| Decent Girls? - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| DomesticDrifter |
So lately I've been dating lots of high maintance label whores, who seem to be so obessed with them selves its a huge turn off. Don't get me wrong, these chicks are hot!!! And I love looking at them, but when it comes to personality there not really up to par. They seem to be so obsessed with partying, how they look, and if they are hotter then every other girl in the bar, and there isn't much more to them then that.
So my question is, where are all the decent girls? The ones who arn't obessed with themselves and there is more to them then being a bar star?
Am i gonna have to start going to church to pick up a "good" girl? |
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| jihad |
| What really is a "good" girl nowadays??? :dunno: |
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| dsl55 |
There's no one special place, find a girl who knows what her priorites are and if they match yours, and wants a man in her life. Perhaps ask a lady friend fo yours if she knows any girls who fit into what you are looking for? haha unfortunatley the girls you described are usually pretty damn smokin and hard to decline...
As far as the church goes:
I thought I met a nice girl, good family went to church, only had like 1 boyfriend, had relatively no experience in anyhting past kissing. then she up'ed and cheated on me at the bar... I was like wtf? Lol and I thought she was a pretty good girl... Never trust women and alchy, cause even if you trust them, you can't trust the men around them. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by dsl55
As far as the church goes:
I thought I met a nice girl, good family went to church, only had like 1 boyfriend, had relatively no experience in anyhting past kissing. then she up'ed and cheated on me at the bar... I was like wtf? Lol and I thought she was a pretty good girl... Never trust women and alchy, cause even if you trust them, you can't trust the men around them.
The label whores are hard to decline! they are my kryptonite! You can't trust girls at all, when i was in highschool and my gf turned 18 she just went crazy at the bar, and I'm so sick of those dumb whores.
I was just joking about the church thing, thats a long term commitment if you're going there to pick up chicks, its not like you can go sit there one sunday and pick up a cutie.... I don't think it works like that?:dunno: At least not at church anyway!
My sister told me to start hanging out at chapters to pick up chicks, just avoid the ones in the self help/ feminist studies sections! |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
I was just joking about the church thing, thats a long term commitment if you're going there to pick up chicks, its not like you can go sit there one sunday and pick up a cutie.... I don't think it works like that?:dunno: At least not at church anyway!
Good man, don't try to change the person you're with.
dsl55 gave some good advice (ask a friend) or just go & attend/participate in other social activities/hobbies.
Meeting someone who shares an interest with you (in terms of hobbies) isn't often nor easy but, IMO, they will have greater potential in being a serious SO. |
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| s2oooR |
| joel, dont say a WORD!!!! lol |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
Good man, don't try to change the person you're with.
dsl55 gave some good advice (ask a friend) or just go & attend/participate in other social activities/hobbies.
Meeting someone who shares an interest with you (in terms of hobbies) isn't often nor easy but, IMO, they will have greater potential in being a serious SO.
My buddies and I had this talk and they are sick of the dumb bar whore as well ahahaha. I don't really care if I find another chick, I was just ranting about all the dumb girls out there and how it seems there arn't any left.
I might have found an un taped source.... Beaumont! we met a shit load of girls from Beaumont on saturday... so hot! |
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| dsl55 |
Maybe they are being taped, just by people from other towns that visit beaumont!
On that note, the sexually transmitted disease clinic is on like 109th street I think? :p |
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| DomesticDrifter |
| ^^^ Who needs a clinic... a little bit of penicilin will clear that puss up in no time!:lol: |
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| bluecargirl666 |
Domestic Drifter?
..seriously, if you are interested in a relationship that means something, dont go by how she looks or how good she is at flirting. Why the pressure? Be friends first, see how you get along together. You'll know right away whether its gonna work or not. You don't choose friends on how they look do you? You hang around with them because you get along with them. If ur gonna go for the shallow bar-stars then u better hope theres something in the relationship after the sex wears off, either that or you better have money to keep her interest.
Instead of looking for a girl to pick up, look for a friend.
And if you find love in that.. then kudos. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
^^^ I'm 20 years old and not looking for a girlfriend or a serious relationship. if i meet a girl that i hit it off with then its all good. i dated a girl for 2 years and am in no hurry to get super invovled with somone. It was more of a rant about how it seems there are no more decent girls out there.
but you don't go talk to people of the opposite sex because you think they'll have a nice personality do you? most people don't, they go talk to the opposite sex because they are attracted to them.
