| dsl55 |
So I know we always make girl issues threads but I'm just in the mood to vent.
I liked this girl, we talked all the time. I work at 5am and I would talk with her till 1 am, everything seemed so good. And then she just stopped talking for a week and ignores me. She then talks to me a week later, feeding me some bs excuse, and of course I accept it :rolleyes: Now repeat that another time but this time I see her with someone else, a "family member", which I seriously doubted. I know I have to cut her loose but I just keep getting suckered back in.
This happens frequently with me, too frequently. Am I just picking the wrong women? |
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| REFLUX |
I think in your situation, if you find that women are often running off on you before you get a chance to get closer to them...you have bad timing.
Spending many hours talking to a lady until 1AM, when you have to work at 5AM and she KNOWS this....she has got to be interested in you & must know you have an interest as well (otherwise you wouldn't lose sleep over her).
So maybe she was waiting for you to make a move (or a bigger move) and ended up waiting so long she thought you weren't interested anymore?
Either that or she wasn't interested at all & was only using you as entertainment value cuz she is so damn bored at 1AM and is selfish enough to have you lose sleep over her just so she can be less bored.
A few more details are needed to get a better idea of how serious she is/was.
And also, if you have issues with her disappearing on you & reappearing with some "relative"...talk to her about it.
Obviously if you're not bf/gf it'd be awkward to out right ask her "who was that" so you got to be a little more subtle.
Ask her which side of her family the relative is from, where they're visiting from, etc etc.
If she fumbles on the answers, she's probably lying.
I suggest you to be classy about it & don't call her on her lie. Just know that she lied and it'd probably be better to cross her off your list from here on.
If you're wondering whether or not you're meeting women in the wrong places, ask yourself where you tend to meet women, what type of women typically go to these places and most importantly, WHY they go to these places.
Example:
Meet them at bars, well...why do you think women go to bars?
To meet men? To get drunk? To hang with their girlfriends & have fun?
Then that's the type of woman you may & will find at a bar, a lady who likes to meet new men regularly & get drunk at the same time.
Or they're there to party party party.
After you figure out where & why people go & do the things they do, ask yourself if that is what you want in a lady. |
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| dsl55 |
That was probably the most thorough explanation I could've asked for :thumbup:
As far as the relative issue, I did just that, and am convinced he ain't no relative. I wouldn't bother accusing her of it though. None of the situations were me being too long on making a move, not by a long shot. And reversely I wasn't pushing it to be too fast, atleast in my opinion.
I agree with the meeting in the bars/etc girls, although I think I've already told my sob story about that long ago in here lol
I actually have met most the recent girls by just being out and about. |
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| REFLUX |
Haha well you're welcome :)
Too bad to hear that this girl just walked away on you for another guy, don't let it get you down cuz there are all kinds of people in this world.
Good to hear you're meeting people in different ways/places :thumbup:
Life is strange but it seems like when you are in a position where you aren't looking for a Sig. Oth., one comes along. |
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| dsl55 |
You know what I have found? I'll go with shit like this for awhile, then suddenly there will be like 3 girls all jockeying for postion, and then all of a sudden it's back to this crap. Lol I've even become an all around nicer person incase it's karma!
And I won't ever date a bargirl again, even though the one I did meet at the bar was the farthest thing from your typical barstar, it's just a bad idea.
I think my biggest pet peeve is not being informed. Like if we have a date or just a casual get together planned and she flakes out and the next day explains it, I just refuse to believe that sometime that day prior to our planned time or sometime that day they could let me know what happend. Maybe it's just me, but that just really chafes lol... |
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| REFLUX |
^^^
I agree with you, I think it's called "irresponsible"
but I guess everyone's different, if it was a legitimate reason to cancel but too personal to explain to someone they just met....:dunno: |
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| dsl55 |
YEah I think it is pretty irresponsible... ANd as far as a legitimate excuse, I've heard ones that are "legitimate" but whether the girl was telling the turth is beyond me, I'm not gonna call her on it though.
So where does one find responsible girls! hahaha |
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| colossus |
Let's distill this stuation down to the essence:
You like/got the hots for this girl +
She's got excuses for her whereabouts
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TOTAL = You're being played, but you can't give up cause you like her. Well you're in for some pain if you hang on. |
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| lilweiner |
| take her out for a roofie colada.... they love those... and then after an hour you can show her whos the boss.. |
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| dsl55 |
I thought they were ruthie colada's? :p
And colossus, you're absolutley right. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
dsl55 you and me both have the same problems man. first we hook up with random dumb bar whores and then get played by what you think is a "good" girl.
