| What is needed to make a relationship work? - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| REFLUX |
In your mind, what are the key things that need to be there for a relationship to work well?
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Trust, same religion (or lack of), life goals, communication, etc. |
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| dsl55 |
Trust trust trust trust trust trust
And for my own personal self, my s.o. has to have ambition... |
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| PraxRX7 |
only 3 things.
Patience, Honesty, Trust
Love is important too, but it kinda goes with it. Love doesnt always exist initially, but I am sure it can grow, as long as the caring is there along with those 3 things. |
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| Adam |
For women:
< insert 3 corny words here >
For men:
Compromise, compromise, compromise.
my .02 |
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| REFLUX |
quote:
Originally posted by Adam
For women:
< insert 3 corny words here >
For men:
Compromise, compromise, compromise.
my .02
Hahaha that's a good one but does so much compromise lead to a man who never says no to his woman?
Or is it the usual happy medium? |
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| dance_of_curse |
| trust is everything without it your like swingers.....problem is i dont think i can trust another girl for a long time....shit fucked me over but meh no pain for thoes who fcuk us over:beer: |
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| RacerGirl |
Communication, honesty, patience.
without honest communication, feelings build up, and if you don't talk about them with your partner, they cannot do anything to work on themselves and then your one day you get into a minor tiff, and you find out that your relationship is basically a shell, and there is nothing you can do to to fix it, because your partner didn't tell you anything was wrong.
The only thing you can do is start over if you still love the person, work on the part of yourself that is making you question, and see what happens. |
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| s2oooR |
| sounds like you're talking from experience :dunno: |
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| Billy |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
Hahaha that's a good one but does so much compromise lead to a man who never says no to his woman?
Or is it the usual happy medium?
It usually leads to a man who never gets to do anything he wants because he is continuously compromising to make the bitch happy. Which makes him unhappy, cranky and eventually he leaves without his dog and becomes very bitter towards women. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
3 things..
compromise, ability to listen(on both ends, and for that matter talk), trust
Okay maybe that was 4 things, sorry reflux
Compromise with your time. Maybe skip a night out with the guys/girls for your so, or bring them along. And if you just need some time with ur friends.. say so
Listening / talking is a given. If someones only interested in talking about themselves then thats a pretty big clue that you're issues are not important to them
Trust. of course, that they arent going to betray you. that they were really out with the guys/girls when the said they were. and yes dear.. i drank enough to tranquilize a horse last night.
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| REFLUX |
Actually I never put any limit on how many aspects you can list.
People just started listing 3 things for some reason.
Honestly, I think there are more than just 3 things that make a relationship work well.
Open & frequent communication
trust
acceptance of one another for who they are
similar SES (socio-economic status)/religion
give & take
willingness to say "sorry" or "I was wrong"
physical attraction
there are probably more but I think those are the main ones |
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| Adam |
quote:
Originally posted by Billy
It usually leads to a man who never gets to do anything he wants because he is continuously compromising to make the bitch happy. Which makes him unhappy, cranky and eventually he leaves without his dog and becomes very bitter towards women.
Actually in my case the oposite is true....I am by no means "whipped". What I was getting at was the days where you want to sit on the couch and do nothing and she says "lets go shopping" or whatever, then you say "OK".
Then when you want to do something by yourself or buy something for your car, she has nowhere to turn because you already did something with her. Its win win in my eyes.
Its a little sneaky, but it works.:p |
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| DC5PWR |
dedication....
forgiveness..
and something my asshole dad told me...
" the heavy hand rules the house ":D |
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| Billy |
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Originally posted by Adam
Actually in my case the oposite is true....I am by no means "whipped". What I was getting at was the days where you want to sit on the couch and do nothing and she says "lets go shopping" or whatever, then you say "OK".
Then when you want to do something by yourself or buy something for your car, she has nowhere to turn because you already did something with her. Its win win in my eyes.
