| Advice on Fathers Legal Rights - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| EDISKRAD EHT |
So first off, I'm having a child with my EX Girlfriend.
All along she's wanted to get back together, but I wont. I would rather have a child grow up with parents that are happy seperated, than to see them fight while they grow up.
Anyways. She found out recently that I'm dating someone, and lost it. We had agreed, that the child would have my last name, and now she is giving it her last name. Also, when she goes into labor she's not even going to let me know. She's going to wait until the baby is born, and all of her family gets to see it. Then she'll call and let me know I can come see my own child after they all did.
The whole time I've been involved still, and even giving her money before the child was even born. I'm taking full responsibilty, and want everything to do with this child. She's doing this because she knows it's the ultimate payback.
So what rights do I have as an involved father, with the Surname of the child, and being notified of it's birth?:dunno: |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
| Or if anyone can forward me to a good "Fathers Rights" lawyer. |
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| liveforspd |
| screw her over in court take your child and that way u can give it your last name. btw is it a boy or girl |
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| euro_trash |
| How would he screw her over in court? For him to get custody, he would need to prove that the child is not safe living with her |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
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Originally posted by liveforspd
screw her over in court take your child and that way u can give it your last name. btw is it a boy or girl
I don't know yet. She wont tell me, cause she didn't wanna know, and of course I was never informed of the Ultrasounds.
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Originally posted by euro_trash
How would he screw her over in court? For him to get custody, he would need to prove that the child is not safe living with her
Well she's on Welfare and lives in her parents basement. I own my own house, and make near 100k a year. Hopefully they will see my place as a more suitable place to live.
All I wanted from the starting was shared custody, but she's turning it ugly because of personal reasons. |
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| Xtra_X |
I feel for you man. I have a few friends in a similar situation on both sides of the battle.
It's never fun.
Just try to keep in mind she sees it as You Vs. Her. it's not anymore, It has to be all about the child. |
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| srt-4toys |
| hey dana talk to richard his girlfriend might be able to hook you up with a lawyer |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
| Thanks. I'll do that. |
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| STiPWR |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
I don't know yet. She wont tell me, cause she didn't wanna know, and of course I was never informed of the Ultrasounds.
Well she's on Welfare and lives in her parents basement. I own my own house, and make near 100k a year. Hopefully they will see my place as a more suitable place to live.
All I wanted from the starting was shared custody, but she's turning it ugly because of personal reasons.
Sounds to me like she's having the kid as a desperate attempt to get back with you, or just to collect more free money from the government... Fucking shit like that pisses me off.
If I were in your shoes, I would wait till the baby was born and cut the mom's throat, but thats just me....
For you? I would definately get a lawyer NOW, and start getting everything sorted out. Including child support payments, custody etc. You're not going to be making 100k a year for long.
I've seen too many fathers get fucked over, spend all your life savings on the best lawyer you can get, or spend the rest of your life broke. While the bitch doesnt work another day in her life, pocketing your child support payments. |
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| ehrgeiz |
"18 years, 18 years
She got one of yo' kids, got you for 18 years
I know somebody payin' child support for one of his kids
His baby momma's car crib is bigger than his
You will see him on TV, any given Sunday
Win the Superbowl and drive off in a Hyundai
She was supposed to buy ya shorty Tyco with ya money
She went to the doctor got lipo with ya money
She walkin' around lookin' like Michael with ya money
Shoulda' got that insured, GEICO for ya moneeey(your money)
If you ain't no punk holla' we want pre-nup
WE WANT PRE-NUP!, yeah
It's something that you need to have
'Cause when she leave yo' ass she gon' leave with half
18 years, 18 years
And on her 18th birthday, he found out it wasn't his?" |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
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Originally posted by STiPWR
Sounds to me like she's having the kid as a desperate attempt to get back with you, or just to collect more free money from the government... Fucking shit like that pisses me off.
If I were in your shoes, I would wait till the baby was born and cut the mom's throat, but thats just me....
For you? I would definately get a lawyer NOW, and start getting everything sorted out. Including child support payments, custody etc. You're not going to be making 100k a year for long.
I've seen too many fathers get fucked over, spend all your life savings on the best lawyer you can get, or spend the rest of your life broke. While the bitch doesnt work another day in her life, pocketing your child support payments.
I'm definately her cash cow. I've already been speaking to a lawyer. I'd rather be broke by giving it all to them than to this F****** C***. Trust me, there's been some pretty fucking evil thoughts that have been going through my head. She's lucky she's the mother of my child is all I can say.
I'm going to present her with papers before the child is even born. I asked her who her lwayer is, and she wouldn't tell me. My money's on that she's bluffing. |
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| Sxn |
does she have a time limit for when to start claiming child support?
or can she start whenever she feels like?
have u agreed to pay her on the side or through ur pay cheque? |
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| JeepGirl |
Get a friggin paternity test STAT!!!
Then yeah, take her to court if the child is your's. You have as much right to custody as she does, doesn't matter if she likes it or not. You can get a lawyer to make a case for custody for you if she is just wanting to be a dirty bitch about it. If the courts try to vilify you just because you are the father (and they will, trust me!! One of our past boarders went through it while living with us, he left the country for France) You're lawyer will defend you're ass.
Moral of the story: GET A GOOD LAWYER!
I can't stand it when "mother's" use their children as pawns to bleed dry their fathers, it's fucking evil.
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| jberger |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
So first off, I'm having a child with my EX Girlfriend.
All along she's wanted to get back together, but I wont. I would rather have a child grow up with parents that are happy seperated, than to see them fight while they grow up.
Anyways. She found out recently that I'm dating someone, and lost it. We had agreed, that the child would have my last name, and now she is giving it her last name. Also, when she goes into labor she's not even going to let me know. She's going to wait until the baby is born, and all of her family gets to see it. Then she'll call and let me know I can come see my own child after they all did.
