| Which of the following is most important to you, - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| BlueTurboEGG |
| What is important to you, why, and based on your response, why would it be successful?. |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
I chose option "i" because you need Understanding between two people. Understanding to realize that two people together each have their own ideas and thoughts independant of your own. It takes Understanding to overcome the disagreements between two different personalities, and to not take them personally nor argue about them. It takes Understanding to get through disagreements and solve them together.
Sometimes it takes Sacrifices to be together, things like budgeting, to be married together means giving up certain things to live together (unless you are both finacially independant in which, most cases are not) because one partner will wish to budget or design things differently from you. Perhaps you need to give up a certain lifestyle to be more responsible to be together. It takes Understanding to make Sacrifices and know why and what must be done and to not take it personally, you both are after all, in it together. It takes Sacrifices to help each other through the tough times and Understanding to get through personal difficulties.
It takes Communication to convey these thoughts and feelings, Sacrifices and Understaning. To discuss and Understand the compromises it takes. Communication keeps two people together, and sensitive to eachothers feelings, whether they need a hug, or whether they need help doing something they cannot accomplish on their own.
Love is the anchor that binds everything together. When all else fails, remember that you have love and you will be reminded of why you are together. If you do not have love everything fails. Love is a foundation on which Communication, Sacrifice, and Understanding are built upon, if you have a weak foundation, all other aspects will fall, not today, perhaps not tomorrow, but it will eventually.
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My opinion is by no means the end all be all, it is, how I feel.
There are many who would disagree with what I've said, and there are some who would agree.
I'm not trying to gauge anyones relationship, of make anyone look bad, or upsetting anyone. I just started typing and this is was the result.
After proof reading this I think that it could offend some people, but it took so long to write, why waste it?.
If I have offended anyone, I apologize in advance, that was not my intent, rather this is something that I feel strongly about.
I welcome open and friendly discussion about this topic. |
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| REFLUX |
i choose C E F
but i accidently voted C & D (whatever letter that is) |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| Always want more don't you <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| Genki |
i chose i as well <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
too late to explain why <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
well it's true
if you think of it from a very detached point of view CEF would be the best choices
"I" personally would rather have a gf/wife who is willing to work & be independent than a gf/wife who's totally dependent on my income
money is a source of income AND a source of problems
i know "I" wouldn't want to depend on my gf/wife for money |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Hahaha, good point. Although I think money is more of a problem than anything.
I try not to think about it, but it constantly nags at you <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
You got a really good point about the CEF choices. I guess everyone would want financial stability, if you had that, fights about money would be non-existant!. |
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| Genki |
| i dont know.. i htink $$$ will always cause problems <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
| yeah it will cause problems, but if both of you have it.......less problems will arise |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| Yeah, money itself is a love/hate relationship <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
yeah, it's too bad that money can cause so much trouble yet create so much happiness
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