| the "ones" that have been lost - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| SketchifisT |
Ive been unlucky in my 19 years with girls. Its not that i cant find them, its more so i find good ones and then either screw it up or something happens. I understand it life but im just tryin to see who else here has lost girls or if a girl is readin, the guy you lost. It can either be from you screwin up or them, but i want to know who else here as lost and how many they have lost. We are talkin about someone who was great , that you loved and considered something more would come from it.
Ive lost 2, Writin a book on it actually. First was a girl name Annie ( wont say last name ) i loved her to bits we drifted apart cause she was a figure skater and went to skate proffesionally and i was in alberta playin hockey. I quit hockey the day she broke up with me and tried to fix it comin home but it didn't work, in the midst of quitin hockey i set myself back to a place i could never recover from i lost my scholarship and all my chances in hockey are over in Germany where i can have a fresh start ( most teams here are familiar that i left my team ) . Anyways me and annie stayed close and in "love" till about July i may have pushed too hard on her and she couldn't take it anymore and for that im deeply and forever regretful. We were friends a bit after july but since October of 04 we haven't had a single contact.
Number 2, a Girl Lindsey. We are still goin, but i have a feeling it wont go. She lives in St Louis Missouri , well new bloomfield missouri but its close enuff to St Louis so we will leave it at that. We both love each other and we work so well together that i cant see us not being friends or one day getting married. But once again she has kinda pushed away, partially cause she doesn't want to get hurt and since we live so far apart its pointless being close but yeah. Once i again i tried to solve it and made it worse now ive fully backed off, hopin the hole i dug will fill in and we can move on from it.
Im a sarcastic asshole but i treat the girls i care about with the utmost respect i dunno if thats where im goin wrong if they want me to do something wrong or what but who knows.
Im just makin this post for all those who have lost someone and have had it leave a mark on your heart / soul that will never fully go away. |
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| ehos |
The rules:
Never tell a girl you like her.
Unless she's your wife, then you better tell her every day :) |
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| SketchifisT |
| Thank you for that touchin post ;) |
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| SketchifisT |
| You guys dont need to crack open like idid, but im just tryin to see if im the only guy that feels hurt when a good relationship dies off. I know im not but i wanna hear some other people say it for once. |
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| baker_jeff |
| I'd tell my story, but it's still pretty fresh, and yeah it hurts to think about it. :( |
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| Adam |
I know what youre talking about...I was with this girl since High School, after about 3 years we moved to Edmonton from down east. I was a bit taken with the big city, so I dumped her to go fishing.
After all that crap I felt like shit and wanted her back, we got back together....and I married her.
Been together for 10 years now, married for 3 1/2 and I couldnt be happier.
Not to make you feel worse or anything, but I lost my lady and fought like hell for her to take me back, it worked out for me....sorry your luck wasnt the same. |
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| TrevorK |
| I wish I could relate - I've never lost anyone I thought could be "the one". |
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| dsl55 |
I have before and maybe I'll be ready to talk about it another time. Getting my thought's into writing helped a lot though. As far as losing scholarships or chances to play, get back on the horse, if you're a good goalie, work harder and get even better, you may be known as a deserter or something, but someone is going to want a top notch netminder.
If you are that good, why not buy a ticket to europe(I assume you're old enough to be out of HS and can earn the 600$ for a flight), arrange to try-out and don't look back and don't take no for an answer. |
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| SketchifisT |
Ohh yeah i am good enough , i was goin to go over there last year but the NHL is locked out, my main issue in BC is im now 20 and its the last year of junior hockey and i didn't play all last year and some teams are worried about my health on top of everything.
Germany is where iwant to play and ima give it all i got. Im in the best shape of my life and i just need my agent to give me a shout back.
Adam i hear what you are sayin, and the weird thing is i know annie is back in town and i would like to give it a shot but i feel bad goin after her when she hasn't made any contact at all with me. I only know she is back in town and where she works cause my friend ended up eatin at the place she was workin.
