| is it my fault? - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| s2oooR |
gf and i had another argument .....
I went to go see bad boys 2 the movie tonight at 10:15pm (with my cousin (who i havnt done anythign with this entire year) and emailed her telling her I would be a bit late tonight 30-40min max.....so i was thinking the movie would end at 12 midnight right?....nope,,,, we got out of there close to 1am! who knew the movie would take that fricken long?! (good movie, btw lol :P) .....anyways she's upset that I made her wait up for me ......she's also got a sore back so that probably made it worse that she waited up.....AND I was late on friday and sunday too! (Friday i was late cuz my friends and i went out and i thought we'd be back early.....and on sunday, i was caught up at work so i got home late)....and then now, i had no idea the movie would take so long......
is this just a set of bad luck for me or is there anything i could have reasonably done to avoid this fight/arguement?
in my eyes, i dont think I did anything wrong .....so does she have a reason to be upset? I think she has a right to be upset but is it really fair that its directed completley at me? :(
its really tough arguing with her because whenever i try to explain myself to her, she views that as me always wanting to be right? I feel awful that she waited up and i apologized for that but if her back was really that sore, why woudlnt u just go to bed, am i right?
need some insight...thanks! |
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| Insomniac |
Don't try to reason, girls don't work that way.
Just say "sorry baby"
"SYMAPTHY", not "SOLUTIONS" |
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| REFLUX |
sometimes coincidence is just coincidence (3 days in a row for you)
give your best shot at explaining yourself to her but in the end apologize
I don't think you did anything wrong but that's because I see YOUR point of view.
Her point of view may be something like: "Rommel didn't call, he doesn't care."
she doesn't know 100% your side so she has to work with what she DOES know....HER side. |
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| s2oooR |
Well guys, I did try to explain myself and i DID say all those things to her about "how was i supposed to know the movie would take that long? If there was a way i could let u know in the movie theatre that I would be late, i would have let u know"......anyways, I dont know how much more explaining there is to do other than that?
In the end though I DID apologize/say sorry, manyyyy times! ....but I think she has in her head that that's all i say when "I do something wrong", and that she doesnt wanna hear it anymore! So I dont appologize profusely just enough to let her know that i feel bad that she had to wait....
Personally, i think its PMS :lol: Like i mean, yeah, I was late.....she's late too sometimes.....i dont care if she is......i just brush it off. But, when i'm late a few times through no fault of my own, I think she blows it out of proportion even though i feel bad about it and i apologize anyways. |
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| mazda929s_urbanImports |
| it isnt your fault man let me tell you i just got out of a 2 year relationship with someone who made me feel like everything was my fault. i use to work up north and i brought home some good coin, but she made me feel bad if i wanted to speand it on my car( i just dont get it ) but you were late a few time it is no big deal, shait happens and that is life and all that outher stuff people say to make things better, so good luke with whatever happens :bigthumbup: |
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| REFLUX |
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V8Slayer:
Today it's your car.
Tomorrow it's your friends.
Next week it's your mother.
Next year it's a divorce.
Get a girl that you don't have to change and enjoys life with you and all you have to offer her.
My wife really doesn't get into the car scene but she will help make time for me to go to things and will actually compliment my car once and a while.
Life's not perfect but she accepts everything about me and my hobbies.
Just get one that doesn't want to change you and you her.
I'm not saying she's trying to change you....but the whole accepting you as who you are thing........... |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by mazda929s_urbanImports@Jul 22 2003, 11:58 PM
it isnt your fault man let me tell you i just got out of a 2 year relationship with someone who made me feel like everything was my fault. i use to work up north and i brought home some good coin, but she made me feel bad if i wanted to speand it on my car( i just dont get it ) but you were late a few time it is no big deal, shait happens and that is life and all that outher stuff people say to make things better, so good luke with whatever happens :bigthumbup:
So i dont get it....how did the break up go? what did u say to make u feel bad when she didnt like u spending money on your car? did u spend money on your car anyways? what was her reasoning behind her not wanting u to spend money on your car? lol..... so many questions.......Then, what was said when you came to the break up point? |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by REFLUX@Jul 23 2003, 02:14 AM
quote:
V8Slayer:
Today it's your car.
Tomorrow it's your friends.
Next week it's your mother.
Next year it's a divorce.
Get a girl that you don't have to change and enjoys life with you and all you have to offer her.
My wife really doesn't get into the car scene but she will help make time for me to go to things and will actually compliment my car once and a while.
Life's not perfect but she accepts everything about me and my hobbies.
Just get one that doesn't want to change you and you her.
I'm not saying she's trying to change you....but the whole accepting you as who you are thing...........