The whole time I've been involved still, and even giving her money before the child was even born. I'm taking full responsibilty, and want everything to do with this child. She's doing this because she knows it's the ultimate payback.
So what rights do I have as an involved father, with the Surname of the child, and being notified of it's birth?:dunno:
your just going to screw up another child with all the fighting , it wont end. i got a girl prego when i was 17 and we had our fights , its been 5 years now .but now that we are over fighting its the BEST decision of my life, All that matters is the quailty of the childs life,
just a note , i havent meet a newborn child that wants its dad more then mom ( but wait till he/she 3 then they want dad) |
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| arabian_ryda |
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Originally posted by jberger
your just going to screw up another child with all the fighting , it wont end. i got a girl prego when i was 17 and we had our fights , its been 5 years now .but now that we are over fighting its the BEST decision of my life, All that matters is the quailty of the childs life,
just a note , i havent meet a newborn child that wants its dad more then mom ( but wait till he/she 3 then they want dad)
i totally agree with this. in nthe best interest of the child did u try and work it out with her or is she totally fucked in the head? |
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| newaccorddriver |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
Well she's on Welfare and lives in her parents basement. I own my own house, and make near 100k a year.
if you were to present this in court, i can not see how you wont get custody. if she cant support herself and must live in her parents basement on welfare, its going to turn pretty ugly when she cant support herself living in her parents basement on welfare and supporting a child. |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
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Originally posted by jberger
your just going to screw up another child with all the fighting , it wont end. i got a girl prego when i was 17 and we had our fights , its been 5 years now .but now that we are over fighting its the BEST decision of my life, All that matters is the quailty of the childs life,
just a note , i havent meet a newborn child that wants its dad more then mom ( but wait till he/she 3 then they want dad)
The last thing I want is fighting, but I'm not going to let her take advantage of me like this USING our own child as the weapon.
It's fucking wrong.
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Originally posted by arabian_ryda
i totally agree with this. in nthe best interest of the child did u try and work it out with her or is she totally fucked in the head?
I've totally tried being nice. I kissed her ass for months and was giving her money, and everything.
Trust me, the last thing I want is fighting. That's why I broke up with her in the first place. I just don't want my child having to wait 18yrs to change their last name that matches their deadbeat mother, who will prob get married and change hers anyway.
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Originally posted by newaccorddriver
if you were to present this in court, i can not see how you wont get custody. if she cant support herself and must live in her parents basement on welfare, its going to turn pretty ugly when she cant support herself living in her parents basement on welfare and supporting a child.
That's definately what I'll be going for.
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Originally posted by Fish_e_o
http://www.qp.gov.ab.ca/documents/A...isbn=0779701518
maybe it helps :dunno:
Thanks buddy. I've been reading through all sorts of that stuff for days. |
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| n0c7 |
| As for the last name, its constantly changing. When I was born, my parents weren't married and I believe I had to take my moms name. They decided on a hyphenated name. They got married later on down the road, but I kept my name that way. Unfortunately, I'm not sure what the law states now. |
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| bboybean |
Get a good lawyer (as already stated)
then kill the bitch
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yah ...
its what I would do |
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| Prudz_lude |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
I don't know yet. She wont tell me, cause she didn't wanna know, and of course I was never informed of the Ultrasounds.
Well she's on Welfare and lives in her parents basement. I own my own house, and make near 100k a year. Hopefully they will see my place as a more suitable place to live.
All I wanted from the starting was shared custody, but she's turning it ugly because of personal reasons.
no wonder she wants to get back together. your a baller.:thumbup: courts most likely will favour you if it goes that way. they wont care about what you to want, they will care for the well being of the child. You sir have a huge upper hand. |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
The baby is born. It was a beauitiful little girl.
Things are slowly but surely working out. The mother and I are getting along to some degree, and I just hope it does stay civil.
We'll be going through all the legal stuff, but as of now we are agreeing on most things so I hope it doesn't make it to a Court Room. |
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| Prudz_lude |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
It was a beauitiful little girl.
What happened? did your ex off the baby? haha just kidding |
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| arabian_ryda |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
The baby is born. It was a beauitiful little girl.
Things are slowly but surely working out. The mother and I are getting along to some degree, and I just hope it does stay civil.
We'll be going through all the legal stuff, but as of now we are agreeing on most things so I hope it doesn't make it to a Court Room.
great to hear man good job. pregnant women tend to be a bitch so hopefully she has come to her senses somewhat. so by the quote above are u hoping things work out between u too or are u still getting legal shit done?
i really hate seeing familys torn apart it seems almost every1 these days grew up with only one parent around.
i aint gonna lie my worst fear is either getting married or having kids and things going sour but it seems that how our society is these days and it hurt to think about it. :( |
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| EDISKRAD EHT |
| Things are working out. (Not relationship wise. That'll NEVER happen) but we are getting along, but everything that we agree on I will get put in writing and signed and done through my lawyer. Just to be safe. |
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| SkiTLz |
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Originally posted by EDISKRAD EHT
Things are working out. (Not relationship wise. That'll NEVER happen) but we are getting along, but everything that we agree on I will get put in writing and signed and done through my lawyer. Just to be safe.
yea i was gonna say.. Glad its workin out, but don't take that as things will continue to work.. If shes as crazy as she sounds she can flip her mark again just as quick..
So get it all in writing.. Sounds like your on top of things though.
Congrats on the kid dude. |
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| ~sanj~ |
thats good to hear everything is working out
decided on your baby girls name yet? last name? |
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| sleeper_ |
at the very least
document everything so you have a log of what's going on |
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