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| dance_of_curse |
hmmm sooo my girlfriend broke up with me today and it fucking sucks.... she met some one at work...or some shit...but she forgot to tell me before...and now shes going to florida for a week...
ok the help i need is umm shes like really confused and shit right now and doesnt know if she really wants to break it off with me or something...so...does anyone think i have a chance at getting back together..or is it worth it...meh...anyhoo...yeah i just needed to tell people...so yeah lol...your the people..:bthumbup: |
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| s2oooR |
ok so she broke up with you today but is confused and doesnt know if she really wants to break it off with you? That makes no sense to me..... Did she break it off or not? :dunno:
I feel for ya man... I know chicks that get easily distracted by other guys, etc etc... and if they pay her any attention... she pretty much gets confused lol..... its really a funny thing to see sometimes.....
Sounds like you still like her.... I guess if u still do... try and get her back and if it doesnt work... well... i guess you have your answer? |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah well...its so effed...cause shes all like i still love you and stuff...it mighta been cause i hadnt seen her in liek three weeks she lives downtown and i live in millwoods...she like lived with her friends and then she was in sherwood park for like a week cause she was moving intoher own place and fuck i dunno....meh...gotta get drunk ill think more straight:p |
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| TrevorK |
Are you both in high school?
If so - move on. It's harsh, but in reality most high school relationships don't last until marraige.
You've already told us that she's immature - if she's telling you she met someone at work, but still wants to go out with you (Or possibly go out with you)? And the two of you go three weeks without seeing each other?
Sorry - it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship any way you look at it. Take a break - if it's truly what was meant to be, the two of you will work it out in the future and be together.
Stay away - don't play these games with girls, you never win. |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
she met some one at work...or some shit...but she forgot to tell me before...and now shes going to florida for a week...
This says to me that she's a cheater, a liar and doesn't see you as an important person in her life.
I mean come on, "I forgot to tell you that I found someone else."
That's like saying you forgot to tell your supposed boyfriend that you lost a leg. :rolleyes:
Lame excuse.
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
ok the help i need is umm shes like really confused and shit right now and doesnt know if she really wants to break it off with me or something...
This says to me that even IF you get back together, this "confusion" will end up with you being cheated on again.
It also says she may just be "testing the waters" with this new guy, and if it doesn't work with him...you're the backup boyfriend.
If she can go far enough to find a "replacement"...she KNOWs whether or not she want to be with you.
IMO, the farthest you can go with this girl right now is to take a break.
Just like TrevorK said, take this time apart as a blessing and see how things go.
I wouldn't make any specific effort to go out & meet other women (rebounds usually don't work out well unless you're desperate), just live your life and see how it is without your ex.
Figure out if she is really worth this kind of hassle, are you better off with or without her, etc.
It's difficult to do but try to take the emotion out of it.
One thing that may help is make a Pro/Con list and be HONEST about it.
You want to build a list of "quantity" not a list of "quality"
(Not saying that quality doesn't matter, just for this Pro/Con list...leave it out)
That way you won't be thinking: "Oh but when we're together it's like heaven, I'm gonna have to give that 100 points"
Dig? |
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| clapbak |
Fuck it,
I've learnt that if she breaks up with you once, it will happen again.. Sounds like a real gong show going on..
As my buddies / freinds / family told me when i broke up with my girlfreind..(2 1/2 years ago)
Many Fish In the Sea!
Theres no point of really trying to please someone in a relationship, she should love you no matter how you are.. Unconditionally... Obviously this inst the case since she broke it off with you sounds like she isnt serious.. Especally the way she did it.. I wouldnt even waste your time with her at all, move on as hard as it maybe, and no matter what she says.. (shes prolly going to try playing tricks, "i love you" blah blah, i want you back etc.. Dont fall for it, You will be going through this again in a few months..
Excallty what Re Said.. "It also says she may just be "testing the waters" with this new guy, and if it doesn't work with him...you're the backup boyfriend." - Agree'ed.. She's prob scared that maybe stuff wont work out this guy.. this is why shes telling yo she loves u still.. BS.. Your second meat.. Fuck that..
Also.. Once a cheater.. always a cheater..
