| Opinions pls: Going for lunch but am not interested in a relationship - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| REFLUX |
What's your take on this scenario:
Asking someone you met to go out for lunch but you aren't interested in pursuing a relationship.
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| Ayeso |
| never had that happen before :P I dont believe in platonic relationships one person always wants more so to them "just lunch" may seem like more then lunch you know? |
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| Cyanide Ride |
Unless you have some sort of ulterior motive, there really is no need to ask.
If you have no intentions of seeing each other keep the conversation light and non personal.
Or something even more subtle... Wear a ring on the left hand side. |
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| Jord@n |
| What's the situation? You asked her? She asked you? You're not interested in a relationship? Why? |
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| Invalid Zero |
| Wait, is it a he or a she? Or maybe a he-she? |
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| 95EagleAWD |
| Do her in the pooper and be done with it. |
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| NightmareMX6 |
| Just be honest with this person, tell them that you are not interested in a relationship and you just want to be friends. There is a girl here that wanted to be more then friends, but I didn't and I told her that. We still hang out but nothing will come out of it. |
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| GOT BOOST |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
What's your take on this scenario:
Asking someone you met to go out for lunch but you aren't interested in pursuing a relationship.
:dunno:
Terry,
I was just being a nice guy and wanted to take you for lunch. You do not need to get all freaked out, paranoid and post a poll. I know I could never get inbetween you and your lady Tai Boy :lol:
Lunch is lunch man. Take the offer and have a good time. Sometimes people may want to get to know you better and have not intention for a relationship. :dunno: You will never know unless you do not go.
Mike |
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| Jojdm |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
What's your take on this scenario:
Asking someone you met to go out for lunch but you aren't interested in pursuing a relationship.
:dunno:
well have you ever considered he/she may not be interested in pursuing a relationship with you either?????? |
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| n0c7 |
| I took a chick out for lunch once, because I wanted something. Didn't get it, never went out for lunch again. :p :lol: |
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| Prudz_lude |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
What's your take on this scenario:
Asking someone you met to go out for lunch but you aren't interested in pursuing a relationship.
:dunno:
ive done it many times. my gf has done it many times. lunch is lunch. dinner however is something else. If you are so worried that your gf might dump you for whoever else she is at lunch with in 30 min or even everyday for 30min you obviously should be trying harder in the relationship or you just suck.
If its something like going for lunch while your in school who cares or even if you both work together.
Now, if you met this girl and you are going to go out of your way to meet up |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by Prudz_lude
dinner however is something else.
Now, if you met this girl and you are going to go out of your way to meet up
Why is dinner something else?
And why is going out of your way to meet up w/ a girl a sign that you're interested in a relationship? |
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| newaccorddriver |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
Why is dinner something else?
And why is going out of your way to meet up w/ a girl a sign that you're interested in a relationship?
dinner, lunch and breakfast are all meal times, so i consider them all the same
im more inclined to say that going out of your way is just being more courteous rather then pursuing a relationship. |
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| Jockette |
| girls are stupid that way... they won't see it any other way than a nice friend-like gesture |
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| Jockette |
| for the record... by "stupid", I mean oblivious... |
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| Prudz_lude |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
Why is dinner something else?
And why is going out of your way to meet up w/ a girl a sign that you're interested in a relationship?
Because if you go out to a nice resturant, get all cleaned up and purposely set yourself up to be more attractive the mood typically becomes more romatic or one where its more personal.
Its a date more or less.
Maybe if its like mc dicks i could care less but if someone is taking my gf alone to a very nice resturant i would tell that guy to fuck off |
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| Prudz_lude |
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Originally posted by Jockette
girls are stupid that way... they won't see it any other way than a nice friend-like gesture
i agree a lot do. Their are also a lot of girls who say they don't see it but they do and i am sure everyone knows what happens in that senario. |
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| GOT BOOST |
Terry,
If you are really that worried about the commitment and it coming off the wrong way, and looking for someone to hang out with for a night so you do not look like a tool all by your self......call an escort service! :lol:
Mike |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by Jockette
girls are stupid that way... they won't see it any other way than a nice friend-like gesture
So then how do you make it obvious?
Show up with flowers?
Or ask straight out, "You want to go out for a date?"
Prudz_lude:
I think it's all in one's perception.
What does "dressed up" mean?
What does "a nice restaurant" mean?
What you're probably getting at is the INTENTION of the person to take someone to a nice restaurant, get dressed up, etc.