Anyway its 2am and i need to work in 7 hours so i'm going to bed now ahahha. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
but you don't go talk to people of the opposite sex because you think they'll have a nice personality do you?
yeah, i do |
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| TrevorK |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
but you don't go talk to people of the opposite sex because you think they'll have a nice personality do you? most people don't, they go talk to the opposite sex because they are attracted to them.
Subconciously when you decide to go talk to a person you are trying to get with, there is some sort of draw - and it's typically physical.
Sometimes it's the "vibe" you get, but let's face it, 90% of the time it's physical attraction at first. Anyone who says otherwise is lying to themselves. |
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| REFLUX |
| Hahaha if you're ranting about how there are no good girls left, I bet you there are also loads of women saying there are no good guys left. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by TrevorK
Subconciously when you decide to go talk to a person you are trying to get with, there is some sort of draw - and it's typically physical.
My point was more along the lines of getting to know a person before acting all shocked when you find out they're not who you assumed them to be.
I dont just talk to people because they're good looking
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| JustinL |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
Instead of looking for a girl to pick up, look for a friend.
And if you find love in that.. then kudos.
Am I the only one who has found this to be the worst approach? This slots you firmly into the "just a friend" category. |
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| s2oooR |
I think most of the guys here are right..... when u first go up to a girl u dont know... its usually because of physical attraction, and from there its just finding out who they are, what they like, dont like, etc etc... their personality.
Here's one.... what if u meet someone off the net and you think they're hot because u get along with them and u have fun talking to them... etc etc.... but then u finally meet them and they're not what you had pictured (i.e not so hot) ..... would u still wanna go out with that person as bf/gf? |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by JustinL
Am I the only one who has found this to be the worst approach? This slots you firmly into the "just a friend" category.
YESSS! thats what i fogot to say!.... it totally puts u in that "friend category."
IMO, if the girl thinks you're only after friendship,,, then thats what category you'll be put in..... At least, if she knows that you're after more than friendship, u dont get put in that category, and you're not pulling the wool over her eyes when u tell her how you feel.
In any case, there's that certain time period where u automatically get put in that friend category anyways.... once you're there, there's like 1% chance you ever get out of there lol
whats the time period for that anyways? |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by JustinL
Am I the only one who has found this to be the worst approach? This slots you firmly into the "just a friend" category.
Wonder why the chick puts you into the 'just a friend category'? cause she doesnt think itll work out.
..Over, Done.. Finished |
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| dsl55 |
^^^ I just experienced that 5 minutes ago :(
She knows what she is talking about haha. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by s2oooR
At least, if she knows that you're after more than friendship, u dont get put in that category, and you're not pulling the wool over her eyes when u tell her how you feel.
:bowdown: finally.. |
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| bigmack000 |
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Originally posted by s2oooR
joel, dont say a WORD!!!! lol
WHAT! liek really what!:lol: |
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| silvermist |
dude stop dateing 18 year olds :lol:
just kidding but if you find the decent girls let me know so I can get me one. the bitchs I want to date lately are like that, I just leave them be and keep walking. |
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| dsl55 |
| I'm with silvermist^^ Gimme a call when you find them all. |
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| s2oooR |
| you think if one of us knew wehre to find them, u think we'd tell you? :lol: |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
Wonder why the chick puts you into the 'just a friend category'? cause she doesnt think itll work out.
..Over, Done.. Finished
Im still confused here.... it sounds liek u agree with me, but that contradicts what you're saying here....
because what you're saying is friendship first and whatever happens, happens... but im saying u have to let her know that you're after more than that.... so is there some sort of fine line in there somewhere?
.... and u get put in the friend category just because SHE thinks it wont work out? That can happen almost automatically .... i.e maybe she might not think you're attractive enough, etc etc.... so u automatically get put there as soon as your open your mouth to say something.
... on second thought, i think that may very well be true.... I think they know right away. If they're attracted to you, then yes, she'll think of you as having the potential to be a SO.
