| My girlfriend issues - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| SketchifisT |
To sum this up, my last relationship tore me apart to be all honest. She absolutely tore me up and it took me awhile to heal from it. However i did, and i found another girl about 3 months ago that made me forget all about my passed girlfriend.
However in these 3 months, weve drifted apart and now she is givin me the gears , WAY TO EARLY I THINK in the relationship about little things. How i get upset about little things and i care too much about stuff that doesn't really matter. She keeps sayin its not that serious but when i talk about goin away for hockey in december to japan for 2 weeks she snaps out and says she will not deal with another long term relationship.
I guess why i am sayin this, is cause its at the 3 month point where if i bail now, it will hurt and it wont be fun, but it will be easier now then later. She has a passed of cheatin which i accepeted and told her what i would do and so forth, however she is an unbelievable flake, she says she has never felt this way and doesn't think she will cheat , but from my passed relationship i dont want another episode where iget toren apart over a girl. i have more issues but ill bring those up later. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
For me (as a chick) It isnt the little things one at a time that piss me off. It's the way they seem to compile over time. So before you go blaming whatever for breaking off the relationship, look at what you are offering her. Are you being picky?
You're girl doesnt want to be babied, it sounds like she looks at herself as an independant who can do what she wants when she wants. But honestly.. She doesnt "think" she'll cheat on you?
To me thats a big warning light that she doesnt care about you as much as you care about her. If any guy said that to me I would definatly tell them where to go.
On the flip side of that argument it sounds like she's been hurt aswell. And she just doesnt want to go through the hurt again -same as you.
I understand being torn apart... It makes you nervous that you're going to be hurt the same way you did before, and you're body instinctively tries not to repeat past actions that cause pain. Sortove like touching a hot stove when you're little, one burn and the next time your muscles convulse and try not to touch it. Same way for the mind, if you feel you're going down the same path that caused you hurt in the first place, you will instinctively try to change the situation so as that you don't repeat the pain. So even though you want to completely trust your new s/o, there's that little creeping suspicion in the back of youre head that makes you paranoid.
The hardest thing to do is to get involved in a long-term relationship before you're ready for it. You need to look at where you are as a person and evaluate weather its worth it to 'stick it out' with this girl. Or walk your seperate ways.. |
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| SketchifisT |
| thx for the advice, that is kinda the thing, but to mention something she is more about me then im about her. but we are pretty much on the same page but im pretty sure that its just been a couple bad days and we should bounce back |
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| dsl55 |
| Bluecargirl is right about the "i think i wont cheat on you" Huge red flag bro. Not to be rude, but you made your gf sound like she has absolutely no redeeming qualities. I live by, once a cheater always a cheater. I've been cheated on once and I'm utterly bitter about it. |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by bluecargirl666
For me (as a chick) It isnt the little things one at a time that piss me off. It's the way they seem to compile over time. So before you go blaming whatever for breaking off the relationship, look at what you are offering her. Are you being picky?
sometimes you have accept them for who they are.... no one is perfect, everyone is gonna have faults that we wont like.... they'll pile up..... why, cant u just love them for who they are if they have other redeeming qualities that are important to you as well? |
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| SketchifisT |
i lived by once a cheater always a cheater but, i also give people 2nd chances based on certain things. Yeah i know its a huge red flag thats why im not too concerned about this right now im just waitin to see how it pans out.
I maybe picky, but i prefer to be picky and single then in a relationship that i hate to be in. My issues are gettin settled right now with her, but thx for the help , like i said it was just a slight week of problems but it seems to be fine now |
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| WeDgE |
| Ehhh, you're only going there for 2 weeks, what's the big deal? |
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| 2003specv |
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Originally posted by WeDgE
Ehhh, you're only going there for 2 weeks, what's the big deal?
No kidding.:confused: |
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| Markgase2000 |
| Ummmmm "I think" and "I know" are totally different. I think means always looking for the BBD I know means I just made a promise and I will commit. I hope all things turn out for the best for you good luck with whatever decision you make Im sure it will be the right one. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by SketchifisT
i lived by once a cheater always a cheater but, i also give people 2nd chances based on certain things. Yeah i know its a huge red flag thats why im not too concerned about this right now im just waitin to see how it pans out.
I maybe picky, but i prefer to be picky and single then in a relationship that i hate to be in. My issues are gettin settled right now with her, but thx for the help , like i said it was just a slight week of problems but it seems to be fine now
Just remember that in the large scheme of things.. a week can be but the blink of an eye.. unless the issue is something your going to remember in 10 years.. or ev en 1.. how big is it really? I try to remember that when I get annoyed at the man. Don't alwasy succeed tho. Its the thought that counts? |
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