Suppose it's difficult to tell when you're the one asking/being asked....
Here, interpret this for me:
Met up with a friend in the evening at a coffee shop, both hadn't had dinner yet, both wanted to eat, both just got off work.
Closest thing around was the equivalent to Century Grill/Ric's Grill.
That's where we had dinner.
We're both dressed nicely, we went to a nice restaurant.
But the intention of the evening was just to sit down, catch up, have coffee, and so on.
Would you consider THAT a date?
A friend of mine told me that he would consider it a date but that was not the intention of the evening.
Mike:
You mean you don't want me to call you for our regular Wednesday nights anymore!?
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| GOT BOOST |
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Originally posted by REFLUX
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Mike:
You mean you don't want me to call you for our regular Wednesday nights anymore!?
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Terry,
It's not you...It's me. I just do not think it is working out anymore. Perhaps we should start to see other people! :rofl:
Mike |
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| STiPWR |
| stand her up, and you wont worry about talking to her again ;) |
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| Jockette |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
So then how do you make it obvious?
Show up with flowers?
Or ask straight out, "You want to go out for a date?"
Prudz_lude:
I think it's all in one's perception.
What does "dressed up" mean?
What does "a nice restaurant" mean?
What you're probably getting at is the INTENTION of the person to take someone to a nice restaurant, get dressed up, etc.
Suppose it's difficult to tell when you're the one asking/being asked....
Here, interpret this for me:
Met up with a friend in the evening at a coffee shop, both hadn't had dinner yet, both wanted to eat, both just got off work.
Closest thing around was the equivalent to Century Grill/Ric's Grill.
That's where we had dinner.
We're both dressed nicely, we went to a nice restaurant.
But the intention of the evening was just to sit down, catch up, have coffee, and so on.
Would you consider THAT a date?
A friend of mine told me that he would consider it a date but that was not the intention of the evening.
Mike:
You mean you don't want me to call you for our regular Wednesday nights anymore!?
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your friend is a guy... he would consider it a date
girl would not
the intention is not there
if you set up a dinner date at a nice place where the girl is forced to wash her hair and look pretty, then ya, that's a date |
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| 240sex |
didn't read much of the previous posts but yea
i think its all about body language, and women tend to read body language pretty easily... that said just relax, be yourself, crack some jokes etc, just don't make it seem all romantic.
and if lunch is a problem, take her out to coffee or "brunch" or something. You can catch up with her easily at starbucks or second cup or something and she will understand its not really a date (obviously if shes a stranger she'll take it as a date but if you know her already and just want to catch up then coffee isn't such a big deal nor should lunch be) those are my thoughts on this have fun |
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| Prudz_lude |
quote:
Originally posted by REFLUX
So then how do you make it obvious?
Show up with flowers?
Or ask straight out, "You want to go out for a date?"
Prudz_lude:
I think it's all in one's perception.
What does "dressed up" mean?
What does "a nice restaurant" mean?
What you're probably getting at is the INTENTION of the person to take someone to a nice restaurant, get dressed up, etc.
Suppose it's difficult to tell when you're the one asking/being asked....
Here, interpret this for me:
Met up with a friend in the evening at a coffee shop, both hadn't had dinner yet, both wanted to eat, both just got off work.
Closest thing around was the equivalent to Century Grill/Ric's Grill.
That's where we had dinner.
We're both dressed nicely, we went to a nice restaurant.
But the intention of the evening was just to sit down, catch up, have coffee, and so on.
Would you consider THAT a date?
A friend of mine told me that he would consider it a date but that was not the intention of the evening.
Mike:
You mean you don't want me to call you for our regular Wednesday nights anymore!?
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Honestly for me thats pushing the limits. i would probably let it slide with my gf if she was in that situation. And probably only because you guys were conveniently together and hadn't eaten dinner yet. I possibly could be upset and would "conveniently" go for dinner with one of my friends (a girl) and then sort of rub it in my gf's face, only because i know she would be extremely jealous if i did that.
What i meant is go and pick the person up from their house and do all that jazz described. that is called a date. |
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| Prudz_lude |
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Originally posted by 240sex
didn't read much of the previous posts but yea
i think its all about body language, and women tend to read body language pretty easily... that said just relax, be yourself, crack some jokes etc, just don't make it seem all romantic.
Thats what romantic evenings are like....
Yes they can be more romantic due to mood but seriously some of the best dates with my gf have been exactly how you just described it
But i know what you are trying to say |
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