| jean-yus |
I know i haven't posted for ahwile.. but ive been shadowing the threads since my last post..
anyways.. i found out the boy was cheating on me.. and dumped him. He admited to everything and begged for me to take him back and it was a mistake and that he only loves me. etc.
jsut looking for some input on what i can do to tell him to forget it even when my heart is breaking? |
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| 2003specv |
Go mess around with a random dude (or chick :D ), I'm sure there are plenty of leg humpers around here to help you out.
If you can't get your thoughts off of him just get together with him and dump him as soon as something better comes along. |
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| Soulfly |
+^.. and Don't do anything sexual with him..
you never know if he's caught anything... :dunno: |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Even a snake can't change it's nature.
Remember the bad things, be firm and curt. Don't leave him with an answer that could lead to a future.
If he's as dumb as you thought he was (for cheating), this'll take awhile to set in. |
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| REFLUX |
You want input on what you can do to tell him to forget it even though you're hurt?
I'm not sure if I get your message but here's my best suggestion to what I understand:
Tell him straight out it's over, like BlueTurboEgg said, don't give him any answers that may give him any hope.
Be to the point, no BS, black & white.
Don't even think of giving him a second chance. |
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| 95EagleAWD |
^^
What he said.
Your ex = :asshole: |
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| bluecargirl666 |
there's always violence..
no seriously not that i'm some amazing expert but find something else to do in the time that you would have previously spent with him. Make yourself busy, so that you don't have time for his BS and you'll always have somewhere to go or something to do instead of falling back on habit :D g'luck chicky |
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| ae1969 |
Anger is your friend.
You don't owe him anything. |
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| SketchifisT |
Pretty much what turbo and reflux said and everyone else.
Just push him away, dont give me him anything that gives him any ounce of hope. He doesn't deserve it and just because you once loved him , he is no longer that guy. DOnt give into , ohh well i loved him and get back together here and there.
Its over he closed it down on himself a long time ago and you in the process. Its time to move on, no one here is going to lie and say its not hard. But just pick yourself up, do exercises , anything to make you tired. Try not to compete persay because if you loose may make it worse.
You just need to get your body pumping again, some people will say go find another guy but thats just pointless because that will bring up thoughts of this guy no matter how you slice and dice it. And in the end you hurt another guy or he may hurt you because he is just a rebound. My suggestion steer clear of relationships, sure talk with guys maybe have a coffee but steer clear of any bit of seriousness for a while. Just do a lot of exercises, go binge spend some money. Rev your car out on a freeway on ramp.
Big thing just make sure all your friends help you steer clear of him and keep you busy and not doin anything stupid. For the next bit just make sure you are always doin something not sittin around Mopin and gettin upset. Life carries on , right now may not feel like it but it will. Just be firm with him and shut it down and you will feel 100% better. Its a old cliche but once a cheater always a cheater . If he cheated on you once, the reason probably will be there again. And he doesn't love you if he cheated , he is just infatuated with you ... |
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| Adam |
If thats you in your avatar I'd be crying to get you back too!!:lol: :lol: :lol:
Get rid of him...he'll do it again. |
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| baker_jeff |
If he's really sorry, then by leaving him he'll learn not to to it again. If you go back to him, he'll learn that you're easy and he'll be tempted to do it again because he'll think he can get away with it.
He doesnt love you. People who truly love each other will never feel the need to cheat. |
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| kyuu |
| Don't do it!! I don't think you wanna be on the Maury show! |
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| RacerGirl |
I am with bluecargirl666 on this. find ways to make yourself busy, delete him from your phone, msn, everything. seeing his name will only make you think about him, and want to contact him. spend time with your friends, by yourself, but dont try to replace him, it'll only make you feel worse by rebounding.
good luck girl... need to talk, you have us girls on here as well. :) |
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| Markgase2000 |
It is a shame that these things happen :(
You put good time in and tons of effort or (when all seems well) effortless effort then one of the 2 botches the whole thing. Im sorry to hear Jean. If hes been up to no good on several occasions then best of luck on you moving on. It will be tough you may never fully heal but moving on is prolly the best thing for you. Good luck. |
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| seevik |
| put a gun to his head, make sure he dun do it to another girl that way again, otherwise if that dun work, bluecargirl has a good comment |
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| TrevorK |
Friends are your biggest supporters in this - surround yourself with them to make you forget about him.
And if he keeps bothering you, just pass the phone to one of your friends, they'll know what to say :) |
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| bluecargirl666 |
quote:
Originally posted by TrevorK
And if he keeps bothering you, just pass the phone to one of your friends, they'll know what to say :)
lol! to true! Good Comment!