Fuck her.. goto the bar.. n bang some pussy haha |
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| s2oooR |
| but then again, if she's really hot u know u have to :hitit: one more time... u know, like the Britney Spears song ;) :lol: |
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| Freddy |
what ive always thought was, is breaking up and then getting back together really worth it?
and she cheated :thumbsdow |
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| dance_of_curse |
| im "in" high school well susposta be but i dropped out cause i hate the kids tehre and im getting my diploma the ged way...and shes doing that too... im 16 and shes 17...ive been thinking about it alot so far and i still love her and stuff but...its true like you all said....once a cheater allways a cheater...and i even told her this when we were first going out...if she did cheat on me ever she wont get any second chances...one shot is all...i asked her if it was officaly over last night and she said yes..so i guess fuck her...she still wants to be friends but i told her it would be really hard to be...alas she was my second girl friend...i guess im not like most guys and want a commited relationship thats why i havnt dated before and i though itd be different this time but it wasnt...so i guess my next girlfriend will be laurel...a nissan laurel that is...:D .....games...suck major ass...and i cant see myself putting up with anymore...all i have to say is that i hope hes half the man i was...plus i bet he will cheat on her this week she went to florida and their relationship is only a week old...:dunno: at least this summer wont be wasted like last cause i had a gf...:p i dont know i dont really get mad alot...or like...shit im mainly docile...and emotionless...i mean like...i didnt do anything bad or wrong the worst would be like the three weeks we didnt see each other but we did talk on the phone....now the real question is should we still remain friends or i say fuck you and leave it like that...:drama: |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
now the real question is should we still remain friends or i say fuck you and leave it like that...:drama:
Up to you man.
Friends with benefits?
Might be better not to, what if she pulls some bullshit like "I'm pregnant" or "You gave me crabs"??? |
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| dance_of_curse |
| lol..well...yeah its a hard decision...cause im friend with my last gf...but she didnt cheat on me...i dunno ill have to see in a week when she gets back..and then ill know if she is like...not confused anymore or w/e...but...my last words....are...girls are evil..:thefinger |
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| Soulfly |
GO with what Clapbak Said... When you have to long relationship type deal.. and you break up.. Yes it's VERY tough! but Get used to it.. and You WILL Find another!!
"Many Fish In the Sea!"
What I did with my ex:
She cheated on me, she told me... I went to her house.. gave her ONE good F**k... then .. after I left.... I told her to f**k off.. and.. She got the message. :bthumbup:
But.. That's only what I did..
and By the way.. Used a jimmy when I did her.. :P :lol:
You only live once... and your car would be WAY more Loyal then she would anyway!!! BAAAHAHAHHA! :bowdown: |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yes i know lol... car would be funner though....but getting layed was fun...meh... i think ill live i mean i allready feel better...cheaters dont get sympthy...:asshole: 's |
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| RSN CRX |
| Sorry to hear about that dude. I know how that feels and in my case she came crawling back....but I realized that I didn't need her. You are gonna be upset for a little while and think how she made you happy...but then you are gonna realize all the negatives and how they overpower everything that was good. And who says you can't have fun and get laid at the same time http://forums.780tuners.com/showthr...;threadid=26915 :bthumbup: |
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| POX |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
now the real question is should we still remain friends or i say fuck you and leave it like that...:drama:
if her friends are hot then yes |
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| DomesticDrifter |
heres my relationship advice. you're what 17? this girlfriend dosen't matter at all, the worst thing you can do is get in a long term relationship when you're in highschool. trust me i did. next thing you know you're 19 realize you shouldn't have dated her for so long, then you go nuts and you realize the dating game is so much better and you can get ass from 3 or 4 different girls at the same time and it never gets boaring.
and if she left you for another guy, and is now going to flordia with him she isn't worth it. fuck her, find someone hotter to date that way when she sees you two together she gets jealous. or better yet just fuck her best friend... thats what worked for me ahhaaha:bthumbup: |
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| dance_of_curse |
| shes not gong to flordia with him its with her family.. and her friends arnt that hot...plus theyre liek way older then me so..lol..its like one of the things that if theres a hot girl and she has fat friends...:lol: plus she lives kinda downt town...so im not waisting anymore time on the bus and shit...its so much easier to get over some one if they cheated on you...meh...:beer: |
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| Soulfly |
Thatt'a Boy.. You coulda found the reason on your own.. But I think.. You just wanted some other opinions about it.. Correct? :bthumbup:
You did good though! :D |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah pretty much kinda find out what other people did/would do...im not that experianced in the whole relationship world so jusst needed some pointers:bthumbup: and kinda talk about it..lol..yeah well thanks everyone who replied:beer: |
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| Soulfly |
| we are here For ya Bud! :bthumbup: |
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| Scintillater |
| move on. plenty of fish in the sea. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah true...im liek pretty much over her now but i still have some memories of fun shit....BUT...meh...theres allways drunkenness for that stuff...:bthumbup: im still kinda torn that if i should still be her friend or not...shes gunna call me when she gets back next saturday so i think ill know by then:drama: |
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| DomesticDrifter |
| friends thing never works unless you had a friendship relationship before you started dating. i dated a girl for 2 years, broke up, tryed the friends thing but its just to hard. there is to many feelings involved. i saw her every day and now we don't even talk. i'm guessing your relationship wasn't that long so it may work. good luck with whatever you decide to do. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah i was friends with her for like 6 months before we got together so...yeah one thing is i maylike be her friend again but ill never be able to trust her...:dunno: |
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| ae1969 |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
yeah i was friends with her for like 6 months before we got together so...yeah one thing is i maylike be her friend again but ill never be able to trust her...:dunno:
Don't waste your time.............. stay friends (with benefits) you will run into her 3-4 years later at a bar and you will get to have some 'For old times sake' sex.........with her........and hopefully one of her friends.......... :D
The point of dating at the age that you are at is to date as many people as possible............ Fall in love, get dumped, meet someone else, cheat on a girlfriend, get caught, say it wasn't you.................etc
These are the experiences we must all go through.
