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| Markgase2000 |
Heres a relationship challenge.
This woman has been seein this guy whos got mental illness for some years. She experienced all his ups and all his downs. His behaviour can be very unpredictable. He reacts to stressfull situations by often acting out smashing things getting mad and having fits of rage. He has never hit her or nothing like that. She chose to deal with it cus she loves him and wants him. He has done some pretty crazy things that would be a open doorway to make her want to leave. She stays and tries to help. Shes been at it for many years and she is supportive and loving to him even knowing he has reacted to situations with violence never towards her but violence towards others.She has witnessed him in violent situations that could easily open that door for her to leave him and yet again she doesnt. He has been known to be extremely Mischievous and a law breaker.
What do you all think? |
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| SketchifisT |
sounds like your split personality needs help.
Umm anytime theres violence in the equation i think there needs to be some help brought in. Go to a councellor, get some drugs help him tame down. Its only a matter of time before violence against others will turn to her.
The fact she loves him and has stood by him is great, but she needs to love him enough to understand that he needs help, even if he does not want it or seek it. He need to recieve some treatment to change his ways. If she loves him , then she should be able to see the path he is leadin will come to an end with pain for him and maybe her as well. Get him some help and see what happens from there.
Be of better help if i knew the mental disease. Like Depression can do these things to people, and i suffer from it and had someone leave me , because i get upset when others get hurt ( i try and help others before me ) . Love is a tough thing but when you love someone , you will try and help them, so i think she should try and get him help and go from there, congraTs to her for stickin it out till now, but its time to take it further. |
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| Markgase2000 |
Hes a skitzzo...........
Thanks for the reply Fisto bro :) |
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| SketchifisT |
For him being a skitzzo, definately get him some help. For skitzo's if you find it early enough Penicillin is actual able to do a good job and almost cure it.
Anyways there are tons of medications out there now, even though it changes the person making them feel different, sometimes it is better because the person they are sometimes should not be allow to act out. I have delt with certain people with these problems and they are great friends but they need to be under supervision because sometimes things go wrong thats life, but some people dont accept others that are different and once he is labeled as a freak its very hard to get away from that.
Definately if he shows violence and so forth, get him on some medication, and try and help the situation. |
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| Markgase2000 |
Ok the guy is me...
I am seein counselling again...
I been instatutionalised before. I need meds but I have to pay for them :( sad cus they do help! I have a problem I know Im working on it. I beeen in trouble cus of this issue many many times , I was self medicating for years with pot but I quite that now Im dry. If the meds they suggest didnt cost $200-$300 a month after the 80% deduction from my medicare plan I wouldnt be reluctant to take them.
I been putting this issue off for way too long I didnt know what else to do. I dont want to hurtmyself or worse yet my loved ones. I do need help but what can I do if I cant afford it? If I go on pills I have to quite my job and go on ache I dont want that it would screw my gf and I up we would never be able to atain our life goals. At the same time we wont be able to atain these goals if I am not medicated aswell. :(
Im so mad Im so pissed off I can hardly think as of late. When the depression kicks in I get pretty stupid and say pretty stupid things. I cant fully controll it I dont what else to do! :( Im not in good shape right now Im getting worse and worse day by day. What can I do :(
Im depending on my car club tryin to figure this shit out omg............. Im pathetic! |
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| SketchifisT |
See the sad thing is that the medication should be covered. I dont understand how they dont fully cover this kind of thing and its sickens me. Some people are unfortunate and "draw the short end of the stick" why punish them even more. My depression meds are not covered under medical, they were not that expensive in the end around 45 dollars a month give or take.
Well mark gluck wish i could write more but i have to head to work. I would start brigning this up with medical and the government and find a way to get it covered. |
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| TrevorK |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
If the meds they suggest didnt cost $200-$300 a month after the 80% deduction from my medicare plan I wouldnt be reluctant to take them.
If you need medication that costs 200-300 / month and it helps you why wouldn't you do it? If you don't have the money, then spend 10 hours/weekend working part time to pay for them.
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If I go on pills I have to quite my job and go on ache I dont want that it would screw my gf and I up we would never be able to atain our life goals. At the same time we wont be able to atain these goals if I am not medicated aswell. :(
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Ache? I assume you mean AISH?
And why would you have to quit your job if you go on your medication? |
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| Markgase2000 |
Cus they give me quite the cocktail of meds :( makes standing a chore in its self. Anti psychotic meds with tranqs anti dopamine and anti siezure medication. I would be able to afford the meds if I were on aish (thanks for the sp of the abbreviation) that way the meds are covered along with my costs of living. I think I would lose my Cars :(
I also look like Jim Carrey in "Me myself and Irene" with the cotton mouth :rolleyes: he may have seemed to exaggerating but not by much.....
