| My turn for woman troubles. - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| Markgase2000 |
| My old lady is a battle axe! She bosses me around and hits me whenever she feels like it. I wanna put my foot down just not on her head if you know what I mean. She been making me so mad and its making me feel differently about her. I have a bad back now from sleeping on the couch "my couch" and she sleeps in bed "my bed" is that fair? Im about a inch from batting her one to see how she likes it :mad: but women have force fields so I just cant. Should I walk out of this relationship? Or should I stay and just suck it up? All because I want to hang out with the guys and get away from her. :( Not easy after 8 years hence why I cant make my mind up. Oh and just so you know I am NOT a pussy Im just venting here. |
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| Buddyworm |
Tell her how she's making you feel. If she doesn't care or won't change, give her the scissors.
B-Wurm :D |
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| ehos |
Can't change people. There's only 2 types of people in your life, toxic, non-toxic.
It's obvious she's toxic. Time to move on (you've stayed too long as it is?). She's hitting you for a reason, and since you're not in grade school anymore, I'm thinking it's not cause she's enamored with you. |
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| s2oooR |
You've been going out with her for 8 years??? :eek: How old are you anyways? You'd think someone would've proposed already after that long :dunno:
... and what do u mean "hits you whenever she feels like it?".... like a playful hitting you? :dunno: .... i.e "i hate you i hate you" then hits u at the same time but really she loves you? :confused:
... bring her to the meets, maybe someone'll take her off your hands for ya ;) :p jkkkk |
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| s2oooR |
| oh yeah.... why does she get the bed and u get the couch???? .... if anything, after 8 yrs... dont u think its okay to sleep in the same bed together? :wtf: |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
She bosses me around and hits me whenever she feels like it.
I have a bad back now from sleeping on the couch "my couch" and she sleeps in bed "my bed" is that fair?
Figure out why these 2 things happen.
Discuss it with her.
The first problem seems to be much more serious than the second. It may even be the stem/reason for why the second problem occurs.
Depending on the severity of this "bossing around" or "hitting you," it could be an abusive relationship (emotional/mental abuse is still considered abuse).
And just because you're a "man" doesn't mean you have to put up with shit.
Trying to be tough & full of pride can eventually lead to denial of a very serious problem.
One day you may just snap.
Fix it, or leave it.
Don't take it. |
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| Markgase2000 |
I yelled at her for awhile and she dummied up after I sincerely said my peace. Giving me breathing room is good for her I think shes geting the hint now. I also told her I wouldnt mind batting her across the room now she wont hit me Im sure of it. Im not the marriage kinda guy 2000 and thats fine with me but we sleep together every night just recently she been acting like a bag and whaaaalaaa I sleep on the fucken couch. Not tonight tho she keeps asking when Im comming to bed. I guess I drew the line and she fixed it :dunno: Ill see what comes of it.
Oh Im 28 by the way and I been through many many girl friends just kinda have a feeling this ones a keeper. Ill try unless I realize its not working at all. I am also trying something new "Venting" I am gonna try to vent my shit on here and see if it lessens my tension. I used to vent with my car but too many speeding tickets so thats not cool.
Thanks guys
Mark |
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| ChromeDragon |
Hopefully it all turns out well Mark. No matter what happens, never bring physical violence into the relationship. If she chooses to do it, well that's her choice. You have to be the responsible one here.
With that said, let her know what these meets have done for you and tell her everything about how they have helped with your anxiety. If she really loves you she'll accept that it's something you need. You might have to cede a bit, and say you'll only attend meets on Friday nights (they seem to be the best anyways) or something of the like. Bottom line is that a relationship can't be all about one person, it has to be about everyone.
Hope it all works out man!:bthumbup: |
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| s2oooR |
why, what does she say about the meets?
She doesnt want u to go because.....? |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by ChromeDragon
With that said, let her know what these meets have done for you and tell her everything about how they have helped with your anxiety.