Its a little sneaky, but it works.:p
Your girl is a little more willing to compromise than mine was then. Mine was stubborn and refused to go both ways. It was her way all the time. I totally agree with what your saying it just didn't work out for me that way. |
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| s2oooR |
quote:
Originally posted by Billy
Your girl is a little more willing to compromise than mine was then. Mine was stubborn and refused to go both ways. It was her way all the time. I totally agree with what your saying it just didn't work out for me that way.
what did your girl say when u called her on it? |
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| Billy |
| She said that she always did stuff that I wanted to do...Then when I asked for examples she stumbled and couldn't come up with anything. Then I lost it and started telling her that everytime I asked her to come to a car meet or go to a movie that I actually wanted to see (read Not a frickin chick flick) or anything that interested me, she'd flake out and say she was tired or just flat out didn't want to. After that things went even more downhill with me being more defiant and her not compromising for me...You can guess where that led.... |
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| s2oooR |
I guess she thought otherwise when u said that stuff about the car meet and movies u wanted to see.... :dunno:
thats too bad.... sounds pretty selfish to me.... im sure she has her side of the story too though.... |
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| GOT BOOST |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
In your mind, what are the key things that need to be there for a relationship to work well?
Ex.
Trust, same religion (or lack of), life goals, communication, etc.
Hi Terry,
Great question. I think for a relationship to work well there are many factors that need to be right.
There needs to be an understanding of what is expected between the two people.
There needs to be clear communication of feelings by both people.
There also needs to be trust, Love and a warm caring nurturing enviornment.
There also needs to be good little surprises along the way. Ie) Bringing your lady some flowers with out reason for no special occasion.
Life goals are important too. If you are both not on the same page with your goals, or if one has goals and the other does not, the relationship is heading for disaster real quick.
Openess and accepting is very important too. But most importantly both people need to be truely happy together, but more so with them selves deep down inside before they should enter a relationship.
That is just my humble opinion.
Mike Nikolai |
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| lilweiner |
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Originally posted by GOT BOOST
. But most importantly both people need to be truely happy together, but more so with them selves deep down inside before they should enter a relationship.
That is just my humble opinion.
Mike Nikolai
Yeah you hit the nail on the head... you cant make anyone else happy in life, if you cant be happy with yourself... sure you can fake it for a few years... but if you dont love whats inside you... you can never love someone else... because your always going to have self esteem issues and then they turn into trust issues cause you think yer gf is cheating on you because you lack self confidence and..... ohh fuck its just a mess. I know... i've been down that road many years ago. |
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| RSN CRX |
| SEX SEX and more SEX.....oh ya trust is important too |
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| Transporter |
| Communication |
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| REFLUX |
quote:
Originally posted by RSN CRX
SEX SEX and more SEX....
So you must be an anti-social introvert
(kind of a convoluted joke :D) |
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| RSN CRX |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
So you must be an anti-social introvert
(kind of a convoluted joke :D)
Who needs to be social when they are having sex. The only things I wanna hear out of her mouth are her moans. |
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| REFLUX |
an anti-social introvert would most likely be someone who doesn't go out & spends all their time alone
so you being one & saying sex is all that matters...must mean you masturbate a lot
like I said, it was convoluted
guess I could've said you were a hermit....... |
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| Markgase2000 |
Depends on what era , this era or 30-40 years back when men expected supper and the house clean all the time?
Nowadays it seems women are taking over.....
I think a guy and chick that like each other and learn each other got a chance.
Wheres the poll? |
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| REFLUX |
too many options to make a poll
as for the era, if you're from the 30s or 40s, then reply accordingly ;)
but I don't think you are so..how about 2005?
:D |
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| tokes |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
I think a guy and chick that like each other and learn each other got a chance.
Agreed. If you're comfortable around each other and have fun, then everything else is probably going to fall into place. Biggest thing for me is say how you feel. If you don't really want to see something like team america with a bunch of my friends, just god damn tell me instead of going along with it, being mopey, ruining the movie, and then whining about it afterwards. |
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| THE DEVIL |
-Communication
-Trust
-Alcohol
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(the last one always gets me in trouble for the first 2) |
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| fugumerkur |
if you want a relationship to work... DON"T GET MARRIED!
with the divorce rate the way it is and celebrities making it look so cool to do , marriage has become a fad and is no longer something sacred.
Though a good relationship that stands the test of time and its between two people with good minds then marriage is all well.
but as I said before, don't get married! |
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