I gotta go to work now. You all take care dont worry about me , let me know if you consider it rough on my GF cus thats my main concern. I hope to be medicated soon Im looking into alternatives that can help thru counselling and seein a new shrink or 2. |
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| SketchifisT |
Find a shrink that you like and stick with them, seeing multiple ones sometimes causes more issues then solving them. I have heard how bad the medications can be and obviously you have experience them. But its the way to do it, and if AISH is the only way, who cares if you loose your cars, unless they are not able to be replaced ever like some mint Model T one of a kind, then who cares. Life or cars??? I dont care who says cars if someone walked up to them and said, I either kill you right now or take your car, if they can say Shoot me and leave the car ( 1 you proved me wrong 2 You have serious issues and go to a shrink )
I love my car , but i love my life more, put some stuff into perspective. You say you care about your girlfriend and want to help her out, well putting your car into this jumble im pretty sure its going to fall short. Cars a money pits anyways sellin one and not havin one will allow you to save and get a better one.
Gluck with this mark and keep us up to date, there are a lot of people who are willing to help. Im also going to toss this out, try and seek God, go to church , or something. Even if you dont see religion as being an answer ( which i disagree with i think its a great part of life ) There are many people invovled with the church that can be of help ( IE free councelling and so forth ) PM me or MSN me freakshow_host79@hotmail.com im here to listen and help i have friends that struggle with mental illness and like i said, i struggled and have some what defeated Depression. gluck |
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| TrevorK |
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Originally posted by Markgase2000
I gotta go to work now. You all take care dont worry about me , let me know if you consider it rough on my GF cus thats my main concern. I hope to be medicated soon Im looking into alternatives that can help thru counselling and seein a new shrink or 2.
I think you've hit the best option - get some other opinions to see what else is out there.
AISH isn't a fun life - my uncle is on it.
If you have to choose between medication/AISH or work/violent/other tendancies perhaps the person you really need to talk to is your GF. Ask her what she thinks of your options - she might choose to support you while on AISH (Which I assume would be pretty much permanent?) because it'll be better for you.
You could also, with your experience, do under the table detailing work to make some extra coin while on AISH. Just throwing it out there. |
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| n0c7 |
| No offense to you Mark, but you claim to be an "ex pothead", I can see weed costing pretty damn close to $200-300 a month if you were smoking everyday yourself. I think Trevor's suggestion is reasonable if you feel that the meds are the better option. |
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| Markgase2000 |
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Originally posted by n0c7
No offense to you Mark, but you claim to be an "ex pothead", I can see weed costing pretty damn close to $200-300 a month if you were smoking everyday yourself. I think Trevor's suggestion is reasonable if you feel that the meds are the better option.
I wont go back to that crack pot method of self medicating "smokin pot" all it does is lead me back to dealing to support it. Good point tho if somebody was to go this route it could easily cost that or more a month cus the self medicating in this aspect often leads to "Recreational" use aswell.
Thanks for the comment man I was in no way offended by it whatsoever. :) |
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| Markgase2000 |
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Originally posted by TrevorK
I think you've hit the best option - get some other opinions to see what else is out there.
AISH isn't a fun life - my uncle is on it.
If you have to choose between medication/AISH or work/violent/other tendancies perhaps the person you really need to talk to is your GF. Ask her what she thinks of your options - she might choose to support you while on AISH (Which I assume would be pretty much permanent?) because it'll be better for you.
You could also, with your experience, do under the table detailing work to make some extra coin while on AISH. Just throwing it out there.
I talked to my gf quite deeply about the issue many many times. In a calm sit down and discuss it manner to no screaming yelling or having fits. She says shes strong enough but I dunno when she gets wrilled up when I act up I dont think its fair to her. I will continue to talk about it with her. I also discuss with her how I dont want to stop working I think I could easily go downhill from that even if on meds :(.
Not a terrable idea "working under the table" but if I were to get caught that would suck and even worse my concience would kill me for it.
Thanks for your support Trev I really appretiate it. Your good stuff :) |
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| Markgase2000 |
I know alot you members prolly think I do wierd posts/threads alot of time but not all of them are wierd. I bet you guys think "where the hell did this comment come from?" or "what the hell is he on today?" some of you will simply tell me and thats good.
Its a prime example of behaviour and changes in my thinking pattern due to my illness. I dont get as mad on the board tho its in person I get stupid cus things said in person bother me wrile me up more than a bunch of words.
I feel like a loser most of the time and the next day I read my previous posts and comment to them by others and say "wtf was I on , where the hell did that come from?" to myself. I feel ashamed by it infact several times I contemplated quiting so as not to further emberassing myself.
:rolleyes: man it sucks! I dig myself some stupid deep holes at times. |
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| qualthar |
Ah no worries Mark. Anyone who has met you in person knows you're a good guy, you can just be misunderstood online. I'm sure whatever path you choose you two will be happy with each other.
BTW the concert last night rocked, tell your gf we had an awesome time! I'll have to meet up with you at one of the winter meets or something :thumbup: |
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| Markgase2000 |
Thanks Dave :)
Ill be gettin out to winter meets and activities for sure!