All im certain of is that you cant let her think you're in it just for friends if you want to be more than that. I guess the real question is, "how do u let her know that without being blatantly obvious?" |
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| dsl55 |
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Originally posted by s2oooR
you think if one of us knew wehre to find them, u think we'd tell you? :lol:
Hey now, did you not learn that sharing is caring!?
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Originally posted by s2oooR
Im still confused here.... it sounds liek u agree with me, but that contradicts what you're saying here....
because what you're saying is friendship first and whatever happens, happens... but im saying u have to let her know that you're after more than that.... so is there some sort of fine line in there somewhere?
.... and u get put in the friend category just because SHE thinks it wont work out? That can happen almost automatically .... i.e maybe she might not think you're attractive enough, etc etc.... so u automatically get put there as soon as your open your mouth to say something.
... on second thought, i think that may very well be true.... I think they know right away. If they're attracted to you, then yes, she'll think of you as having the potential to be a SO.
All im certain of is that you cant let her think you're in it just for friends if you want to be more than that. I guess the real question is, "how do u let her know that without being blatantly obvious?"
Well if you want to be more than friends and not be totally blatant, maybe it's the little things? Like don't talk to her as a friend and have long drawn out conversations, keep it short simple and act busy even if you aren't, invite her out to just do something random, talk about being single and how it is/isn't working out for you...
Hope that makes sense, I'm sure you have lot's of your own idea's. And you're right, you fall in that friend catagory, you're fucked unless you move away for awhile and come back *new*. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
^^I knew u guys would figure it out.. just needed a little nudge in the right direction
im so proud of u! |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by dsl55
Hey now, did you not learn that sharing is caring!?
come blading and maybe i'll share ;) |
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| Soulfly |
| I got one of the good ones.. lol.. :cool: |
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| dsl55 |
| You bastard... Haha are all her friends like her? Cause then we'd know they form in groups and aren't sparcely located! |
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| theonly3rd |
| damn this city is just full of these gossiping, bar star sluts atleast i know now i am not the only one finding all these heh, anyone tried stalbert? |
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| dsl55 |
| St.A experience, stuck up bitches. Unless you're richer than they are lol |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by dsl55
St.A experience, stuck up bitches. Unless you're richer than they are lol
AHHAHAH SOOOOOOOOOO TRUE.... what your parents only own one buisness and they refuse to buy you a car so you learn the value of a dollar your self? Fuck that... (peels out in her porche)
So I met another retarded girl exactly like the ones we were talking about, this time at Joeys in south common. I frequent there and alot of my friends work there so I know most of the girls who work there.
This is how the conversation went...
Me: "Hey hows it going? are you new here, I haven't seen you here before?"
Her: "Ummm 2 months" (you could see the gears turning in her head doing the math... 1 + 1 = ? shit... i knew i should have put on more makeup. she was so hot, nice bod, nice blonde hair... sooooo much blue eye make up! covring 1/2 her face)
Me: "How are you liking it?"
Her: "Its good" in her head (fuck where is my lip gloss)
Me: "All the girls here are so friendly, do you know Myranda, Abby and Krystal, I used to go to school with all of them"
Her: then you could see this confused look on her face and the gears turning in her and and then she replyed... "I haven't met everyone yet"... walks away
So at this point I'm just like... wow you lack a personality and conversation skills.
It takes her about 20min to come back with our drinks, and she was like "we dont' have any lemons left for your drinks.." as the other server walks to another table with lemons in carona's. Then I made one last attempt to make some sort of conversation, realized her IQ was as the same as her breast size 34, paid and left.
So in conclusion I've decided that these dumb label whores have invaded our society. Now its cool to be dumb. What has the world come to? FUCK YOU PARIS HILTON ahhaha. |
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| Soulfly |
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Originally posted by dsl55
You bastard... Haha are all her friends like her? Cause then we'd know they form in groups and aren't sparcely located!
Yeah.. some of her friends are like that.. lol.. I met my girl at my friends house party.. because his friend brought her...
and I was kinda like.. whoa.. Look what just rolled in.. But I played the 'Not Interested guy'
But I was totally Checkin' out her features... Her sweet sweet ass.. and Her perky Titties.. I was In heaven.. then I sat beside her.. asked her how she was.. you know the typical First Conversation people have.. then I asked her for her MSN.. and she thought I wasn't gonna add her.. But when I got home.. That's JUST what I did... Then I asked her to a movie.. and she thought she was gonna get stood up.. but then I rolled up in my car.. and from then On.. It's just been stronger and stronger feelings...
