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| RallinIck |
so the other day, the girlfriend and i were checking into some stuff, we are planning a wedding. and i find out that i am not confirmed yet.
needless to say SHIT hit the fan.
y its such a big deal, i dont know?
so she throughs the ring at me tonight, Tells me that i have to get confirmed for this to continue. no problem i say. but why go ape shit and act like a asshat.
so where the hell would i get confirmed? or how is this process?
im roman catholic.
no means religious so i dont know much about this. i can count on two hands how many times i've been to chruch.
please no flamming. i know this is kinda silly. |
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| 91laserrs |
| when I was young I attended church on a regular basis, and before I was confirmed I had to complete a bible study class. It might not be the same with all religions, however i grew up with the luthern church. |
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| Tech2 |
| Is that the kind of behavior you want to sign on to deal with for life? |
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| ChromeDragon |
| Hahaha, sell your soul to god!:blink: |
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| dtjohnst |
quote:
Originally posted by RallinIck
so the other day, the girlfriend and i were checking into some stuff, we are planning a wedding. and i find out that i am not confirmed yet.
needless to say SHIT hit the fan.
y its such a big deal, i dont know?
so she throughs the ring at me tonight, Tells me that i have to get confirmed for this to continue. no problem i say. but why go ape shit and act like a asshat.
so where the hell would i get confirmed? or how is this process?
im roman catholic.
no means religious so i dont know much about this. i can count on two hands how many times i've been to chruch.
please no flamming. i know this is kinda silly.
Go visit your local Catholic church and talk to the priest. |
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| TrevorK |
Communication is the key to every relationship. I think you need to discuss with your fiance why this is such a big deal, and see if there are going to be any future problems that stem from her religious beliefs as well.
Oh - and I'd talk to your parents. Certain Roman/Ukranian catholics are confirmed when they are baptised.
Roman Catholics, Eastern Orthodox, Oriental Orthodox Churches, and Anglicans, view it as a sacrament, which in the East is conferred on infants immediately after baptism, but in the West is usually administered later at the age of reason or in early adolescence. |
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| ehrgeiz |
| Holy shit dude, (no pun intended) I'd pull the chute on that deal. |
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| Orzel_pl |
Im Roman Catholic and have been confirmed, but you better believe if my gf ever pulled that kind of shit on me, D-O-N-E. She is supposed to respect you not go fucking ape shit over something she could have easily just discussed with you.
Like stated above, go to a Roman Catholic church and ask the priest. You can just give them a call aswell and enquire over the phone. |
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| Blackcrx |
| WOW i be out of there ASAP I cant' stand the problems religion makes in this world such BS :( |
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| SilviaDrifter |
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Originally posted by Blackcrx
WOW i be out of there ASAP I cant' stand the problems religion makes in this world such BS :(
aint that the truth joel |
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| Orzel_pl |
| There's nothing wrong with religion and believing in something higher, its just the religious nutjobs in every religion that ruin shit for everyone who actually lives by the golden rule. |
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| Fazda |
| i'd say thats a little redicilous. to each their own. IMO i really dont think it is a big deal if u have been through comformation or not. i'd tell her to chill out and respect you for who you are. |
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| WorkInProgress |
| wtf is confirmed? |
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| bluSRT |
Only thing I would confirm would be her ass out on the curb.
Thats just nuts to lose it over something like that. Could you just imagine the problems down the road when youre married. |
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| Talon_66 |
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Originally posted by WorkInProgress
wtf is confirmed?
x2:dunno: |
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| Orzel_pl |
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Originally posted by bluSRT
Only thing I would confirm would be her ass out on the curb.
X2:lol: |
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| cupcake |
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Originally posted by WorkInProgress
wtf is confirmed?
It's one of seven sacraments that's supposed to further unify the relationship between an individual and God. Olive oil is consecrated by a bishop. It has to be a bishop and not a priest.
