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Story and the girls blog sites can be found at the link below.
"As soon as I read the article and browsed her blogs and livejournal, I felt a sick sense of familiarity."
http://outspokenyouth.blogspot.com/ |
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| REFLUX |
Great blog Ricardo.
I agree with it totally, it all boils down to the parents.
Got a child who hangs with bad friends? Ask yourself why your child is doing that.
Maybe he/she wants attention from their peers and they want the attention because they don't get it elsewhere (i.e. from the parent).
Got bad kids? Probably because you're a bad parent.
Just 1 thing I want to point out, there are actually 4 defined parenting styles:
authoritative (high demandingness, high responsiveness)
authoritarian (high demandingness, low responsiveness)
indulgent (low demandingness, high responsiveness)
neglecting (low demandingness, low responsiveness).
Authoritative being the most ideal parenting style
high demands with sufficient reasoning, explanation, understanding for the child
Authoritarian is pretty straightforward, it's the parent that goes: "Do it because I said so."
No reasoning, explanation, etc. Low responsiveness.
Indulgent is the parent who spoils a child, low demands but lots of attention given (gifts, toys, etc)
And Neglecting is the last parenting style you mentioned in your blog. |
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| Casanova |
| Awesome Terry, thanks man, I will reword and restyle it tomorrow. I am getting alot of flack for it from asians haha so I have a few minor rewordings to do when I am not exhausted haha |
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| DelSoln |
"The asian mothers that I know have unrealistic expectations of their children or I guess asian parents in general, no matter what the child does no matter how well they do, the parents never commend them or praise them for their hard work."
Oh I wonder why you would be getting flack at all. :p Slight generalization there. As for the parenting styles that is common knowledge for anyone who has taken sociology. |
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| REFLUX |
DelSoln:
hahahahhahaha
common knowledge for anyone who's taken Sociology?
Put up a poll to see who has man, I would hazard a guess that no more than 5% of this forum's users have taken Sociology.
And btw, the parenting styles is from Psychology ;) |
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| Casanova |
| I just took those parenting styles from my experiences and common sense. |
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| DelSoln |
| Reflux: Lol I stand corrected then. By the way I'll leave the polls for you ;) . |
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| Inzane |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
Put up a poll to see who has man, I would hazard a guess that no more than 5% of this forum's users have taken Sociology.
LMAO. I'd wager that probably no more than 5% (ok maybe 10%) of this forum has even completed post-secondary education, based on general observation of age and maturity around here. |
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| REFLUX |
quote:
Originally posted by Inzane
LMAO. I'd wager that probably no more than 5% (ok maybe 10%) of this forum has even completed post-secondary education, based on general observation of age and maturity around here.
LOL true enough :D
DelSoln:
Haha I don't mind sharing the limelight :cool:
Right right so to stay on topic, I find that more & more often in today's society...blame is often pushed off onto other things or other people.
Just like in Casanova's blog, parents blame mass media & pop culture for the problems found in today's youth.
Justified cause for concern....or just lazy parents??? |
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| scooby_dooby |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
Got bad kids? Probably because you're a bad parent.
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that's just plain wrong. I know lots of parents that have 1 kid that turned out perfect, total straight arrow, only to have another that was the complete opposite.
alot depends on parenting, alot also just depends on the person. |
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| ae1969 |
Actually it is sociology. Many senior level sociology courses that deal with family, parenting etc.
BUT..........
as much as I oppose these parenting styles that breed sociopaths...........
PLEASE ..........Lets get real. A 16 year old not knowing what they are doing.
THe kid is a criminal.
An 8-12 year would get the benefit of the doubt.
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| REFLUX |
scooby dooby:
Yeah it may seem like that but there is obviously more to their life story than just "My sibling is good, I am bad."
So many variables have to be taken into account, no 2 children are raised exactly the same, even if they are identical twins.
I think it would be fairly accurate to say that if one has a sibling who is closer to an extremity (very well behaved or very delinquent), the other sister/brother will tend to be closer to the opposite end of the spectrum than from their sibling.
Either that or both of them will be similar (very well behaved or very delinquent).
To explain the first situation, things such as age difference, social economic factors of the family, etc have to be taken into account.
For example, say Susie is 18 years old and Brian is 12, and Susie is a real brat because during her early years her parents were too busy trying to JUST scrap by and had no time to raise her properly.
But now that things are going well, they have more time & financial stability to focus on raising Brian properly.
So Brian's got a better upbringing than his sister.
But say Susie & Brian are only 2 years apart in age, they both would probably experience similar family ups & downs and both would likely have similar personality characteristics due to a more common environment.
ae1969:
I have yet to take or even see any Sociology courses that deal with parenting styles but I have taken Adolescent Psychology (Psych 327) that specifically listed those four parenting types in both the text & lecture material.
Do you know which Soc course deals with parenting?
I'd like to take that since I still have some room to fill up my Soc minor. |
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| scooby_dooby |
My ex-GF was raised by completely straight arrow parents, she was basically as good as it gets, perfect girl, straight A=s in school, listened to her dad, didn't date until 16, extremely responsible.
Her younger sister, not even 2 full years younger was the COMPLETE opposite.
It had absolutely nothing to do with the parenting.
Although I do agree with you for the most part, got bad kids you're probably a bad parent, though not necessarily.
Some kids are just born that way |
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| REFLUX |
Fair enough, some people ARE just born to be different :)
Take Casanova for instance...hahaha j/k j/k |
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| christempo |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
ae1969:
I have yet to take or even see any Sociology courses that deal with parenting styles but I have taken Adolescent Psychology (Psych 327) that specifically listed those four parenting types in both the text & lecture material.
Do you know which Soc course deals with parenting?
I'd like to take that since I still have some room to fill up my Soc minor.
Soc 224 Sociology of deviance and conformity
Soc 271 introduction to the family
Soc 342 Socialization
Soc 377 Sociology of Youth
Soc 389 Gender, Families and Policy
ETC ETC
Back in the day I had to type ALL of my wifes term papers.
MY GOD do they write alot of papers..........
Lets just say I had to proof read everyone.......
There are a ton of family related courses in sociology.........SOME of the senior level ones are REALLY out there....... I am a Science guy and some of the stuff was WAYY over my head.... INTERESTING but some wild stuff......... |
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| REFLUX |
christempo:
Cool I'll have to check out 377 & 389!
Casanova:
Have you updated that blog yet? |
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| Casanova |
| yah I added a rant about beyonce hahaha but I havent made some edits to my blog that I want to do... too busy to focus on it |
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| ae1969 |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
christempo:
Cool I'll have to check out 377 & 389!
Casanova:
Have you updated that blog yet?
That was me. I hate when my nephew uses my computer. There should be an automatic log off.
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| REFLUX |
ae1969:
hahahahha
k well thanks for the list :D
Ricardo:
Lazy bum :p |
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