LIve Life.............
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by ae1969
The point of dating at the age that you are at is to date as many people as possible............ Fall in love, get dumped, meet someone else, cheat on a girlfriend, get caught, say it wasn't you.................etc
:bthumbup:
its halarious cuz thats the exact order it always happens in (get dumped or you dump her) |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
| Doesn't it hurt just to know she's "confused"; The question is, do you really want to be with a girl who isn't sure if she wants to be with you or someone else. You're 16.. There's your answer.. You have many many manyyyyy more years ahead of you, which will include many new chicks. Happy fishing ;) |
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| chickendreamer |
| She's just not that into you. Let it go. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| i ont know about that one i was the first boyfriend that she =ever said i love you too...but i talked to my friend about this shiot and he was like if you remain friends make her put in teh effort to be my frined...i mean thats smart but w/e im over it allready....just the god damn shit that makes me mad is that she lied...fuck meh w/e shes gunna have to work to be my friend....oh and i dont think ill date for liek a year young girls are so fucked they dont know what they wants and play to many games so ill just wait...fuck em...:bthumbup: time to get a job and buy that god damn car i want..muhaha...:lol: |
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| clapbak |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
i ont know about that one i was the first boyfriend that she =ever said i love you too...but i talked to my friend about this shiot and he was like if you remain friends make her put in teh effort to be my frined...i mean thats smart but w/e im over it allready....just the god damn shit that makes me mad is that she lied...fuck meh w/e shes gunna have to work to be my friend....oh and i dont think ill date for liek a year young girls are so fucked they dont know what they wants and play to many games so ill just wait...fuck em...:bthumbup: time to get a job and buy that god damn car i want..muhaha...:lol:
Excally.. Take some time off, to be honest, its not worth dating till your like 19-20 .. Girls start to get alittle smarter then.. 15-16-17. they are dumb wh0res.. Get a job, Enjoy life, find a good hobby..
As far as staying freinds, i think it just makes shit harder.. All the girls iv broken up with.. are long gone.. Havnt talked to em in YEARRRRRRRRRRRRS.. lol.. makes things easier (moving on)
-trev |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by clapbak
Excally.. Take some time off, to be honest, its not worth dating till your like 19-20 .. Girls start to get alittle smarter then.. 15-16-17. they are dumb wh0res..
i know some girls 18-21... and they're not much smarter :blink: ... all depends, i guess. :dunno: |
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| dance_of_curse |
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Originally posted by clapbak
Excally.. Take some time off, to be honest, its not worth dating till your like 19-20 .. Girls start to get alittle smarter then.. 15-16-17. they are dumb wh0res.. Get a job, Enjoy life, find a good hobby..
As far as staying freinds, i think it just makes shit harder.. All the girls iv broken up with.. are long gone.. Havnt talked to em in YEARRRRRRRRRRRRS.. lol.. makes things easier (moving on)
-trev
yeah it does but....im not gunna put much effort to like...be friends ill make her do it cause idont care if we are or not...its her that wants to remain friends:dunno: |
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| clapbak |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
yeah it does but....im not gunna put much effort to like...be friends ill make her do it cause idont care if we are or not...its her that wants to remain friends:dunno:
And u shouldnt.. Big waste of time.. Question is.. Why? Why be freinds with her? So u can get some STD Pussy in a few months from now? I think not.. waste of time/effort, its dumb..
Only thing she needs is a Pimp Slap.. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| i know am sooo so so so sos...confused...ive choasen to remain friends with my ex and stuff...and like...the first day she got back from florida...she called me...and now tonight she did...shit is messed.. but alas i told her that we shall never go out again as like bf and gf...i gotta lay down rules...and it wont change cause my word is all i have..so yeah:confused: |
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| wubba_65 |
Just cut off all ties with this girl. Trust me. The only reason why girls in Highschool want to stay 'friends' after you break up is so they can still have some measure of control or get something else out of you.