Matt, wth are u talking about? I dont thnk he said anything about anxiety... :dunno: |
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| Markgase2000 |
| Matt knows a few things about me , thanks matt you understand and I apretiate that. s2000 she was acting all jelous for attention she agrees with matt it helped me alot. I think its been a little my fault for driving her nuts this winter. |
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| ChromeDragon |
| Relationships are all about compromise dude. Maybe you can do something nice for her on the days that you aren't out at the meets (not saying that you don't already:D ). |
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| Markgase2000 |
Compromise is how we wound up in Edmonton , I comromised by paying all the rent utillities and what not so she can go to school. She feels pretty bad about how she treated me. Im guessing she will not be taking those walks and extra activities together for granted now. Oh and she stopped with thinking her tears will make me do as she asks. She got caught last night trying to use that to her benefit and I made a fart noise to test her and she laughed so Im figuring shes been getting her way in many different clever ways. Im a slow in the head kinda guy but now that Im catching on to her little games Im going to get compromises comming from her. It should be sweet I cant wait :) I also gotta feeling shes gonna make it up to me she is the best damn cook in the world so suppers gonna be the shizz :bthumbup:
I plan on having some space for the next bit a lil freedom if you will. Then 8 days before our anniversary (June 25) I will be showering her with a gift or special treatment each day as a celebration for each year we been together. I hope this cheers her up and makes her feel important to me and stops her from acting all selfish. Think it could work? I hope so 8 years is a long time I mean to some of you guys thats almost half your life. |
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| DeathBy240 |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
I plan on having some space for the next bit a lil freedom if you will. Then 8 days before our anniversary (June 25) I will be showering her with a gift or special treatment each day as a celebration for each year we been together. I hope this cheers her up and makes her feel important to me and stops her from acting all selfish. Think it could work? I hope so 8 years is a long time I mean to some of you guys thats almost half your life.
Yikes. Then, is she going to expect 9 presents the next year? You wouldn't want to be with her for another 40 years... that a lot of damn presents. IMO get one meaningful gift, way better than a bunch of just material stuff. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| knock her one in the mouth...and then be like were over see what that does:dunno: |
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| bluecargirl666 |
wow.. i wish my boyfriend was as sensative as you seem to be. presents? walks? jeezez.. in a dream world.
3 cheers for compromize.. or was that 3 strikes and your out?:dunno:
im lost |
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| s2oooR |
switch s.o's? :dunno:
... your bf must do some things equivalent to those walks and presents.... can u list some of them off??? ... |
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| blahblahblah |
I think thats awesome!!! :bthumbup:
good to hear things are better :D
8 years! and your young too!!
dont see that, that offten......
(10 years for us) and it has it ups and downs like ever relationship.....but all in all its worth it!
:blue:
Congrats |
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| Markgase2000 |
LMAO! :blink: Im totally confused here but ummm thanks alot you silly chicks :)
Curse , you think Im whipped you should see the treatment I been getting lately since I put my foot down(suppers , beers , ;) stuff like crazy too. She feels bad about what she did but she still thinks Im a geek. Im just worried she will forget in a day or two. Last year I gave her 7 hidden cards around the apt. for her to find. She thought it was well um ...... nice and then she forgot about it and gave me crap for never doing that EVER for her after she saw some guy do it for a chick on tv then I was like WTF! Then I gave up she just dont get it.
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| s2oooR |
| ..and then when u reminded her, she goes somethign like, "yeah I dont think so... I dont remember you ever doing anything like that for me... " so basically if she doesnt remember it, it didnt happen.... yep, I know the story too lol |
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| TrevorK |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
LMAO! :blink: Im totally confused here but ummm thanks alot you silly chicks :)
It's called the "power of the pussy"
She has one, you don't. You want it. Therefore, she has the power. |
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| dance_of_curse |
| if she keeps forgetting you should like take a picture of her when she finds all the stuff and is like really happy and then put it on the fridge or something `and if she says you dont do anything be like look on the fridge...:bthumbup: |
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| Markgase2000 |
| Well curse for a young fella you seem to know what your doing or you got "Skills" as we like to say at 780 cus that last bit of advice was golden :) are you seriously 16 yo? |
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| dance_of_curse |
| yeah..lol....i just learn really quick..:bthumbup: i must say i look aound 20 though..lol...damn being lazy and not shaving:fingersx: |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by s2oooR
switch s.o's? :dunno:
... your bf must do some things equivalent to those walks and presents.... can u list some of them off??? ...