But Everytime I'd tell her that I like her.. SHe would tell me that she "Doesn't Want a Boyfriend" Because she's not ready and she's in school and shit.. so.. I ask her is shes sexually active.. and she tells me shes a virgin.. so.. This may sound GREAT to every guy.. But shit man.. You HAVE to wait like 8 Months before you can even TOUCH the girl right!? lol
Then She made a move on me.. so I was like.. I thought you didn't want a boyfriend.. and Once again.. she said she doesn't.. because.. She wants only me!
WOOO! and .. This girl owns me.. haha.. It's been like.. 7 months since we started 'Dating' and Like 3.5 months since we are actually going out.. And... well.. 3 months .. and she has me whipped.. But .. I've got her naked.. and did everything with her.. so.. It's even.. :bthumbup:
lol.. sorry for the random story.. I'll go into Hiding now..
But she's also .. not one of the 'COOL' girls.. She goes to University.. and.. she doesn't drink or do drugs.. :P Neither do I.. But If you looked at her and her friends.. They look like the 'Nerdy' Group.. but hell.. once you can convince them that your here for a little while.. they'll give in .. and It's Totally worth it...
ok.. I'm done. I could go on for hours.. But.. I'm done.. and I don't need to bore you guys.. hahaha :cool: |
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| bluecargirl666 |
| you got all excitied when you wrote that didnt you. :lol: |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by Soulfly
But she's also .. not one of the 'COOL' girls.. She goes to University.. and.. she doesn't drink or do drugs.. :P
She doesn't drink? Man thats what university is all about! PARTY!!!.... with a side of education! |
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| dsl55 |
Maybe he is on to something? haha...
YOu know, you'd think if you found a hot girl in UNI that you could trust she is smart and can hold a conversation, but that is just not always the case... I've questioned how some girls get into university on many occasions. |
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| silvermist |
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Originally posted by dsl55
I've questioned how some girls get into university on many occasions.
I believe it involves alot of sucking and dateing the teachers. hell getting in is the easy part it staying is the hard part. besides most of the U of A girls I know are becoming nurses and teachers. The dumb ones are teachers where you need some brains to be a nurse. I'm not saying everyone in these coarses is stupid. I just noticed those are the two most popular classes for stupid chicks, and people how want to slack( teachers that is). Has anyone noticed the lack in teachers effert in the last 10 years. Most of the new teachers out there only are teachers because they didn't know what else to do so they went into teaching. jmo |
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| dsl55 |
Well all I can say is that there shall be some hot, stupid nurses and kindergarten teachers!
Although a kindergarten teacher could be a decent girl, she cares about others, has an education... hmm anyone up for purusing the local elementary staff? haha my K teacher was like 60... |
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| s2oooR |
| both of you would've been shot if my ex heard you say that .... she's not only a K/1 teacher but she has her masters too. |
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| dsl55 |
Oh I'm very well aware there are plenty who are not like we are describing.
Hmm masters and a k/1 teach... why is she an ex? |
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| DomesticDrifter |
| ^^^ he doesn't like girls that are smarter then him:lol: |
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| silvermist |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
^^^ he doesn't like girls that are smarter then him:lol:
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| Soulfly |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
you got all excitied when you wrote that didnt you. :lol:
Yeah.. I did Get all excited.. :P
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
^^^ he doesn't like girls that are smarter then him:lol:
:lol: :asshole:
no wonder im stuck with the ones on 97st :( ... and i cant even get all of those ones :banghead: |
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| cl0r0x |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
So lately I've been dating lots of high maintance label whores, who seem to be so obessed with them selves its a huge turn off. Don't get me wrong, these chicks are hot!!! And I love looking at them, but when it comes to personality there not really up to par. They seem to be so obsessed with partying, how they look, and if they are hotter then every other girl in the bar, and there isn't much more to them then that.
So my question is, where are all the decent girls? The ones who arn't obessed with themselves and there is more to them then being a bar star?