She will ask you to do something, and even though you don't want to do it, she will pull the whole "But I thought you were my friend". Things like, I need a ride, or Can you help me move this big heavy box, or I need someone to vent to about my miserable skanky life.
It sounds to me like you could care less if you ever talk to this girl again beyond a polite social level ("oh hi, whats new?" at a party type of thing), and so if she asks why you don't want to be friends with her any more, just tell her straight up
"BECAUSE YOU DUMPED ME FOR SOMEONE ELSE ---> YOU HURT ME, AND NOW I AM DOING SOMETHING FOR ME!!"
Maybe she isn't doing it intentionally, maybe she feels bad about dumping you and she thinks she is making things better or less hurtful by staying your friend. But if she was really concerned with your feelings in the first place, she wouldn't have dumped you for someone she met at work right before she left on vacation.
my $0.02
And maybe this sounds harsh, but it is the truth. In some cases you can remain friends with your exes, but in Highschool you basically have to cut all ties for a little while. Nothing to say that you won't meet up at some point later in life and rekindle your friendship, but in my experience if you stay to close to the person immediately following the demise of your relationship, you still attach those emotions you had during the relationship to that person, and so you will find yourself feelings pangs of jealousy when you see her with another guy. And she will feel the same thing. Regardless of what she says about how she feels about you. A good indicator of this would be if she never approves of anyone that you go out with. Because deep down inside, she still wants you to worship her. She wants to be the best person that you have ever dated.
I am in a long term relationship, coming up on three years. I am not bitter towards women in case you get that impression, but I just feel that I need to put in my opinion.
GOOD LUCK!! |
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| dance_of_curse |
| you make a good point about that stuff....but alas...im not going to be alll ill do anythign you want and shit...she wants me to visit her in her new aparment and eveytime she asks...i tell her when hell freezes over...i dont really want to...well at least not yet...maybe in a month but i have given up on girls for now and am going to get a job and start working.....needs to get me a car so i can actually go to mets and shit in my own car now my friends geo:p yeah anyhoo thanks everyone who gave me advise...it really helped me with this bs i had to go through:beer: |
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| Nightstalker |
Women are fucking evil, its just the way it is. Personally I would say don't let it bother you. Hang with your buddies for a while. Women are not to be trusted in the least, and there will always be time for more. No need to let someone else fuck your life over by putting to much emotional caring into them. Trust me, its not worth it...
I guess I am bitter. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah i havnt hung out with anygirl for a long time ive been keeping my self busy by biking like everyday....but today i am so worn out i think im just gunna rest:( yeah i dont know if im going to visit her....i really dont want to but the next time i go downtown for a street ride i might...but that wont be for a long time:beer: |
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| Complexity |
| Almost the same thing is happening to me right now man. I feel for you because it is a really shitty spot to be in. Just keep yourself busy. That is what Ia m doing. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah ive been biking everyday and now im getting a tan and liek progressing but i fucked my knee up on last sunday i think and its so fucked that i fear it may soon fail...or break or something walking up the stairs has become a chore and that shit sucks cause im only 16 so yeah ill just wait till next weekend and if its still fucked im going to get it checked out...it did get better from teh first night when i couldnt even bend it but now its liek the weight i ut on it...im getting way off topic but meh:p girls are evil |
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| Markgase2000 |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
yeah ive been biking everyday and now im getting a tan and liek progressing but i fucked my knee up on last sunday i think and its so fucked that i fear it may soon fail...or break or something walking up the stairs has become a chore and that shit sucks cause im only 16 so yeah ill just wait till next weekend and if its still fucked im going to get it checked out...it did get better from teh first night when i couldnt even bend it but now its liek the weight i ut on it...im getting way off topic but meh:p girls are evil
If your knee is not better by next week we should amputate at the hip!
I know what you mean women can be evil and manipulate us they after all have the power of poonani on their sides. Your a young fella and if you are having gut turning feelings alot about girls then I have to inform that the way you feel is Normal and sometimes it takes more time than anybody can suggest to get over situations or bad relationships. There was a bunch of reason you were attracted to one another and sometimes that keeps you "IN" so to speak. Make the most of your life party have fun and wrap it up :) always treat them like a lady.
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| dance_of_curse |
yeah i guess but...still the bs they do isnt like "fun" and im just going to get some work and doo what is important fuck relationships PLUS i have a new gf...shes called teh atomic streak
shes nice....a great ride...doesnt hurt me...not alot have ridden her...all i have to do is ride her and keep her clean and she does anything...yes she does have gold teeth:bowdown: :beer: |
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| Nightstalker |
| You should talk to Blaine about the Tag and release program when it comes to women. ;) |
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