
ahhahahhaha
but just like your relationship, my gf & i did some talkin & everything seems fine now!!!!
HAPPY HAPPY!!! hahahaha
anyways, i'm outa here.
Take it easy bud, & thnx to Crystal & Scint for the backup <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
I understand not to lie about anything but come on now.....the lie was about some email and who sent it!....Its like a lie that doesnt really do any harm....u know what i mean?....its like saying.....I went pee today but I really didnt go pee?....its like that kind of lie.....I didnt think it would come to THAT though, u know? lol
...Anyways.....im outta here guys.....Im already late!....I took the car to shoppers to get some floss and I got stopped by a few ppl that it took me 30min to get out of there!....anyways....im gone ...see ya guys...have fun tonight! |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| Geez, I thought your email was spam... Sorry Rommel :/ |
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| s2oooR |
How did u think it was Spam?! LOL....it wasnt like a forward or ummm ...."Huge fight with gf!"....what was I trying to sell you?!...LOLOLOL <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
Well, everything worked out well so no worries....
If you happen to pull up to a black S sometime.....be sure to let me win! I think I was reading somewhere that you had some crazy sh*t in your car? Anyways, u owe me <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| hey Rommel, with all the help I was giving you, when do I get to see the S2K? |
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| s2oooR |
| mmmmmm I guess I could send it to your email?....is that what u meant?... LOLOLOL.....you could see it whenever u want.....I got ditched tonight by my friends cuz they were "tired"....lol....so i guess u could've seen it tonight? |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| come by the shop sometime... I am here every day but sundays. |
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| s2oooR |
| Well, if you live on the northside, me and Seks might meet up later at BP's at Namaio?.....u know..just to grab somethign to eat....lately Ive been so hungry...cant stop eating!..LOL....and im still a stick!...lol....anyways....I could always have someone to eat with...I dont think Calvin'll wanna eat...LOL |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Well, it started out like spam so I skipped over it "Tell me what you think, here is our conversation last night"
Sorry... Well, it looks like you got some great advice here though.
I owe you , yeah, yeah, yeah... I'l llet you win... maybe <!--emo&:rolleyes:--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/rolleyes.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':rolleyes:'><!--endemo-->
I live on the north, maybe we should do a northside hook-up?... I'm thinking about dropping by that RSX meet on the 15 to 16th <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| s2oooR |
I might drop by there too.....where is it again and what time?.....there's prob. gonna be a tonne of ppl there, i bet!
Oh that post above yours....yeah....that was for everybody on the northside....I was gonna just go by BP's with a buddy of mine just to grab something to eat......and since GR wanted to see my car,,,,,I thought she'd might wanna pop by and say hi or grab somethign to eat with me.....but yeah....next time I shuold post or something?.....go for a little meet, I guess?...LOL.....im really just going for the food...LOL....im still eating like crazy..... |
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