Am i gonna have to start going to church to pick up a "good" girl?
I found one and only one and I'm not dating her yet. working on it tho but other then her I have no fuckign idea. but let the rest of us know if you happen to figure it out. I know there are good ones out there just damn hard to find.
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| BlueTurboEGG |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
So lately I've been dating lots of high maintance label whores, who seem to be so obessed with them selves its a huge turn off.
There is your first problem. Stop making looks your top priority, try looking for a sincere smile.
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
Don't get me wrong, these chicks are hot!!! And I love looking at them, but when it comes to personality there not really up to par. They seem to be so obsessed with partying, how they look, and if they are hotter then every other girl in the bar, and there isn't much more to them then that.
There is your second problem. Stop thinking with your brainless head and take charge with your brain once in awhile.
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
So my question is, where are all the decent girls? The ones who arn't obessed with themselves and there is more to them then being a bar star?
Am i gonna have to start going to church to pick up a "good" girl?
I hate to keep on like a broken record, but if you expect to find a prize bull in a feild of dumb cows, you're gonna come away with a dumb cow.
Expand your horizons and your mind :) |
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| dsl55 |
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Originally posted by BlueTurboEGG
There is your first problem. Stop making looks your top priority, try looking for a sincere smile.
There is your second problem. Stop thinking with your brainless head and take charge with your brain once in awhile.
I hate to keep on like a broken record, but if you expect to find a prize bull in a feild of dumb cows, you're gonna come away with a dumb cow.
Expand your horizons and your mind :)
Haha I just want a cute sweet girl who is nice, no prize bulls or dumb cows :fingersx: . Looks ARE important, but they are not the only thing, but I think looks are equal to personality because there has to be a physical attraction. But, that physical attraction is meaningless without one on a intellectual and/or emotional level. |
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| JustinL |
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Originally posted by BlueTurboEGG
if you expect to find a prize bull in a feild of dumb cows, you're gonna come away with a dumb cow.
LOL worst analogy ever. It sounds like you are suggesting finding the best male of the species instead of an average female... |
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| cl0r0x |
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Originally posted by Soulfly
Yeah.. some of her friends are like that.. lol.. I met my girl at my friends house party.. because his friend brought her...
and I was kinda like.. whoa.. Look what just rolled in.. But I played the 'Not Interested guy'
But I was totally Checkin' out her features... Her sweet sweet ass.. and Her perky Titties.. I was In heaven.. then I sat beside her.. asked her how she was.. you know the typical First Conversation people have.. then I asked her for her MSN.. and she thought I wasn't gonna add her.. But when I got home.. That's JUST what I did... Then I asked her to a movie.. and she thought she was gonna get stood up.. but then I rolled up in my car.. and from then On.. It's just been stronger and stronger feelings...
But Everytime I'd tell her that I like her.. SHe would tell me that she "Doesn't Want a Boyfriend" Because she's not ready and she's in school and shit.. so.. I ask her is shes sexually active.. and she tells me shes a virgin.. so.. This may sound GREAT to every guy.. But shit man.. You HAVE to wait like 8 Months before you can even TOUCH the girl right!? lol
Then She made a move on me.. so I was like.. I thought you didn't want a boyfriend.. and Once again.. she said she doesn't.. because.. She wants only me!
WOOO! and .. This girl owns me.. haha.. It's been like.. 7 months since we started 'Dating' and Like 3.5 months since we are actually going out.. And... well.. 3 months .. and she has me whipped.. But .. I've got her naked.. and did everything with her.. so.. It's even.. :bthumbup:
lol.. sorry for the random story.. I'll go into Hiding now..
But she's also .. not one of the 'COOL' girls.. She goes to University.. and.. she doesn't drink or do drugs.. :P Neither do I.. But If you looked at her and her friends.. They look like the 'Nerdy' Group.. but hell.. once you can convince them that your here for a little while.. they'll give in .. and It's Totally worth it...
ok.. I'm done. I could go on for hours.. But.. I'm done.. and I don't need to bore you guys.. hahaha :cool:
I still trying to make this one give in god damnit it's so frustrating!!!!!! I really like ehr and I already KNOW she has feeligns for me she's just to scared to get involved. I'm fucking hella scared myself since my ex. sigh aggrivating as hell! |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
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Originally posted by JustinL
LOL worst analogy ever. It sounds like you are suggesting finding the best male of the species instead of an average female...