I understand some wounds are too fresh but yeah i figured i would post up, i dont think 1 of my wounds will ever fully heal up but whatever that is life is it not? Thanks for the post up guys lets keep it going ;) |
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| sparkycivic |
well, I lost something, im not sure that i really had... but it hurts anyhow.
So this girl that i met from her being friends with my previous (and first GF) was still talking to me after i left her friend. a couple years had passed since i became single, and this girl had her own boyfriend and a house and stuff. they got pregnant and he left her right when she found out. she came to me and I helped her deal with him leaving and we spend lots of quality time together as friends. aftera complicated pregnancy, the baby was born 8 weeks early, and i was still helping her while she was in the hospital. she finally asked in a phonecall from 300Km's away, if I wanted to take her and the baby as my own. I thought about it for a moment, to comprehend the gravity of such a decision, and then said 'yes'. I was ready to do what I had always dreamed i could do, and so I was very happy. My life finally had a purpose, something I sorely needed. a feeling of responsibility came over me that is difficult to express, but it goes without saying that i had never felt MANlier than i did for those 2 days.
Well, after a couple of days, she phoned me again(collect, as usual because it was the only way she could from there) and she said that she made a mistake and that she was going to continue trying to turn the other guy around. I was devastated. I still can't comprehend how someone could take such an important issue such as family, and give it such little regard, it also bears noting that she still has not succeeded in her goal of changing him. I also fail to understand how anyone could have such ignorance of the emotions of others, especially a close friend. To this day i can't think about that whole disaster without getting shakey, and i often wonder abot what could have been if...
I haven't met any other girls since that I have been able to get comfortable with, even though i now live 1100 Km away. I think i now have a fear that it might happen again, so as you can probably tell if you got this far, that im hopelessly single, due in no small part to this incident. how's that for a sob-story? :beer:
you know, it is nice to get this out, did it work for you too? |
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| Adam |
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Originally posted by SketchifisT
Ohh yeah i am good enough , i was goin to go over there last year but the NHL is locked out, my main issue in BC is im now 20 and its the last year of junior hockey and i didn't play all last year and some teams are worried about my health on top of everything.
Germany is where iwant to play and ima give it all i got. Im in the best shape of my life and i just need my agent to give me a shout back.
Adam i hear what you are sayin, and the weird thing is i know annie is back in town and i would like to give it a shot but i feel bad goin after her when she hasn't made any contact at all with me. I only know she is back in town and where she works cause my friend ended up eatin at the place she was workin.
I understand some wounds are too fresh but yeah i figured i would post up, i dont think 1 of my wounds will ever fully heal up but whatever that is life is it not? Thanks for the post up guys lets keep it going ;)
you wont know anything till you talk to her...if it turns out she doesnt want anything then at least you know. If you dont do anything then you might be kicking yourself later on down the road. |
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| colossus |
It's funny the games girls play.
:dunno: |
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| snugs |
Most of this stuff just sounds like teenage crushes or those little "training" relationships that we all have while we're young....
Not to be callous or anything guys, but give yourselves about 10 more years and when you look back you'll laugh at yourselves. :) |
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| bigmack000 |
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Originally posted by snugs
Most of this stuff just sounds like teenage crushes or those little "training" relationships that we all have while we're young....
Not to be callous or anything guys, but give yourselves about 10 more years and when you look back you'll laugh at yourselves. :)
word you are looking for is infatuation is pretty much thos teenage crush type love/ puppy love |
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| snugs |
| Can you be infatuated with a skinny girl? :dunno: |
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| SketchifisT |
| well the fact me and annie were goin to get engaged so yeah, MEH i undersatnd what you guys are sayin but young adults / teenagers can fall in love. I was with her for a while. I understand what you are sayin but at the same time it doesn't change how u feel about it |
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| sparkycivic |
| Well, i knew her for 5 years, does that officially count as infatuation? I was with her friend for 3 of those years, and all of this happened after i was out of high school for a year. |
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| SketchifisT |
Nope sparky thats too young im sorry u cant feel anything until u are at least mid 20's or so ive been told. So for everyone that has had a heart ache and you were young it doesn't count??
lol im with you sparky , some people mature earlier and get into things sooner doesn't mean it hurts less or the feelings weren't as strong. I get what was said but thats not the case everytime. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
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Originally posted by colossus
It's funny the games girls play.