....she says she accepts me for who i am but why would she still be upset if she does? mind you, she'll say she's not upset either ...lol.....girls, who can figure them out? lol .....i dont think too much of it anymore..... |
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| mazda929s_urbanImports |
| ok here is how it went i spend alot of money on my car well because, probibly like most of you my car is my baby and it is natural for me to speand money on it. and yes i still spent the money on my car even if she didnt want me to because well IT IS MY MONEY and i worked damn hard for it. i didnt feel bad i said that it was my money, and when i realized that it was time to break up is when we started to argue over the most stupid stuff, like how outher people raised thee kids. and i just told her that we needed to talk and that i wasnt happy and that we had tried to change and it oviously didnt work and that it was just time. but then again i am an @sshole, well atleast that is what she calls me now. |
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| s2oooR |
lol....i think most ex bf's become the asshole after the break up LOL :P
...is this the same chick your getting back with, btw? |
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| mazda929s_urbanImports |
| no it is not the same girl, i wouldnt get back together with my ex after what she dids to all of my shit ( throughibg all of my sht on the frount lawn) and allk of that kinda stuff. |
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| s2oooR |
| how old are u anyways? lol |
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| mazda929s_urbanImports |
| i am 20 years old, why do you ask |
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| REFLUX |
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Originally posted by mazda929s_urbanImports@Jul 22 2003, 10:33 PM
i wouldnt get back together with my ex after what she dids to all of my shit ( throw all of my sht on the front lawn) and all of that kinda stuff.
damn man.......is she latino or something??
ahahahahahaha j/k j/k |
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| s2oooR |
| damn you's young to have so many "friends" lol :wacko: :blink: :beer: :fruit: :grouphug: :moon: :wavey: |
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| TheNeonEdge |
Man dont even try to figure girls out. Its actually best if you pretend that your upset that shes upset with you....then she feels bad and appologizes for over-reacting for such a dumb thing in the first place. Well, thats how it works with me and my girl anyways, somtimes you need to put on hte guilt trip hehe.
--ThE EdGe |
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| colossus |
:gay:
Some women are truly an enigma. It appears that no matter the facts, just remember that according to her you are wrong and she is right, then you guys will get along fine. What's even more amazing is a woman's memory. Some women can remember everytime you were late or wrong like it was yesterday. Guys tend to forget and not hold onto a grudge. The men's rights movement is seriously behind, cause men are whipped these days in most relationships! |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by TheNeonEdge@Jul 24 2003, 05:56 AM
Man dont even try to figure girls out. Its actually best if you pretend that your upset that shes upset with you....then she feels bad and appologizes for over-reacting for such a dumb thing in the first place. Well, thats how it works with me and my girl anyways, somtimes you need to put on hte guilt trip hehe.
--ThE EdGe
you know, ive tried that and it works to a point but it doesnt work for much longer than that :(
Mind you, I dont take our arguements as seriously anymore.....like i mean sure she's upset ....lets look at the bigger picture here.....is what we're fighting about worth breaking up or arguing over? Usually it's not.....unfortunately, both of us dont realize that at the same time when we argue. Mind you, it's mostly her.....it takes a whole lot for me to get upset.
live and learn, i guess? :P |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by colossus@Jul 24 2003, 07:09 AM
:gay:
Some women are truly an enigma. It appears that no matter the facts, just remember that according to her you are wrong and she is right, then you guys will get along fine. What's even more amazing is a woman's memory. Some women can remember everytime you were late or wrong like it was yesterday. Guys tend to forget and not hold onto a grudge. The men's rights movement is seriously behind, cause men are whipped these days in most relationships!
Thats so true! I forget the very next day, practically! :blink:
....whreas she remembers from 1-2 years ago? lol......and i notice it's sometimes selective (ok, usually selective) lol...though she'll never admit to that..lol. I just dont argue anymore.... :dunno:....and THEN, when i make my pointsss....she says not to justify myself....???? doesnt make sense....I think its PMS. lol
Anyways, she stopped arguing with me yesterday so i guess we're good again :D :P ......personally, ive learned to just wait it out :wacko: :bigthumbup: |
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| TheNeonEdge |
That sounds kinda sucky man, first she doesnt liek ure S2000, then she gets mad at you for being a bit late from a movie. Im sure its not as bad as it sounds cuz people only come onto here for help when they need it, so they only talk about the bad, im sure you guys are mostly good. But it almost kinda seems like she only wants you to do the things she wants you to all the time ;)
--ThE EdGe |
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| s2oooR |
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Originally posted by TheNeonEdge@Jul 25 2003, 02:45 AM
That sounds kinda sucky man, first she doesnt liek ure S2000, then she gets mad at you for being a bit late from a movie. Im sure its not as bad as it sounds cuz people only come onto here for help when they need it, so they only talk about the bad, im sure you guys are mostly good. But it almost kinda seems like she only wants you to do the things she wants you to all the time ;)
--ThE EdGe
actually your talking about Seks when it comes to his gf not liking the S2000 lol. My gf loves it!