Take it however you want to, but the gist of it is, trying to find smart in a sea of dumb, all you're going to find is dumb. :p
Everyone has a beauty, men and women. It just depends on whether you can see it or not. |
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| jihad |
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Originally posted by BlueTurboEGG
Everyone has a beauty, men and women. It just depends on whether you can see it or not.
Thats some deep shit |
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| JustinL |
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Originally posted by BlueTurboEGG
Take it however you want to, but the gist of it is, trying to find smart in a sea of dumb, all you're going to find is dumb. :p
Everyone has a beauty, men and women. It just depends on whether you can see it or not.
HAHAHA I knew what you were trying to say, thought maybe I'd add a little humour. And yes I do agree with you. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by BlueTurboEGG
Take it however you want to, but the gist of it is, trying to find smart in a sea of dumb, all you're going to find is dumb. :p
Everyone has a beauty, men and women. It just depends on whether you can see it or not.
:bowdown: :bowdown: :bowdown: got the whole dewy eyed thing going.. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
:bowdown: :bowdown: :bowdown: got the whole dewy eyed thing going..
i wonder how many "special girls" hes told that too!:p |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
i wonder how many "special girls" hes told that too!:p
way to ruin it.. |
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| s2oooR |
| Andy's Married so obviously it works ;) |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by s2oooR
Andy's Married so obviously it works ;)
at least once anyway! |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
at least once anyway!
It should only need to happen once.
A person who marries & divorces multiple times is no more successful than a person who cannot get married in the first place & goes thru multiple girl/boyfriends.
BlueTurboEGG has an excellent point, if you go looking for something in the wrong place, you'll never find it.
Do different things, go to different places (and I don't mean different bars/clubs/pubs), at different times of the day.
If you continually find no success in doing things the way you do it, maybe it's time to do things differently?
And about the "friends never become boyfriends" type deal, someone who gets slotted into the "friends" category either has no interest in the girl themselves or just has bad timing.
Just because a guy says he can't find any decent women doesn't mean women aren't saying the same thing.
Women also want to find decent men.
If you want to find a lady with some brains, it will take time & interaction to really discover it. People generally don't let you see their inner personality until some trust is built up.
Once you get to know your lady friend better, you should be able to determine how "open" she is with personal information.
If one day she begins to talk to you about her family, her worries, fears, dreams...she is only talking to you about those things because she trusts you.
You will be able to gauge her sincerity in how she talks about it. A serious & sombre tone denotes...well....seriousness. Sincerity.
So does detail in what is said. More detail = greater amount of trust.
A fast glossing of the details = less trust.
It is in those initial stages of trust that the fork in the road begins to materialize.
Continue on without making some sign that you are interested in her = friend.
If you share things with her that she shared with you (your fears, dreams, etc), you will be telling her that you trust her as well and that you two are connecting on a deeper level.
Her being a person who is also looking for a "decent man" will put you on the top of her list. As would you for her because you are also looking for a decent woman.
It is a deep connection that makes for an intimate relationship, it is a shallow/superficial connection that makes for a friendship.
If you remember ANYTHING in what I've typed, remember this:
What holds a relationship together (friends or bf/gf) is typically what separates the relationship.
What binds two people together will be what breaks them apart.
If you are friends with someone because you play soccer together, it will be soccer that will be the end of that friendship.
If you date someone based on a superficial quality (i.e. looks), don't be surprised if the break up is because someone better looking came along.
But if you date someone based on something serious, a strong trust, it will only be a breaking of that strong trust that the two of you will separate. |
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| Billy |
| ^^^You should totally be an advice columnist....:D |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
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Originally posted by JustinL
HAHAHA I knew what you were trying to say, thought maybe I'd add a little humour. And yes I do agree with you.
Always stirring the pot you nukka 
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
i wonder how many "special girls" hes told that too!
I only told one, because that's how I felt  I often ask my friends this question: "If you're serious about relationships, isn't the evolution of one called Marriage? if you don't plan on marrying him/her, why are you going out with them in the first place?." I'm sure the shallow ones will have a few things to say about that.