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| snugs |
quote:
Originally posted by RacerGirl
I am with bluecargirl666 on this. find ways to make yourself busy, delete him from your phone, msn, everything. seeing his name will only make you think about him, and want to contact him. spend time with your friends, by yourself, but dont try to replace him, it'll only make you feel worse by rebounding.
+1 Cut him off cold. He screwed up, its his loss and if he did it once, he'll do it again. Now just take some time for yourself, don't jump into another relationship or do anything stupid while you're on the rebound. :) |
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| Casanova |
You shouldnt have to say anything to him, because you shouldnt be talking to him whatsoever. Cut him off 100% no more contact at all. Then keep yourself busy with friends, family, work, hobbies.
Personally partying helps I know alot of people discourage that. Go out do stupid stuff and create more memories, without that person.
It sucks but dont let his stupidity effect your future relationships. there is always a risk that someone will cheat on you doesnt matter who the person is. You just have to take the risk if you think that person is worth it. |
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| the_fornicator |
nobody said anything like this would be easy.
gets better with time. hard to believe now, but it does. I broke up with my GF of 6 years (6 months ago) and like a month later I was over her.
realize that shit's gotta go on and it doesn't wait for you.
chin up :thumbup: |
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| englebert |
| I think I might have the best solution...Get into your vehicle, start it, put it into gear, head down to the closest liquor store, park your car, turn it off, walk into the liquor store, find the whiskey in the store, grab 2 bottles of Royal Reserve, pay for it, walk out of the store, get back into your car, start it, put it into gear, drive over to your ex boyfriends house, ring his doorbell, let him answer the door, just as he is about to smile BREAK THE FUCKING BOTTLE OVER HIS HEAD. Then go back to your car, start it, put it into gear, drive home, walk inside and drink the second bottle of Royal Reserve and smoke some reefer. Before you know it everything will be A OKAY. This is quite possibly the best idea I have ever had. |
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| bigmack000 |
quote:
Originally posted by englebert
I think I might have the best solution...Get into your vehicle, start it, put it into gear, head down to the closest liquor store, park your car, turn it off, walk into the liquor store, find the whiskey in the store, grab 2 bottles of Royal Reserve, pay for it, walk out of the store, get back into your car, start it, put it into gear, drive over to your ex boyfriends house, ring his doorbell, let him answer the door, just as he is about to smile BREAK THE FUCKING BOTTLE OVER HIS HEAD. Then go back to your car, start it, put it into gear, drive home, walk inside and drink the second bottle of Royal Reserve and smoke some reefer. Before you know it everything will be A OKAY. This is quite possibly the best idea I have ever had.
ROFL! |
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| jean-yus |
| lol been there.. done that. But it was a bottle of rasperry sourpuss that I poured over him, the inside of his car, and his bed. Yay having keys for all his shit.:thumbup: |
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| d.maczko |
lol, wait, what kind of car was it?
totally kidding
seriously, us guys can be dogs, but we all need to get a reality check sometimes.
sorry it had to happen to you.
good luck in the future! :thumbup: |
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| BErettin |
wow guys on here are serious. "go fuck another man, or woman'... here's an idea dont get back with him. if he has the guts to cheat on you he obviously isn't worth your breath. i dont know why some people get mixed up in that love hate crap. you either want to be fully with someone or you dont. that's the problem nowa days everyone is so caught up on getting off that they dont appreciate the better things in life.
first of all, i'm not gay or bi or anything. but i know that i'd rather spend some good time with my GF 100 to one compared to just having sex and calling it a night. if she's the one i want to be with for the rest of my life i need to know i can live day to day with her without feeling the least bit of remourse. if i catch my GF cheating on me. that's the end of the road. if you cant care enough to keep your shit in your pants. then why are you even in a relationship.
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| PraxGTI |
2 rules I live my life by.
1. No second chances.
2. You will get over your gf/bf..it only takes time.
If someone cheats on you...they dont deserve you. period. |
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| bluecargirl666 |
quote:
Originally posted by PraxGTI
2 rules I live my life by.
1. No second chances.
2. You will get over your gf/bf..it only takes time.
If someone cheats on you...they dont deserve you. period.
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too bad its not so easy in real life, but you are 100% right
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| 95EagleAWD |
quote:
Originally posted by bluecargirl666
:bowdown:
too bad its not so easy in real life, but you are 100% right
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It is that easy. You just have to convince yourself. ;) |
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| bigmack000 |
quote:
Originally posted by 95EagleAWD
It is that easy. You just have to convince yourself. ;)
took the wrods rigth out of my mouth lol
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