| Dating for Fun vs. Future - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| Scintillater |
| Most people date coz they like a person, have stuff in common, and want to get to know the person better and just want to have fun. But when do you cross the threshold where you're not sure if it's just fun, or there's a very serious future in it? Some say "oh...you just KNOW" But rather than screw things up and scare someone away....is there a way to just sorta play it safe without wasting time? Does this even make a #### bit of sense *hahha* Gentlemen, I'd especially like to hear what you guys think about when you feel it's appropriate for a relationship to start getting deep emotionally and stuff like that, without being freaky or passive. |
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| Talented |
| I think you just know. hehe |
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| Talented |
| Seriously though, I think most asians date someone because they feel the may have a future with someone. Although that's not the case for everyone.<p>I think you know when you can imagine waking up with the same person every day for the rest of your live. |
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| Genki |
<!--QuoteBegin--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Quote: from Talented on 12:37 am on Sep. 4, 2001
Seriously though, _I think most asians date someone because they feel the may have a future with someone. _Although that's not the case for everyone.
<!--QuoteBegin--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin--><p>I think you are correct... here, but that also probablay depends on your age too. |
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| REFLUX |
Genki's rite, the age thing is a big factor
i'm 18 & i date for fun
i mean the whole routine is done sometimes, but i always take it as a friends thing
it's more comfortable that way, i'm sure the date feels those "friendly vibes" too hehe
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| Scintillater |
| K...so basically what I'm getting at is...when would you feel that it's appropriate for someone to let you know that they want to have a long term relationship and want to become more serious emotionally? How and when would you want to hear those horrible 3 words (the nice ones...not the bad ones...along the lines of LOVE obviously), without it scaring you away? By the way...just to make this clear....I am trying to help a friend...I've already decided I don't want any of this...*hahaha* |
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| Genki |
| When? I would say that depends on close the 2 are in the relationship. I would say somewhere between 6-12 mths <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->.. hmm seems quick when i say it but yea. But it all heavily depends on close they have gotten to each other emotionally to one another.... |
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| REFLUX |
yea it all depends on the couple
my friend's sister got proposed 2 in 6 months
& stayed engaged for 2 years & now they're married
so...........it's diff for everyone |
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| Alily |
| So basically you guys are saying that you tell someone the serious 3 words when "you know". Question is, WHEN do you know? |
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| Talented |
<!--QuoteBegin--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Quote: from Alily on 2:49 pm on Sep. 14, 2001
So basically you guys are saying that you tell someone the serious 3 words when "you know". _Question is, WHEN do you know?[/b][/quote]<p>I think guys first tell the 3 words when they make their first mistake.. haha |
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| Genki |
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I think guys first tell the 3 words when they make their first mistake.. haha[/b][/quote]<p>Nono i think u are confused with the other 3 words that guys always say.. "I am Sorry". dunno why.. but we seem to say that a lot <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://www.asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| Luong98 |
<!--QuoteBegin--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Quote: from Talented on 3:51 pm on Sep. 14, 2001
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So basically you guys are saying that you tell someone the serious 3 words when "you know". _Question is, WHEN do you know?[/b][/quote]<p>I think guys first tell the 3 words when they make their first mistake.. haha
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| masterv |
hahah that's the easy way out....
those 3 lil words can do harm as well as good
that's y if u don't choose ur words wisely it'll cost u
mah 2 scents :cool: |
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| Genki |
| well u should only say it if you really mean it... |
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| 84-1010953184 |
| I think the problem is, most guys don't know when they "mean" it, and have already said earlier when they didn't mean it.<p>Either that, or they just don't say it, because they never really "mean" it. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><p>TinmaN |
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| Alily |
<!--QuoteBegin--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Quote: from TinmaN on 6:18 pm on Sep. 16, 2001
I think the problem is, most guys don't know when they "mean" it, and have already said earlier when they didn't mean it.<p>Either that, or they just don't say it, because they never really "mean" it. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><p>TinmaN[/b][/quote]
I thought guys didn't say it because they're scared the girls will use it on them later. Like when they do something to upset the gf. i.e. "But how could you do that when you said you love me?" <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> |
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| 84-1010953184 |
| Hmm good point Alily, but to be honest, I don't think guys are smart enough to think that far into the future.. haha <p>Since we are on the topic, why do girls ask guys questions that they really only want to hear 1 answer?<p>For example, "Does this dress make me look fat?"<p>Let's be honest, if they guy says yes, he's a dead man...<p>TinmaN |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
You got that right Chris! hahaha.... A guy only tells his girl she is fat if he:
a. wants to get dumped.
b. wants to get hit.
c. does not want sex for the rest of his life. |
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| Alily |
| Hahahah! Those are very good points girlracer! |
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