:beer: :beer: cheers to ya bud, we should go pick up some "good girls" from the library |
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| dsl55 |
Cheers mate :beer:
On the upside, I'm going to university in 5 days and that's just a whole new social circle and lot's of new ladies! We'll see who that goes! |
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| DomesticDrifter |
| hahha i have yet to find a good girl at university... mind you i'm sure there are lots out there. |
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| dsl55 |
| Somehow doubled this one! |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by DomesticDrifter
hahha i have yet to find a good girl at university... mind you i'm sure there are lots out there.
Weird, I've met several "good girls" at university.
And by "good girls", I mean our personalities seem to click, we can talk comfortably & relatively openly with each other, etc.
What do YOU define "good girls" as??? |
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| lilweiner |
| By good girl we mean, likes to swallow, never gives you the excuses that shes too tired, will give your friends blow jobs if you tell her too, will try anything, and lets you fool around with her friends. And give you some of her bi-weekly paycheck. |
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| DomesticDrifter |
ummmmm not quite but those are the perks.
I found alot of the same dumb girls at university. I'm sure there are alot of good ones out there, I just haven't meet one that I've gotten the "wow" factor in my brain. I've met lots that have made me go "wow" in my pants ahhaha.
I've sorta given up on find one, it'll happen when it happens. No rush. |
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| ehos |
Eat too much candy and it all tastes the same.
After some time you won't be able to tell 'good' from 'bad', and you will settle for 'eh, whatever.'
Good luck mang. |
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| SketchifisT |
meh you can try what im doin. Get a good girlfriend to help you pick a girl. Me ive swung and missed on the last 3 so yeah ive given up. next girl i find and think is alright ima have the "girlfriend" on mine help out and ask questions about her and what i like and so forth.
All depends what you are lookin for. Me im picky as hell but i always give in. So i dunno pick somet hings u wont give in on and go from there . either way gluck, try not datin for a while and see how that goes tho? |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by SketchifisT
meh you can try what im doin. Get a good girlfriend to help you pick a girl. Me ive swung and missed on the last 3 so yeah ive given up. next girl i find and think is alright ima have the "girlfriend" on mine help out and ask questions about her and what i like and so forth.
All depends what you are lookin for. Me im picky as hell but i always give in. So i dunno pick somet hings u wont give in on and go from there . either way gluck, try not datin for a while and see how that goes tho?
me too man, i'm picky as hell but its worth scoring the 10 in the end. and i'm not in the dating game anymore, just going out and having fun with my buddys. |
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| REFLUX |
I think a relationship should be relatively balanced & equal.
DomesticDrifter, you want to score a perfect 10...are you a perfect 10 yourself?
Or at least a 9 with a good personality?
I've discovered that it is rare to find a woman who is both 10 on the outside & 10 on the inside.
Usually it's 7 outside, 10 inside
or 10 outside, 5 inside
Though there are the few who are 8/9 outside, 8/9 inside
Anyways, things usually come your way when you least expect it :) |
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| SketchifisT |
Yeah just keep pluggin is the main advice, and just look for what you want.
Yeah terry i was kinda gettin at that, more so. My ex annie was an 8.5/9 outside but like a solid 9 inside ( that changed tho , such a shame :( ) then my new ex sophie was like a 9 outside but a 5 inside and it got old fast . so bitchy that she wouldnt hang out with my friends and blah blah blah blah blah
But yeah just keep your head up and you will run into something. I dont believe there is just 1 person for you in life but i think there is someone that fits you better then anyone else ( soulmate ) or whatever you may call, i dont like to call it a soulmate but you get the drift.
but yeah anyone worthwhile will care about you and what is goin on with your life, if they are tossin your feelings around left right and center they are not worth it, no matter how much it hurts move on. gluck with it, worse comes to worse you always have us ;) |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by SketchifisT
worse comes to worse you always have us ;)
hahahahahhahaha
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Yeah we got some good loving for you DomesticDrifter :thumbup: |
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| DomesticDrifter |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
hahahahahhahaha
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Yeah we got some good loving for you DomesticDrifter :thumbup:
I'm not that easy, you better at least buy me a drink or two:beer: |
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| red88.n/a.rx |
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Originally posted by lilweiner
By good girl we mean, likes to swallow, never gives you the excuses that shes too tired, will give your friends blow jobs if you tell her too, will try anything, and lets you fool around with her friends. And give you some of her bi-weekly paycheck.
I dont know about you man but I woudlnt want my girlfriend to be like that, one of buddies is exactly like that haha and I feel bad for him.