Im assuming that was directed at me?
naw my SOs great.. just u know.. such a guy at times, just becuase his emotions could fit into a spoon (Cars, TV, Video Games) he thinks of me the same way.
Lol.. my post was supposed to be for a laugh, but it's sortove hard to portray emotion on here except for the little smilies:dunno: |
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| Markgase2000 |
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Originally posted by dance_of_curse
yeah..lol....i just learn really quick..:bthumbup: i must say i look aound 20 though..lol...damn being lazy and not shaving:fingersx:
Damn kids these days lol you wait till you got a long time gf and then youll forget all about any good advice you been giving out I used to give good advice too but then a couple serious relationships made me relationship retarded :) |
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| JdmCrx |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
wow.. i wish my boyfriend was as sensative as you seem to be. presents? walks? jeezez.. in a dream world.
3 cheers for compromize.. or was that 3 strikes and your out?:dunno:
im lost
i wish you could spell.
ME = :asshole: :beer: |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
Im assuming that was directed at me?
naw my SOs great.. just u know.. such a guy at times, just becuase his emotions could fit into a spoon (Cars, TV, Video Games) he thinks of me the same way.
Lol.. my post was supposed to be for a laugh, but it's sortove hard to portray emotion on here except for the little smilies:dunno:
Well you seem to be into cars too, seeing as you're on this board and have a Talon? Thats something u both have in common.....
im sure u both put up with each others pet peeves :p |
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| bluecargirl666 |
lol yeah.. cars are awesome
as for jdmcrx.. get a life, ill spell the way i want |
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| JdmCrx |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
lol yeah.. cars are awesome
as for jdmcrx.. get a life, ill spell the way i want
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by JdmCrx
:drama:
being an asshole isnt something you should be proud of or advertise buddy |
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| JdmCrx |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
being an asshole isnt something you should be proud of or advertise buddy
typical woman.. always needs something to bitch about. :beer: |
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| Markgase2000 |
You two married? , Bluecargirl + JDMCRX?
Sounds like typical love to me :) |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by JdmCrx
typical woman.. always needs something to bitch about. :beer:
typical guy, never takes responsibility for his actions:lol: |
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| Markgase2000 |
| :dunno: oh brother :rolleyes: |
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| JdmCrx |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
typical guy, never takes responsibility for his actions:lol:
i did nothing ! :beer: |
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| RacerGirl |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
typical guy, never takes responsibility for his actions:lol:
you can say that again!! |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by RacerGirl
you can say that again!!
typical guy, never takes responsibility for his actions :lol: |
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| bluecargirl666 |
LMFAO..
i think JDMcrx got owned.. |
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| JdmCrx |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
LMFAO..
i think JDMcrx got owned..
yes. |
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| cl0r0x |
quote:
Originally posted by Markgase2000
My old lady is a battle axe! She bosses me around and hits me whenever she feels like it. I wanna put my foot down just not on her head if you know what I mean. She been making me so mad and its making me feel differently about her. I have a bad back now from sleeping on the couch "my couch" and she sleeps in bed "my bed" is that fair? Im about a inch from batting her one to see how she likes it :mad: but women have force fields so I just cant. Should I walk out of this relationship? Or should I stay and just suck it up? All because I want to hang out with the guys and get away from her. :( Not easy after 8 years hence why I cant make my mind up. Oh and just so you know I am NOT a pussy Im just venting here.
Soudns familiar.
You want ot keep the girl but lose the attitude. I tried with mine and failed badly. I ended up kicking her out of the hosue when I just couldn't take the house being so fucking messy. We were gonna stay together then we didn't and I foudn out the minute she moved otu she put an ad on online dating and started dating guys apparently had a couple boyfriends 2. Then she was telling me we would work on things and she was fucking another guy while still me as well. She then told me to take a leap and ended up marrying the guy she was with. That was my first love. it's been 2 years since our break up I still haven't dated. finalyl now JUST like starting to work on a girl. no idea how it's going cause it's been 4.5 years since I had to try and date. My advice to you is if you think you can salvage it by talking then I'd say go for it however if you don't think she will listen then unfortunatly your going to ahve to part ways.
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