| Relationship advice for everyone - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| SketchifisT |
We have a fair amount of bright minds on this forum, and a lot of us have gone through , seen , been apart of a relationship that has gone wrong for whatever reason.
So i was just wanting to start this thread and maybe kinda sticky it for just general relationship advice.
Ima start with some breakup advice i recieved from a good friend
Ohh heres a tad bit of advice for others readin that are having relationship struggles or just down moments in general ...
Do an activity , that doesn't invovle a whole lot of skill or ANY competition , so go for a run or a skate or lift some weights and just do it till you are tired, it will get your body firing and help you feel better in general.
What you have gone through is somewhat like if you fall and
break your leg - it hurts - you go to the doctor - it takes alittle time but it gets better , however you don't forget that once you broke your leg in this case you have "broken" your emotional leg.. so you would go to see an doctor of emotions, stay active -get outside and get some sun seek out someone to talk to
This is for all advice not just "after the break-up" advice. Just toss some thoughts in and maybe we can save a relationship or 2 :D |
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| REFLUX |
| Good idea Sheldon, let's try to keep this informative everyone :) |
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| Mekanik22 |
| I got one, don't look at other girls asses while she's watching you.... :) |
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| RacerGirl |
| make sure to communicate. don't shut yourself off to the person you love. |
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| Billy |
| Don't let Him/Her run all over you. Make sure you meet in the middle on things you both disagree on. It will prevent a lot of resentment towards the other person. |
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| Markgase2000 |
Make sure you think it over before jumping into saying "I love you" make sure you "do" love them instead of making a mistake. Make sure its mutual , find out what needs work and make sure its open for communication so no misunderstanding is involved. Dont be pushy , every body has to do things at there own pace.
Dont make promises you cant keep. Dont bring outside problems in the relationship and take it out on your SO. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
| Try not to use sarcasm whilst arguing .. makes it worse |
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| bluecargirl666 |
| Try to argue like you would with a co worker.. makes everything more livable |
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| Markgase2000 |
Ill add another one.
Use fair fighting with no low blows. |
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| REFLUX |
quote:
Originally posted by RacerGirl
make sure to communicate. don't shut yourself off to the person you love.
This is probably the best piece of advice that can be given to ANY relationship (even if it's work, brother/sister, etc)
Communication is the greatest solver of problems.
But it needs support from Understanding and Willingness to Listen.
If you are Willing to Listen and are making an effort to try to Understand the other person, Communication can solve even the most difficult troubles.
My piece of advice, or rather word of experience:
Fighting with your Significant Other is not a sign of incompatibility or that the two of you can't work things out. Fighting is something that must happen in all relationships, especially when the two people care about each other.
If you truly don't care about the other person, would you even bother wasting your time & effort to fight with them? No.
A true sign of when a relationship is in real trouble, is when one of you begin to say, feel or think "Whatever" whenever things happen.
The lack of caring is what leads to people saying "Whatever."
So fight all you want, so long asa you make the effort to resolve the issue and feel that a resolution is important, things will most likely work out. |
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| JdmCrx |
| Don't talk to her on the phone for more than 7 minutes. |
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| S2KPWR |
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Originally posted by JdmCrx
Don't talk to her on the phone for more than 7 minutes.
Thats true, I spend alot of time away from my g/f, and what I noticed from guys at work who constantly phone home is that they get into alot of arguements. It almost seems like girls will try to start fights just cause they are bored of the everyday conversation.
I call mine like once or twice a week when Im gone and she's always excited to here from me, and keeps her waiting for my next call. Also I try to leave/say goodbye on a good note all the time.. Same goes for going to sleep.
Also, unexpected gifts once in a while helps out. You can get flowers delivered etc . |
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| RacerGirl |
| don't forget to tell them how much they mean to you. even if you have been fighting a lot, they still need to hear it. |
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| JdmCrx |
| Hrmm to keep to productive... after a few outings with her... next time you go out... don't really pay attention to her... answer your phone.. read car magazines... anything that will make her feel like last place. This will.. make her feel insecure.. and by the end of the night she'll be begging for your attention. |
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| S2KPWR |
| I think there is quite a difference between "starting" a relationship and "maintaining" one. Almost 2 totally different concepts. |
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| REFLUX |
Useful information only.
Useless ones have been deleted.
Another bit of advice:
There comes a time in most long term relationships when the two of you get very comfortable with each other.
You don't try as hard to look good, don't do your hair anymore, etc etc.
But every once in a while, do something extra special and out of the blue for the other person.
A very nice bouquet of flowers (put together by yourself), a night at the symphony, something different & out of the ordinary.
Ordinary = dinner at the Hardware Grill.
Any guy can think of that, it doesn't take much creativity.
Just something that you put thought into, is personal and is not "everyday."
A relationship burns like a fire but every once in a while, it needs a good wind to renew its flame. |
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| SketchifisT |
Well whatever thanks to the girls for inputin in some stuff. The guys answers some rude , however true in some ways. Certain times guys are unable to shut off the words " OMFG STFU " without doing something intoxicating. THis being said there are other ways.
If your girlfriend / wife is getting upset at you . just settle down think about something else its hard sometimes but just take yourself to a different spot ( driving your car or sports or something ) If it gets too much go out for something.. for me when im arguing with the wife or really upset and i gotta take a break i take a hockey puck ( i got billions ) and launch it as hard as i can into the forest behind my house. Sometimes it takes 2 pucks but its better then me lashin out at the girlfriend because most time if you are upset at her.. its probably due to other issues then her, because you are able to handle her the other times.
Thx for putting down some advice even though some of it isn't ALL that helpful. Really communication is great but also knowin when enough is enough is a tough call. Sometimes talking too much on the phone or in front of each other causes havok because you have exhausted stuff to talk about, so then you have pauses or silences and if your relationship is unable to have a pause or silence shit hits the fan.
THe best way to do it, is to sit and watch tv or a movie and just not say anything or make quick comments. Ease each other into silence or pauses so when it happens both of you are not going " omg what is there to say , jeez what can i say that is intresting or keep her attention " that being said those are issues to start a relationship not long term ones that have already gone through it.
Also dont try and always impress her. She is with you for a reason not because you go out of your way to flower her with gifts. Most girls even if they are in it for money like you for something else as well. Just stick to what you are good at. If thats being an asshole that treats her like shit be an asshole HOWEVER , no girl loves an asshole 24/8 so creep in some kindness out of no where and she will like you even more ( trust me it works )
Otherwise the big one is just STFU sometimes. Talking when you should be listening is a bad thing and learn to just listen sometimes. It will cause a lot less rustles in the relationship. |
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