| REFLUX |
There is obviously no right or wrong answer as Love is different for everyone.
What do you consider "Love" to be? |
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| bigmack000 |
| a kick to the head |
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| 2k3Civic |
| the way 86boi (kevin) feels for you terry :-) |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by 2k3Civic
the way 86boi (kevin) feels for you terry :-)
hahahahahaha
don't worry Will, there's still plenty of Terry left for you :D |
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| 2k3Civic |
| haha i think i'll pass :lol: |
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| wubba_65 |
Being able to say to your S.O. "Are you alright" before you say "what did you do to my car" right after she rolls it. :blue:
Sticking with someone (family, friend, lover) through the bad times with as much enthusiasm and feeling as the good. Just like I would never disown my parents or sister, no matter what happened between us, I would never leave my Girlfriend, because I love her. We don't always get a long, and we drive each other insane sometimes, but we both know that we are commited to each other, and that is what matters. |
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| REFLUX |
^^^
Nice one wubba :)
Here's mine:
Love is when you are willing to sacrifice something important to you so that the love of your life could be happy/happier/in a better state than they are currently in.
Of course someone who loves you back wouldn't want you to sacrifice something important to you (assuming you made a serious sacrifice, not something like your favorite pair of socks).
That is when you know you have a keeper.
Someone who accepts your sacrifice is selfish, they want you to lose something so they can gain something. If that is the case, what are they losing for you?
A relationship is all about communication and give & take.
Sometimes you give, sometimes you take. Never can you always take or always give.
A second guideline that helped me determine my love:
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Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends
I Corinthians 13:4-8 |
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| GOT BOOST |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
There is obviously no right or wrong answer as Love is different for everyone.
What do you consider "Love" to be?
Hi Reflux,
Here is my definition of love. It is sumed up very well in the song lyrics below by Placido Domingo and John Denver. The song is titled "Perhaps Love"
"Perhaps love is like a resting place, a shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort, it is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble when you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home
Perhaps love is like a window, perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer, it wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself and don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
Love to some is like a cloud, to some as strong as steel
For some a way of living, for some a way to feel
And some say love is holding on and some say letting go
And some say love is everything, and some say they don't know
Perhaps love is like the ocean, full of conflict, full of pain
Like a fire when it's cold outside, thunder when it rains
If I should live forever, and all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you
Some say love is holding on and some say letting go
Some say love is everything and some say they don't know
Perhaps love is like the ocean, full of conflict, full of pain
Like a fire when it's cold outside, thunder when it rains
If I should live forever, and all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you"
There is not much else I can add to that.
Sorry for the long post.
Mike Nikolai |
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| SketchifisT |
Always different kinds of love, Like agape ( no clue right spelling ) Its a greek word or something means unconditional love the kind that God has for us, Means no matter what we do he still loves us, kinda what most parents have towards there children.
For me, i know i really love someone when if it came down to it would i sacrafice my life for theres. If there was a gun wieldin maniac and i would say Shoot me and let "so and so" go kinda thing.
Love is a difficult thing, it holds so much power, it can make you feel like you are unstoppable or utterly vunerable to everything in the world.
Love to me is something that cant be touched by anything else, its this great feeling that makes you feel like nothing will get you down and that anything is possible. To me love is when you care more about that persons well being then yourself you want to see them triumph even if its over you. You just want them to be better, even more then yourself.
Sorry ill write more later , most of my stuff was takin but yeah ive written papers on it, i just dont wanna bore you people with em. good post again tho goes to terry |
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| REFLUX |
Thank ya :)
I look foward to hearing more of your thoughts on "Love" :cool: |
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| s2oooR |
| can someone give examples between love and lust? sometimes ppls defn' of love could be considered just lust in some cases.... |
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| SketchifisT |
| quickly before igo to work and then ill write more. Lust is based on a physical attraction mostly. Pretty lust is when you desire that persons body in physical sense, Love is a deeper thing. Most time love means you desire the person as well but its also on a deeper level. Im late for work thats all i got for now, more later |
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| s2oooR |
so when someone says to you,,,,
I love how i feel when im around her. I love the way she makes me feel, etc..... is that love or lust?
.... So lets say she's not the most attractive person in the world, far from it, would u still feel the same way about her .... for those of u that have gfs? Or do u think that someone who's alittle bit more attractive, but not quite the same personality, would grab your attention and you'd drop the person you're with at the slightest sign that she likes you? |
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| REFLUX |
Lust, to me, is just physical.
Nothing else.
Your thoughts of them are predominated by your physical attraction to them.
As for your first example, Rommel, it depends on how you "feel."
If you feel great when you're around her because you like the attention you get cuz other guys gawk at your gf, sounds more like lust than love.
Oh another way to figure out lust is:
Lust is selfish.
As SketchifisT mentioned in his definition for love, love is when you are willing to sacrifice something so your Sig. Other can be better off.
Lust only wishes to accomplish its own goals.
That's why there is "Making Love" and "Fucking." |
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| Nightstalker |
| A waste of time and effort. |
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| raidar |
I can not promise you that I will not change
I can not promise you that I will not have many different moods
I cannot promise you that I will not hurt your feelings sometimes
I can not promise you that I will not be erratic
I can not promise you that I will always be strong
I can not promise you that my faults will not show
But -
I do promise you that I will always be supportive of you
I do promise you that I will share all my thoughts
and feelings with you
I do promise you that I will give you freedom to be yourself
I do promise you that I will understand everything that you do
I do promise you that I will be completely honest with you
I do promise you that I will laugh and cry with you
I do promise you that I will help you achieve all your goals
But -
most of all
I do promise you that I love you
Thats what it is for me |
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| kyuu |
| something unconditional |
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| Kiddo |
| I'm with nightstalker on this one! it truely is a waste of time and effort |
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| dsl55 |
Love is being with your girl, and no matter what happens you stay by her side like a man should. Granted this could be one sided on your behalf, but it's still love on your part.