Materialistic girls latch onto things for status and/or value. If a smart girl wants to be with you, consider that very flattering, because she's obviously smart enough to know you're worth being with.
I'd much rather be involved with someone because of how they feel about me rather than how they feel about my belongings. |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
What holds a relationship together (friends or bf/gf) is typically what separates the relationship.
What binds two people together will be what breaks them apart.
If you are friends with someone because you play soccer together, it will be soccer that will be the end of that friendship.
... unbelievable how accurate that statement is :bthumbup:
Thanks Terry! |
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| Scintillater |
agreed with terry.
before you go complaining about how there aren't enough good girls out there, ask yourself what you have to offer her too.
when you becoming the pinacle of what you want to achieve and what you would want to date if the opposite sex were just like you, you'll have more to offer and it'll just be apparent.
timing is a big one though, but it just takes time and patience. |
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| dsl55 |
| I met and hooked up with another bar-star tonight :( I really need to just not go to the bars because I am just not finding success there. The post about looking in the right place, is dead on. I'm hunting for a girl who could eventually be marriage material, and I'm looking at all the one nighters :( |
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| s2oooR |
| one nighters need love too :bthumbup: |
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| dsl55 |
| I feel so shallow and uncapable of a solid relationship lol... |
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| s2oooR |
| at least u can pick them up lol.... i cant even do that! :lol: ... mainly cuz im not a bar person so i dont have the "opportunity" to? lol....... dsl, u pass your left over this way, ok? lololol :bump: |
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| bigmack000 |
| decent girl i found one :bthumbup: |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by dsl55
I met and hooked up with another bar-star tonight :(
I always worry about how disease ridden these "bar stars" are.
Only once in my life have I heard of a successful relationship from meeting at a bar/club. |
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| dsl55 |
| You gotta try and avoid the scuzzy ones reflux lol... Go for the ones that look too snobby for anyone. Anyways this is about finding decent girls which bar hoochies are not lol. |
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| 2000z |
| I wish I got to hook up with hot bar stars before I met my girlfriend and we had a baby. We started dating 4 years ago and our daughter is just over 1. I was only 17 when we met so I've never had the chance to hook up with dumb hot girls at a bar. I love my girlfriend and we will get married and all that but I still feel like I missed out. Just be glad you got the chance to do it while you were young and stupid and now you can move forward and find what I've got. :dunno: Although if you guys are over 25 than I'm glad it's you and not me.:p |
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| dsl55 |
| Haha I'm not even hitting 20 bro... Congrats on the baby!!! |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by dsl55
I met and hooked up with another bar-star tonight
me too hahahah |
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| dsl55 |
| Lol but do you WANT that or are you looking for a serious girl like me, and end up being stupid and finding bar-stars. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
| its ovious that i WANT a real relationship with a REAL girl, thats why i started this thread! i just end up finding the retarded ones... you know how it goes... booze... bar... music... ass shaking... the boys start thinking more then the brain... its a vicious circle! |
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| dsl55 |
I forgot yo uwere thread starter it's so long :D
Ya man exactly what you said:
booze... bar... music... ass shaking... the boys start thinking more then the brain...
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| SketchifisT |
lol, Kk we go to talk to someone at first cause something PHYSICAL draws us over, if our motives are just to talk it still doesn't mean it wasn't physical at first.
You may talk to someone just cause , but you still saw them and they are a physical person so hense its not all about there pesonality. And last i checked from a quick glance u cannot tell someones personality.
Ill use myself for example, i had a huge flow of hockey hair, most girls who talked to me figured iwas a dumbass with no opinions of my own, and i was told by many a girl that they always assumed i was just a dumbass hockey player. To this date , most of the girls ive dated, came over to me at first cause of my looks then fell in love with me cause of my personality , but at first they admitted, they saw nothing but a cute face .
