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There are so many things in our lives that we have considered doing that may bring a great amount of joy to ourselves or to others but have never done.
Why is that?
You see a person stuck on the side of the road and think to yourself, "Maybe I should stop and see if they're ok."
But immediately after, your thoughts go, "Nah, I'm sure someone else will stop and check," or "They've probably already contacted someone and are coming to help."
But are you sure of that?
Why not take 5 or 10 minutes to pull over to make sure?
I'm not saying I'm some godly saint, but the above are some thoughts I've asked myself before.
So many times I've seen bums on the street asking for money but in fear of the potential for them to misspend it, I would rather take them to buy some food...
But I've never done it before!
There's the fear of them being crazy and possibly disease ridden.
There's the concern of them feeling insulted (for whatever reason).
So many "What if's" and various "worries" keep me from helping others when I have the chance to.
What keeps you from lending a hand?
Then on the flipside, there are the many personal aspirations we have, our ambitions and dreams that sit at the back of our mind but never pursue.
Why?
What is keeping you from living life more fully?
Several years ago I spoke with a custodian, asked her how she likes her job and such. The conversation eventually lead to her telling me she's always wanted to be a nurse.
Seeing that she was probably around 45 years I could imagine her thinking that it's too late......but is it?
Having little exposure to the health industry, it was my assumption that it wasn't too late.
That there are still probably some nurses 45 and over who are still employed.
If you have a dream that you wish to fulfill, are the reasons keeping you from doing it really that significant?
It's kind of like the saying, "Live on your knees or die on your feet?"
Living your life doing something you dislike is surely a poor way to exist.
Sure maybe your current job is secure and has benefits but couldn't you have two jobs?
Aren't there people who complete their education while working?
Couldn't you work from home?
Maybe you have a rough past with someone and it just burns you that it hasn't been resolved....so why not resolve it?
I guess the point of my rant is:
"If you really want it, go and do it, go and get it. If you don't at least TRY to do it and achieve it, then you must not really want it...so move on." |
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| shorti |
way too mush to read
cliffs? |
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| JonJonPoPong |
| Individualism, our own and not wanting to encroach on others. |
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| S2KPWR |
I barely help anymore because of past experiences.
I used to open doors for people all the time, especially the elderly.. But it seems that no one says thank you anymore, and lots of people dont even acknowledge what you did for them or act like its to be expected.
I was in timmies drive through recently, and the car behind me stalled... it was a native girl with her friend inside.. The car behind them just honked.. which I thought was ignorant.
I got out of my car, knocked on her window and asked if she needed a hand pushing, she said sure!... So i end up pushing it by MYSELF while her and her friend crank the stereo.. WHEN THERE CAR JUST DIED.
I start to get the car moving, and when we come up to the speaker in the drivethrough, THE BITCH HITS THE BRAKE AND STARTS TO ORDER!
I told her to shut the fuck up and let me push her through so other ppl behind her could get their orders.. I push her through to the parking lot and walk away enraged.
This is just one incident of many... These are the reasons why I dont help anymore... Western society has become fucked up in regards to manners, hospitality and common courtesy. |
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| S2KPWR |
Id rather help in 3rd world countries where its appreciated, instead of wasting my time with north americans.
And terry, I've accomplished my dreams and have done what I've always wanted.
Only thing that brings you to is wanting more.... and it never ends. |
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| newaccorddriver |
quote:
Originally posted by S2KPWR
Western society has become fucked up in regards to manners, hospitality and common courtesy.
so true... i noticed that more often then not, when i keep the door open for someone, they just walk through without saying as much as a 'thank you'. it pisses me off knowing that nobody seems to care for common courtesy anymore. it really bothers me that alot of the time, its the grown ups that are teaching the children and the youths this sorta thing. |
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| blitz |
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What is keeping you from living life more fully?
change ....
change tend to scare people like if you dumped your girlfriend who spends all your money and hold you back and with out her life could be pretty good and i could buy my cf hood alot faster.
...................................but the changes sucks |
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| ehos |
| No good deed goes unpunished. |
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| dc2696 |
| ever see that fraiser episode where he tries to help ppl?lol thats says it all, I hold doors for ppl, help ppl broke down if it looks bad ect but ya each to their own i guess. |
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| SilverNeonRacer |
I hold doors for people, and most people say thanks.
Cars.. depends on the situation....
A couple weeks ago, I saw a dead ford ranger on the side of the highway, wasn't that cold, a bit up from the truck a guy was walking... took me a sec to clue in it was probably his truck, but by then the truck behind be was slowing down for him.
Then some lady spun out coing down a icy hill, manged her jeep, a truck had stopped to help her and I was following a 4x4 in my rwd car..... she hit the gas to get going after slowng down for the wrecked jeep and spun out and hit the ditch right in front of me, so I stopped to amke sure she was fine.
I've hit the ditch, broke down, last winter iin -40 Iwas walking back and forth between my truch and a gas station on the highway, a good 5-10km walk, and people stopped to help me.
But yeah generally if they look like their fine(aka have tools and are doing something) or somebody else has stopped i don't stop. and unless I'm in a hurry, like running late as is, I'll stop.
s far as personal goals.... most things I'd like to do, but lack motovation. |
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| Buddyworm |
Well for small things I haven't had many issues. For example, holding the door for somebody with a nice smile usually begets a thank you. Largely I find it's all in the way you approach people. Although I do notice few people will look me in the eye during such encounters. And the ones that do are usually the "gangster" kids trying to look tough when I'm just scanning the crowd and people-watching.
As to what's kept me from doing something; being 18 I'm still fairly new to this whole life thing so there isn't much for me not to have accomplished. Just trying to model myself into a ladies man is all :p
B-Wurm :D |
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| ChromeDragon |
I tend to be courteous and it's usually returned. Back when I was driving my Tracker I would pull a couple of people out of the ditch every week, sometimes several in one day. Two minutes out of my day can save someone else hours and a whole lot of money and I like to think that others will return that favour if I'm in trouble.
As a rule when I'm stopping to help someone, if they don't have their hood up I assume they have help on the way. The international sign for car trouble is lifting your hood, even if you have a flat tire. If you want help, get that hood up!:thumbup: |
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| ehos |
Edmontonians are like people of the desert.
Never leave someone behind unless you KNOW they are ok. Only applies if it's freezing cold. But I find we're probably the nicest people for doing this.
I love the winter, it's the one thing that brings us all together. The spring/summer is our time of contempt for each other :) |
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| ozzmodan |
The need for self satisfaction prevents most people from helping, even the most generous of people like to feel resciprocated when they do something. This is why you can "sponsor a child" so you can get tangabile evidence that you have done something nice. This idea is fostered through western parenting where, if you can prove an "unselfish" deed was done you get reward far outweighing the actual deed. If you simply do something nice without proof, you get no direct reward.
The reason people don't live their lives the way they want is a lack of confidence & need for control. When you meet celebrities & people that excel in their field, you quickly realize that these people are no more intellegent or have any special abilities that got them where they are, they just did what they wanted even if they initially failed & usually never need an exact roadmap in their lives to be happy.
Kyle |
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