(that was just my opinion, not my experience)
I would like to experience this emotion, but unfortunatley the right girl won't present herself :(
And as far as love for your parents and siblings, I am one of the rare few that has no love for their family, and I don't mean I dislike them, I just truely have no emotion for them. I understand this could be questioned and argued against, but it is a whole truth. I don't enjoy it this way, but it is how my life has been.
So when I finally do experience love, it damn well better be amazing. |
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| sparkycivic |
I think that "love" is the bond that you get when you have something which you need or depend on. you love your car because you need it and you wouldn't want to imagine your life without it. you love your parents because you depended on them for so long, and in a small way, continue to do so long after you leave their nest. additionally, Love is the need that you develop for a partner, if you indeed have such a need as most of us are preprogrammed to have. In mating, i think that the Love bond is preprogrammed in us by the need to have a partner in mating since the job is, and has always been, too difficult to do well alone.
Conversely, hate would be the opposite: things that you fear will cause harm to you or those things/people that you love. for example, you hate gangsters, not for what they have done to you already, but before that even, because you know that, should you encounter one, he would be likely to cause you harm be virtue of being a gangster, thus we feel hate toward them.
What I am trying to illustrate here, is that in my understanding of this subject, much of what we call "love" is not based on a specific definition, but is something that we know at a basic level of humanity that isn't always aparant, but we're born with it. It's in our most basic level of our programmed instainct, right next to breathing and shitting.
Please excuse my typing, i've been drinking all day, so my fingers are a little numb. :beer: |
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| beatshack |
i would like to clarify the answer to "the difference between love and lust".. first off, lust isn't physical attraction.. lust is not a good thing, physical attraction is a good thing.. we were made to be phyisically attracted to each other.. from years of reading and listening to people wiser than me, lust starts out as committing your mind to imagining what you want to do with your body.. eg. u see a smoking chick and think about what it would be like to be banging her (don't laugh i know most guys think this way).. when this kind of thinking becomes rampant and obsessive, it spills over into actions, and well before you know it you're a single parent, or have contracted some STD, or have made enemies with past/jealous boyfriends etc.. my source for all this belief is mostly from the Bible, but alot of it is also just observing the the course of actions in the lives of others.
point and case.. this might sound impossible, but i think true love waits... i don't really like the thought of marrying some girl who's banged like 4 other guys before me who she may have loved, but didn't marry.. and i'm sure she doesn't like the thought of me in the same position... i know for most its too late to wait, cuz they didn't... but its not too late to start.
that was the longest and most preachiest post i've ever posted on 780 hehaha... anyway.. thats truth, take it or leave it. |
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| rexxrally |
Love is the score in a tennis match before it starts
(it actually has deeper meaning if you think about it)
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| Stainless |
Good quotes:
"Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry."
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
"It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel."
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly"
-One of my favorites, I had a girlfriend while I was working in a pub with some smoking hot waitresses, and she got mad because she didn't think she was as pretty as them. I found that quote and attached it to a huge boquet that I had sent to her workplace and explained that while she might think they were perfect in her eyes, she was far more perfect than any of them ever will be in my eyes.
"Honestly, if you're not willing to sound stupid you don't deserve to be in love."
-From A Lot Like Love. I agree wholeheartedly. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by Stainless
Good quotes:
"Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry."
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
"It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel."
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly"
-One of my favorites, I had a girlfriend while I was working in a pub with some smoking hot waitresses, and she got mad because she didn't think she was as pretty as them. I found that quote and attached it to a huge boquet that I had sent to her workplace and explained that while she might think they were perfect in her eyes, she was far more perfect than any of them ever will be in my eyes.
"Honestly, if you're not willing to sound stupid you don't deserve to be in love."
-From A Lot Like Love. I agree wholeheartedly.
Wow..
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| DomesticDrifter |
| Being loved is like peeing your pants, everyone can see it but only you can feel the warmpth |
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| Markgase2000 |
| I dont know what the definition of love is :( every time I think Im on the right track it slips away from me............ |
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| SketchifisT |
Love is a tricky thing and it doesn't actually fully develop right away. There are different kinds of love, like the first feeling of it when you are still tryin to be the best possible person then 2nd stage where you start to let everything out cause you are comfortable enough with the person and so forth. 3rd stage you know each others flaws but thats why you love them is for there flaws and how much they actually make the person rather then all the outside things that they may do so well. Once you can accept someones flaws and still care about them with those flaws you got yourself a keeper ;)
Love is not easy but when you find it you will know. Like i said before and others have posted from other stuff. Love is when you want the other person to be better before you. You cheer harder for them then you do for yourself, that being said when they are down you are there with them tryin to get em over the hump. Once you find someone you truely care about hold onto it, its a great feeling and i wouldn't give up the year and 8months i had with my ex. Everything that hurt afterwards doesn't compare to the great times we had together.
Love will make you do crazy things that a sane person would never do. Your heart has a huge control over your brain ;) You can be brain dead and still keep your organ goin but i haven't heard of someone with no heart still going ;) |
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| hAxOr |
| i got dumped so i never got so far as lovin :dunno: so i dont worry bout it :p |
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