But besides that im cursed with picking up other peoples girlfriends. I swear I hardly ever have luck unless shes got a b/f lol then I dont even have to try.... its horible i know. |
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| REFLUX |
| I think lilweiner was joking ;) |
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| red88.n/a.rx |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
I think lilweiner was joking ;)
ahhaha I guess thats how sick it really is casue I wasnt joking around..... |
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| lilweiner |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
I think lilweiner was joking ;)
Yeah i was kidding. I havent honestly found a good girl for years. All the girls you meet now adays. Are all about the bling factor, and if you dont have a ncie car, forget it, they defnitly dont want to go anywhere with you. Girls today are just too far off on cloud nine, they think money is so easy to come by, and some just never grow out of party mode. I dated this really awsome girl when i was 20 she was 17, she like didnt drink that much and shit and was a virgin and never really did anything with anyone. When she hit 18 and started going to these clubs and getting shit faced, and tryin all sorts of drugs and shit, getting date rapped by all these guys ( she claims anywayz, i doubt it was date rap at the time) after she found what was at the bottom of the bottle and at the end of the 100 dollar bill she was sniffing coke from i wouldnt even bother talking to her. Now its funny cause she has 2 kids, shes 20, and has no education other than her grade 12. So good luck to her, and apparently i was the loser...... |
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| red88.n/a.rx |
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Originally posted by lilweiner
Yeah i was kidding. I havent honestly found a good girl for years. All the girls you meet now adays. Are all about the bling factor, and if you dont have a ncie car, forget it, they defnitly dont want to go anywhere with you. Girls today are just too far off on cloud nine, they think money is so easy to come by, and some just never grow out of party mode. I dated this really awsome girl when i was 20 she was 17, she like didnt drink that much and shit and was a virgin and never really did anything with anyone. When she hit 18 and started going to these clubs and getting shit faced, and tryin all sorts of drugs and shit, getting date rapped by all these guys ( she claims anywayz, i doubt it was date rap at the time) after she found what was at the bottom of the bottle and at the end of the 100 dollar bill she was sniffing coke from i wouldnt even bother talking to her. Now its funny cause she has 2 kids, shes 20, and has no education other than her grade 12. So good luck to her, and apparently i was the loser......
haha sound horrible..... like someone else asked above where do you go to pick up good girls? :dunno: |
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| SketchifisT |
Honestly there is not "set" place to pick up a good girl. You will know when it hits you, most time you will find a good girl when you dont expect too. Randomly really at the mall, on the street something like that, at least for me thats how it works.
I totally agree with lilweiner, girls hit like 18/19 and party all the time or you go the ones that still party into the mid 20's and that gets old real quick. They are all lookin for some guy to front the bill and get them drunk and so forth. Just depends on your age what girls you can get. Doesn't matter how mature you are at 19-20 you wont snag a 23-24 year old bombshell cause they are lookin for someone older, so you gotta settle in your age area , which for me being 19 turnin 20 is quite hard all the girls i think about datin have too many parties on there mind, and im passed the stage of gettin drunk friday , saturday and sunday for fun.
Anyways yeah, like isaid above, good girls are not in set location they are all over , findin them is the issue |
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| lilweiner |
| Yep, its weird. Girls around 23-24 are looking for a guy thats established, they dont want to waste time with some who is the same age and just starting to get thing like a house and cars, they want someone who already has all that shit. And the young girls well they are fun as hell, but spend anymore than just 2 nights with them and you realize that the only thing they are good for is sex...... more sex..... and sex. Thats it ... good luck having a meaningful relationship with them. They are all about tryin to be bar stars, while most of us are all about, getting better jobs, making more money, getting a better education, and building faster cars. My advice where to pick up a good girl.. There is no place to pick up a good girl. cause there is no good girls. In the end all you have is you anywayz... so having a girl is just a bonus..... but personally i'd rather have hot cars than a hot girl... |
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| REFLUX |
not having much luck with the ladies hey?
Seek and you shall find but BlueTurboEgg once said something along the lines of, "If you are looking for something in a sea of fish, odds are you will find a fish."
In other words, if you're looking for a good girl amongst these superficial women, you'll probably find another superficial person. |
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| SketchifisT |
what reflux / blue said is true. But thats why its even harder to find a good girl because its not like they all clump together. My only real advice is dont get down and keep going. But also dont expect a girl you meet at the bar who is plastered out of her mind to be a great pickup. Never know she may be alright but chances are thats shes not.
THis is why for me ive backed off tryin to find a girl, hopin that if i step to the side i can view stuff more freely and find someone. Ive been lucky but it kinda seems every guy is when you find the right / good girl. They kinda just pop up and you will know it. For me , ima date Kelly Clarkson :D if not ill die tryin ;) |
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| lilweiner |
| haha.... I know what yer saying... Right now i just kina concentrate on cars.... Mostly and school. and a lil bit of work. But it would be nice to find someone that has similar goals in life that we can work towards and try to accomplish together. Ex. nice cars, nice house, wicked garage with every tool imagineable and a hoist, you know the shit that everyone wants.... And having wicked kinky sex would also be a bonus. But whatever, i'll guess i'll know when i get there. |
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