My best suggestion is dont date any girl, just raise your standards to unbelievable heights and just turn down all the girls, eventually you will find one that meets most of the standards you set and then give that a shot. I dunno im suggestin that cause it worked for me. Also, the girl you are lookin for is never where you expect to find her. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
someones a little up on themselves..
raise youre standards? gimmie a break buddy and get over yourself
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the girl you are lookin for is never where you expect to find her.
true wisdom in a sea of narcism |
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| SketchifisT |
well you dont know me and by standards i mean the little things that we always give in on when we decide to date or see someone. It maybe something really small that you dont care about but over time it will add up. Maybe like her not havin a car. These are the little things im talkin about that narrow down the search for a girl u would be more happy with.
For the comment of " the girl you are looking for is never where you expect it " Is, from most of the people i talk too , if u go out lookin for a girl at the bar you probably wont find them its Murpheys Law. What i ment by it was , dont try and find a girl for awhile and you are bound to walk into someone you like.
Also forum doesn't describe who iam, if you think im full of myself you are completely wrong. I am one of the most depressed and have one of the poorest self - esteem levels out there so whatever. If you just jump on what i say and dont look for the outside meaning of course its going to look bleak and narcistic, but its actually a huge optomistic comment if you think more about it, cause it means you can find the girl of your dreams anywhere it just takes time.
either way i dont care, i was just tryin to help if you are going to jump on my ideas which have worked for me and quite a few other friends of mine, actually it has worked more for girls then guys. Either way i guess im just a narcasitic self fulfilled bastard , who is so full of himself that he doesn't understand anything about the opposite sex and the only reason i get girls is cause im good lookin ... Ohh and i have no grasp of what sarcasim is |
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| dsl55 |
What's wrong with high standards? :dunno:
Any fine young woman worthy of being your wife, your partner for life, should reach and overwhelmingly exceed your highest of standards. Bluecargirls statement is merely diatribe. |
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| 83b18b1slow |
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Originally posted by s2oooR
joel, dont say a WORD!!!! lol
I'm not following all of this thread but i had to make a reply with this qoute... he-he:lol: |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by 83b18b1slow
I'm not following all of this thread but i had to make a reply with this qoute... he-he:lol:
lololol.... sent u a PM. |
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| SketchifisT |
| theres never anything wrong with high standards, if you dont have high standards , at least in your own eyes you will end up dating a bunch of girls you will hate and end up cheatin and doin otherstuff cause you realize your relationship blows, but whatever |
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| bluecargirl666 |
SketchifisT
never did i call you names, i made an observation on your post
If you wonder why ppls take you for being an ass-hole, maybe re-evaluate the tone of how you post on internet forums. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
SketchifisT
never did i call you names, i made an observation on your post
If you wonder why ppls take you for being an ass-hole, maybe re-evaluate the tone of how you post on internet forums.
i know this is kinda off topic but bluecargirl666 did you go to hairy ainlay? if you did i think i know who you are because i know a chick who had a blue talon back in highschool |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
i know this is kinda off topic but bluecargirl666 did you go to hairy ainlay? if you did i think i know who you are because i know a chick who had a blue talon back in highschool
I sure didnt go to ainlay.. I only sortove know where that is, so no dice |
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| SketchifisT |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
someones a little up on themselves..
raise youre standards? gimmie a break buddy and get over yourself
true wisdom in a sea of narcism
Ummm gimmie a break get over your self?? that is basically callin me names right there.
Hell i know im an sarcastic asshole, thats who i am, if u dont understand what i say is not out of hate but out of sarcastic comments then sure you will take it wrong.
I have nothing against you, why should i ? you expressed your opinion about me, and im just tellin you that the internet doesn't do it. But you already know that. Also you cant get a tone from internet forums especially since i dont use proper grammar to accent what im tryin to say.
If you thought iwas tryin to diss you or get upset i wasn;t, i was tryin to explain what iwas sayin, but yes i did get upset about you tellin me to get over myself cause if you actually knew me, im a depressed emotionally fragile person, who has never been told to get over himself, so yeah i felt that was a little harsh especially comin from someone who has never met me. Whatever im sorry if i snapped back a little harsh but i didn't mean it , its just who i am. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
| If you're sorry then im sorry... End of argument? |
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| SketchifisT |
| /agreed sorry for kinda hijackin the thread |
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| bigmack000 |
| ok every one make up and give each other a hug ! DOOOOOOOOOOO IT! |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
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| SilviaDrifter |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
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yea rommel is wierd like that hahha |
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