| What makes for a good parent? - Click HERE for Original Thread |
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| What kind of criteria do you think a person should have to be a good parent? |
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| sparkycivic |
morals, patience, basic intelligence, patience, and commitment.
i have observed much evidence to suppport this bare minimum list. |
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| TrevorK |
One of the key things in my mind is respecting your child and the choices they make.
All too often parents go through life making the choices for the child. This is fine when they are young. As the child matures into a young adult they need to start making their own choices to lead to their own experiences.
Experiences themselves can be good or bad. It doesn't matter which they are - because past experiences are what give us grounds to make future decisions on. If we don't have any of these "experiences" because we allow our parents to make our choices, we can never mature.
Parents have to realize that eventually they have to let go. It is their place to advise their child on what they think is right, but they have to respect the fact that it is their child's decision to make whether they agree or disagree.
Of course there are many more, but this is one parents with older children always face. |
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| ChromeDragon |
 
Hehe, sorry. I just had to post up the maddox stuff.
Very thorough article here.
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| wubba_65 |
Patience, support, encouragement to try new things, not being afraid to let your kids fail at something they try (this is going to be a tough one for me when I become a papa), and the freedom to discipline your kids (including spankings).
I was spanked as a child and I know that it did me good. The reason why everyone freaks out whenever you hear of a child being spanked is because we have been conditioned that any time an adult raises a hand to a child, they are going to smack them so hard they will fly across the room and crack the jiprock.
Humans are still animals (in a scientific sense, not societal), and they respond to and learn from pain. If your kid does something wrong and you spank them hard enough for it to sting for a minut or two, then they will eventually learn that that is a bad thing to do.
The first time that a child accidentally touches the element of a stove while it is still hot gives them a burn, they will learn not to touch the element again. I think that society has gotten to the point where we overprotect our kids. They wouldn't know how to survive left on their own beyond the age of 16. by removing all sources of danger to our kids well being (ie not allowing those learning experiences to happen) we end up with kids that are not capable of avoiding those dangers when we send them out into the world on their own.
But the downfalls of society is another topic entirely. |
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| Markgase2000 |
| Is there a little bundle of joy arriving soon in Terrys life? |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
Is there a little bundle of joy arriving soon in Terrys life?
Hahha hardly.
The topic came to mind with oldraven becoming a dad :) |
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| snugs |
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Originally posted by ChromeDragon
Hehe, sorry. I just had to post up the maddox stuff.
Very thorough article here.
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OMG!!! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: |
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| Jord@n |
| I think the best quality a parent can have is being commited. You must always be there for your child no matter what they do, or who they become, you must be supportive of them, and their decisions. There are so many different qualities I could list but that would take forever, and I'm lazy, so I just listed what I think is most important. :bthumbup: |
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| ae1969 |
- (a relaxed , calm and P A T I E N T parent)
- (knowledgable parent) Understanding how to parent. You must READ READ READ READ READ. If you grew up a certain way.........it does not mean its the best way...... (getting hit, etc) IGNORANCE is not a way to parent.
- (open minded parent) Fight the stereotypes you grew up with. (Girls and Boys are different....... but don't pigeon hole your child into being a certain way..........or try to make him the way you are.)
- (loving parent) Your child needs to feel LOVED. If your child is safe/secure/loved individual they will feel confident to venture out and learn from things in life.
- (A consistent parent). BE CONSISTENT. The worst thing we can do to a child is setting boundaries and then letting them break them. They will try and break the boundaries you set and need to steered back on track. IMO no need for physical punishment......... it is a lot harder to parent with a soft approach than to beat your kid into doing what you want them to do. You don't do it with your dog why would you do it with your child? |
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| clapbak |
| 2 words.. Hard Ass.. lol jj.. |
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| Markgase2000 |
Freeedom! Give lots of that and save money for bail and your a top notch parent IMO what else can you do? My parents played a cruel one on me "Mom Dad I need you to come get me , Im in Jail" Mom "Good they can take care of you now and we can have a vacation!" Dad "Thanks son you solved alot of our problems :)" this was my bringing up and even after I get out they still let me live there just would never bail me out. Life is a learning experience and if you dont learn from your mistakes then nobody no matter who they are parents , lovers whoever they aint gonna do it for you. Personality can be molded by parents and right from wrong can be taught but its up to the lunkhead kid they are caring for. These days who takes care of the parents? Not like rebellions occur right?
There you all go advice from a dimwitt who was a badassed kid but if my parents didnt give me freedom who knows I coulda been a silly doctor or a lawyer pfffft* who wants that? |
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| dance_of_curse |
| my mom is very lenient with me but then again me and my brother are pretty self sufficient...it may be because we lived in teh kootanies when we were younger.... but liek im 16 and most kids i know are like on a tight leash....my mom trusts me and my brotehr and i think thats one of the most important things a parent can do...but then my mom is kind of a hippy:p |
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| Buddyworm |
Like most people said: Patient, Reasonable and above all, Loving.
But if there's on thing I can't stand it's overprotectiveness. Set boundaries for your kids. If they push 'em, show them it's not a good idea. Don't let your kid go nuts, but for the love of god let him/her fuck up every now and then.
B-Wurm :D |
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| youngbex |
| be firm on your kids, i have seen to many of my friends parents not care, and 95% or them started dropping out of school and doing some pretty hard core drugs....... not good:( |
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| dsl55 |
| My parents were never strict with me, I've always made my own choices, and I knew the consequences. I think its important to give your child freedom until they turn self destructive. Like when I was 16 my dad knew I drank, and he would've never let me drank if he ever foudn any in my room or saw me doing it, but he knew he couldn't stop me so as long as he didn't see he didn't care. But they always said no matter what if I need a ride home just to call. |
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