:thumbup: 780 Tuners meets help me alot! |
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| ae1969 |
The first step is understanding you have a problem........
I think you are half way to where you want to be. Mental illness is probably the worst thing anyone will ever have to experience. The sad part is that it does not affect only the individual but as you realize.......everyone around you. Sadly your loved ones.
You obviously have a number of issues you still need to resolve........and it is something that as you grow older you will either
A. Learn to work through....... or B. Become a lifetime victim off.
I am assuming you are not in any current therapy at this point since you mention that cost is an issue. I definitely suggest you see a psychiatrist and stick it out.
There are some cost effective therapies out there. I know they like using the latest treatments available but there are options that can prove affordable.
If you see a psychiatrist shoot me an email an let me know what you are on. I may be able to help.
If not so much for yourself but for your girlfriend. |
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| Markgase2000 |
Well I taked with her once again. I say its a 50/50 chance shes gonna leave me. Shes bein a little more honest with me Im gonna see how much more she can honestly tell me. She doesnt know if shes willing to stick it out wether I go on meds or not........
Thanks ae1969 . Good advice and really nice of you to be so kind in offering me help :) Im not used to people willing to help in such a touchy situation as this. Well for me anyways. Ill keep you posted. I had a feeling I was gonna get bombed with bein called down for bein this way and admitting it. Kinda like posting my own doom. Its emberrasing but I dunno what else I could do. Keeps me thinkin I guess and that helps.
Thanks :) |
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| Bad Egg |
Hang in there Mark, we are pulling for you.
Too bad you don't have a drug plan from your employers, two good combined medical plans (you and your common law) would have you paying nothing for prescriptions & dental. Something people don't think about when they are young but it ends up meaning a lot, especially if you have a family member with a chronic illness.
You want me to adopt you so I can get you coverage?
Doubt that would fly, but you have our support anyways. |
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| Markgase2000 |
Well thats real nice of you Bad Egg. Thanks it means alot to me. :) You proven to be very helpfull to me in the past most of you have I apretiate it from the bottom of my heart.
Heh my honesty of my troubles is already starting to pull out negative feedback from alot of other members lol.
I may have just opened a door to my own demise on 780 for good this time. :( I asked for it I guess now here comes trouble haha.
Get out the pitch forks people its time for a Witch Hunt!
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| qualthar |
| Mark, if people can't understand your problems, they can just fuck right off. There's nothing wrong with having health/mental issues, and at least you're actively trying to find a solution that fits your life. Don't give up man, you have my support too :thumbup: |
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| Markgase2000 |
| Thanks Dave :) |
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| Markgase2000 |
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| colossus |
| You're not a loser Mark, your alive, therefore you're a winner, every day. No joke. If you want so honest advice... cut out the pot completely. From what you said, your gf appears to be co-dependent otherwise a person with healthy boundaries wouldn't have stayed. That's ok, either way. It's better you're honest and that she be honest, so you can get on with your life. AISH is not the end all be all solution, it's just a form of income. Even if/when you get it, your problems will still be there. The void remains unless you chose to do something yourself to fill it. The healthiest thing you could do is work and earn money, your self-esteem, confidence and natural abilities to keep yourself afloat mentally will increase. Do not give in to the temptation to label yourself with an illness or disease and that you HAVE to have meds to control your impulse. You are the master of your life, you do have choice and control. Stay strong, build character. Girls are attracted to that. :thumbup: |
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| Markgase2000 |
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Originally posted by colossus
You're not a loser Mark, your alive, therefore you're a winner, every day. No joke. If you want so honest advice... cut out the pot completely. From what you said, your gf appears to be co-dependent otherwise a person with healthy boundaries wouldn't have stayed. That's ok, either way. It's better you're honest and that she be honest, so you can get on with your life. AISH is not the end all be all solution, it's just a form of income. Even if/when you get it, your problems will still be there. The void remains unless you chose to do something yourself to fill it. The healthiest thing you could do is work and earn money, your self-esteem, confidence and natural abilities to keep yourself afloat mentally will increase. Do not give in to the temptation to label yourself with an illness or disease and that you HAVE to have meds to control your impulse. You are the master of your life, you do have choice and control. Stay strong, build character. Girls are attracted to that. :thumbup:
Its been 3 months since I got high. I am very proud of that aswell. Thanks for the words of encouragement collossus :)
I have had mental health issues since I was young. I have been in instatution (by my own accord) for a non medical assesment. I am ill theres no doubt. If I be the master of my own life and choose to ignore it I will ended up harming myself and others around me its happened before. Its not just a case of understanding the illness but taking the proper steps to ensure I can controll it. Schizzophrenia <--sp? is actually a disease and it is hereditary. I have familly members who suffer from it aswell. I was the first to be diagnosed with it tho.
Thanks again Colossus your pretty cool guy :) |
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