Being Roman Catholic, you should have been confirmed around grade 6. If you're really going through with this, then go to your church and ask to register in a class. They usually have set times confirmations, adult baptism & confirmations, etc. |
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| Tech2 |
| Show her this thread and see what she says. |
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| WorkInProgress |
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Originally posted by cupcake
It's one of seven sacraments that's supposed to further unify the relationship between an individual and God. Olive oil is consecrated by a bishop. It has to be a bishop and not a priest.
Being Roman Catholic, you should have been confirmed around grade 6. If you're really going through with this, then go to your church and ask to register in a class. They usually have set times confirmations, adult baptism & confirmations, etc.
Lame!
/eric cartman |
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| Prudz_lude |
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Originally posted by Tech2
Show her this thread and see what she says.
For some reason i think the random outburst would stop :dunno:
haha jk |
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| Fazda |
| run bro, run for your life! |
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| POX |
| i though this was about makeing confermaitons on wedding arrangments... but if its about religious shit.. wtf mang... how did you get this far and not know shes a religious nut? |
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| Tech2 |
| I always take a girl throwing stuff at me as a very serious red flag. If you had thrown stuff at her it would be considered assault. Lots of women figure that kind of behavior is acceptable, but pull that shit on me and her ass gets fired. |
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| RallinIck |
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Originally posted by POX
i though this was about makeing confermaitons on wedding arrangments... but if its about religious shit.. wtf mang... how did you get this far and not know shes a religious nut?
she claims to be religious, but i havent seen it yet.
i got her to read this lol
shes wearing the ring and at my feet. |
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| Tech2 |
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Originally posted by RallinIck
shes wearing the ring and at my feet.
Nice! |
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| Eclipser |
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Originally posted by RallinIck
she claims to be religious, but i havent seen it yet.
i got her to read this lol
shes wearing the ring and at my feet.
:thumbup: |
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| katrink |
I just wanna say you should really talk to her. Does she go to church every Sunday? If not then she is not practicing then why should you?
On the other hand if you love her and want to do this for her that's fine. I just don't agree with the way she treated you, it's not your fault that your parents did not get it done when you were young. I agree with most of the guys on here saying that this could be a warning bell, I mean when she did not know that you were not confirmed it did not matter. It seems like she thinks you’re a different person now because of this.
I don’t know, I am a girl and I don't do shit like that, to people I am dating or my friends.. I am not religious either and rather like living in sin with my boyfriend ;)
I just think she handled that poorly and should love you no matter what and say she is sorry for treating you like poo. |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by cupcake
It's one of seven sacraments that's supposed to further unify the relationship between an individual and God. Olive oil is consecrated by a bishop. It has to be a bishop and not a priest.
Just to elaborate a bit more on it.
Baptism = God accepts you.
Confirmation = You accept God.
When you are confirmed, you are the one who says you accept God, renounce Satan, etc etc.
It's a step taken in your faith that puts more emphasis on the believer wanting to continue their faith rather than your parents/godparents/whoever telling you to believe.
I believe it's similar to how Baptist Christians do not become baptised until they are of adult age (or at least adolescent).
Confirmation, to me, is a fairly significant step because it is YOUR decision.
It should be made under a relatively good understanding of what you are accepting.
A Catholic friend of mine denied his confirmation when he was in gr.6 and waited until he was 17.
Smart guy I say.
As for your fiance, you two better talk.
Just like everyone else said, if you two aren't on the same page for your beliefs, expectations of each other when it comes to religion, family's religion and the extent of their beliefs (ex. hardcore or twice a year Christians), problems WILL arise.
Same goes for money, sex, children, leisure time, etc.
It's hard to say what degree your relationship is at but assuming everything you posted is accurate and honest, having her freak out on you about religion then end up blowing you a few days later.....sounds like huge mood swings and an unstable personality to me....UNLESS you two sorted it out in the meantime.
Good luck and make sure you two talk A LOT, be honest and willing to LISTEN to each other (i.e. Comprehend what they're saying, not just in and out) |
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| TrevorK |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
Good luck and make sure you two talk A LOT, be honest and willing to LISTEN to each other (i.e. Comprehend what they're saying, not just in and out)
As a wise man once said:
Listen to understand, not to reply |
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