:dunno:
do not tell me that men do not play games.
Men play games but their knowledge of how it affects others is greatly diminished |
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| SketchifisT |
I think it was in general, Yes i know men play games i wont lie. But ithink in general girls play more games, OR at least thats the general conception of it.
You can share some insight on what else guys do. be nice to get a girls view on it. |
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| dsl55 |
| You know I'm so fed up with everything to do with women, that if I were a religious man, I would start up my monkness now... Instead, I write music. Getting your thoughts into a visible medium is a surprisingly great tool. |
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| sparkycivic |
| yeah, take us on a journey into the twisted mind of a woman! I want to know that sort of logic runs such a thing. |
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| ae1969 |
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Originally posted by SketchifisT
I think it was in general, Yes i know men play games i wont lie. But ithink in general girls play more games, OR at least thats the general conception of it.
You can share some insight on what else guys do. be nice to get a girls view on it.
Uhmmmm games...........
Let me tell you men play as many games as women do.
Although we tend to think we are not actually playing them.
Women tend to get more emotionally involved in the situations and thus are more apt to having complete melt downs.
The ratio of men:women playing games is equal. |
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| Supra_devil |
| i had a 2 1/2 year relationship, she dumped me after i tried to make it work, i was broke up over it, single ever since cuz i don't like the bullshit games, had chances to date otehr girls before her and since her but haven't. I can only afford a house and a either a nice car or a girlfriend. so i choose the car :) |
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| SketchifisT |
| good choice on the car ;) |
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| trogdor |
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Originally posted by sparkycivic
yeah, take us on a journey into the twisted mind of a woman! I want to know that sort of logic runs such a thing.
Even though I am female I think girls suck! I have 1 female friend cause she's the only one I've ever been able to stand.
In my experience girls play way more games than guys. I'll admit that in my youth I wasn't the nicest girl, eg: moved out while b/f was at work with no warning, later he stole my car, wrote a zine about my evil ways and went into therapy (this is not bragging, i feel bad about it now)
My 1 female friend calls me he/she. Not because I have a penis but because, in her mind, I am a girl but I think like a guy. I have no problem with that! Guys are way better!
Girls are back-stabbin, fake, dishonest cows. (most of em)
i ahve a b/f now and i treat him a thousand times better than ive ever treated anyone, including my husband. it just took me some time to grow up and find someone i actually respect. |
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| WorkInProgress |
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Originally posted by trogdor
Even though I am female I think girls suck! I have 1 female friend cause she's the only one I've ever been able to stand.
In my experience girls play way more games than guys. I'll admit that in my youth I wasn't the nicest girl, eg: moved out while b/f was at work with no warning, later he stole my car, wrote a zine about my evil ways and went into therapy (this is not bragging, i feel bad about it now)
My 1 female friend calls me he/she. Not because I have a penis but because, in her mind, I am a girl but I think like a guy. I have no problem with that! Guys are way better!
Girls are back-stabbin, fake, dishonest cows. (most of em)
i ahve a b/f now and i treat him a thousand times better than ive ever treated anyone, including my husband. it just took me some time to grow up and find someone i actually respect.
Oh snap! The burninator is a woman!?
And I don't understand your last sentence? You have a boyfriend now whom you treat even better than your husband? So are you a cheating slut? Or are you previously divorced?
I'm confused...
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| trogdor |
cheating slut? I'd probably take offense to that . . . If I gave a shit, and if it was true.
To clear things up, I am seperated (3 yrs) both of us are procrastinators and are too lazy to get lawyers, I'd rather spend money on my car.