and yeah, i guess most ppl here dont usually put up the good stuff....just wehn they need help.
well, i guess we got into another argument at the end of the night again tonight LOL.......so much for that last post of mine about saying we're "good" again...:lol:
this time i forgot to call to make arrangements to some place.....so she got all upset saying how i always forget stuff unless she reminds me LOL.....and that "how can i ever rely on you? CAN I rely on you when i need u?" .....all this and she had already made arrangements and made the call first thing this morning! :blink:
Sooooooooo, to my defence, i mention how it happens to the best of us and that i dont "always" forget. So naturally she asks, WHEN have i ever forgotten? So good ol'e me....i bring up one thing after another LOL....hahahaha.....the first two were pretty crappy examples but none the less i brought up, "well, if i cant trust u to remember something small like that, how can I trust u with more important things?" lololol....HOLY crap did she lose it! :angry:
Anyhow.....the last example i gave her was a really good one and she just said, "forget it, bye!" :P oh yeah.....she also said, "you'll say anything just so u can be right!" ....and i turn and say, "im not trying to be right, im just saying that we both sometimes forget things" ....
so i dont nkow....maybe i AM wrong? :wacko:
PS, u know i'll be deleting all my posts once this is all said and done, right? lol.....she'd kill me if she knew this was online LOL hahahaha.... :P |
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| REFLUX |
| idunno Rommel....I don't know..... |
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| Genki |
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Originally posted by colossus@Jul 24 2003, 01:09 AM
Some women are truly an enigma. It appears that no matter the facts, just remember that according to her you are wrong and she is right, then you guys will get along fine.
haha so true! |
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| TheNeonEdge |
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Originally posted by s2oooR@Jul 25 2003, 12:20 AM
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Originally posted by TheNeonEdge@Jul 25 2003, 02:45 AM
That sounds kinda sucky man, first she doesnt liek ure S2000, then she gets mad at you for being a bit late from a movie. Im sure its not as bad as it sounds cuz people only come onto here for help when they need it, so they only talk about the bad, im sure you guys are mostly good. But it almost kinda seems like she only wants you to do the things she wants you to all the time ;)
--ThE EdGe
actually your talking about Seks when it comes to his gf not liking the S2000 lol. My gf loves it!
and yeah, i guess most ppl here dont usually put up the good stuff....just wehn they need help.
well, i guess we got into another argument at the end of the night again tonight LOL.......so much for that last post of mine about saying we're "good" again...:lol:
this time i forgot to call to make arrangements to some place.....so she got all upset saying how i always forget stuff unless she reminds me LOL.....and that "how can i ever rely on you? CAN I rely on you when i need u?" .....all this and she had already made arrangements and made the call first thing this morning! :blink:
Sooooooooo, to my defence, i mention how it happens to the best of us and that i dont "always" forget. So naturally she asks, WHEN have i ever forgotten? So good ol'e me....i bring up one thing after another LOL....hahahaha.....the first two were pretty crappy examples but none the less i brought up, "well, if i cant trust u to remember something small like that, how can I trust u with more important things?" lololol....HOLY crap did she lose it! :angry:
Anyhow.....the last example i gave her was a really good one and she just said, "forget it, bye!" :P oh yeah.....she also said, "you'll say anything just so u can be right!" ....and i turn and say, "im not trying to be right, im just saying that we both sometimes forget things" ....
so i dont nkow....maybe i AM wrong? :wacko:
PS, u know i'll be deleting all my posts once this is all said and done, right? lol.....she'd kill me if she knew this was online LOL hahahaha.... :P
Quick take her somewhere fancy and suprise her with it!....like maybe la chateau revolving resteraunt{is that even the name of it}?!?! then not only will u 2 be better but the possibility of being laid is like 99%
--ThE EdGe |
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| s2oooR |
| I think teh restaurant is called Laronde? .....yeah, its a bit pricey but it's totally not me....I took her there once and she was wondering why the hell i took her there. She saw how uncomfortable i was with getting all dressed up that SHE actually felt bad! Anyways, I think she appreciated the effort more than how fancy the restaurant was and I guess she's really special that way :) :P sucker's ....beat that :P ...... |
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| TheNeonEdge |
OH YA?!
Well/.........well.... MY GIRLFRIEND CAN BEAT UP YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!! :P :P
--ThE EdGe |
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| s2oooR |
| why, is she a Man's man :lol: ^_^ ^_^ <_< |
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