Oh, and I've never cheated. I think it's the lowest form of human behavior. If you don't want to be with somebody, suck it up and dump them. And don't do it cause you think you met somebody better . . . thats bullshit. |
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| JeepGirl |
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Originally posted by trogdor
cheating slut? I'd probably take offense to that . . . If I gave a shit, and if it was true.
To clear things up, I am seperated (3 yrs) both of us are procrastinators and are too lazy to get lawyers, I'd rather spend money on my car.
Oh, and I've never cheated. I think it's the lowest form of human behavior. If you don't want to be with somebody, suck it up and dump them. And don't do it cause you think you met somebody better . . . thats bullshit.
you sound alot like me LOL,
Procrastinator: my hubby and I are in the same boat, both separated from our ex's for years and years just to lazy/cheap to go do the paperwork..... common-law still works right?.... lol
Rather spend money on car parts, or in my case car parts/computers and movie memorabilia, than say cool clothes or home decoration..... as long as the bills and responsibilities are taken care of first of course....
and yeah, breaking up to "upgrade" to a newer/better lover is just wrong.
I think the worst thing about breaking up with someone after a long run is the withdrawl pains from attachment... it seems to take almost forever to get over that part and it hurts the worst..... but it does get better as time goes on. |
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| trogdor |
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Originally posted by JeepGirl
I think the worst thing about breaking up with someone after a long run is the withdrawl pains from attachment... it seems to take almost forever to get over that part and it hurts the worst..... but it does get better as time goes on.
HA! It took me no time at all to get over the failure of my marriage, the day I left was the greatest day of my life! |
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| JeepGirl |
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Originally posted by trogdor
HA! It took me no time at all to get over the failure of my marriage, the day I left was the greatest day of my life!
well I have to agree on that one... I was happy as can be when I left him, but I have had a few relationships that things just didn't work out and yeah, it hurt LOTS.
Love Hurts...
Serves me right for falling for pretty boys.... long haired rocker types, YUCK! never again LOL |
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| Playa |
Dude,
1st of all never let anyone stand in the way of what you want to do.
It may sound selfish to say but I do not care. You need to look out for number 1 and that is you. People come and go. Relationships thrive and die. Why would you want to hold yourself back and limit yourself for someone else, only to find out you fucked your self in the end by doing it?
As with the seasons, feelings change.
Call me an ass but I call it as it is. |
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| dtjohnst |
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Originally posted by Playa
Dude,
1st of all never let anyone stand in the way of what you want to do.
It may sound selfish to say but I do not care. You need to look out for number 1 and that is you. People come and go. Relationships thrive and die. Why would you want to hold yourself back and limit yourself for someone else, only to find out you fucked your self in the end by doing it?
As with the seasons, feelings change.
Call me an ass but I call it as it is.
I don't think the OP needs advice anymore....check the date on the thread. |
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| Playa |
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Originally posted by dtjohnst
I don't think the OP needs advice anymore....check the date on the thread.
Interesting find. Thank you for pointing that out.
You should have included Trogdor in that post too. If you check the date you will see that it was resurrected by Trogdor 03.23.07 In fact you should have cited everyone that posted after Trogdor. That is of course, if you want to get technical. :D
I still stand by my post. :D |
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| trogdor |
I stand by my post as well. My boss was gone and I was bored.
Besides no one replied with the twisted female take on things, it was my duty. . . . hehehe |
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| dtjohnst |
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Originally posted by Playa
Interesting find. Thank you for pointing that out.
You should have included Trogdor in that post too. If you check the date you will see that it was resurrected by Trogdor 03.23.07 In fact you should have cited everyone that posted after Trogdor. That is of course, if you want to get technical. :D
I still stand by my post. :D
No one else offered advice. |
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| Playa |
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Originally posted by dtjohnst
No one else offered advice.
hmmm.... good point. You are correct.
Nicely achieved. :beer: |
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