| ho_len_jai |
Wot is with females? All they do is play around with your head, use your money and then ditch you!
'Women, you can't live with them but you can't live without them!' <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--> <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> |
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| Talented |
| Wow, you almost sound bitter ho leng jai. Women troubles? Tell us all about it <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
quote:
Originally posted by -ho_len_jai
'Women, you can't live with them but you can't live without them!'
agreed |
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| wong |
I think we should all play gay.
Um nah. |
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| masterv |
woman troubles ho_len_jai? i thot u can get anyone with ur amazing good looks...or so ur username claims... <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
yea tho..lui yun ho mah fan..... |
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| REFLUX |
who here isn't currently having some woman troubles?
i have a gf so that's woman troubles 24/7 <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| ho_len_jai |
I don't think they respect us enough! I think we should all turn gay just for a bit to make them respect us more.
We can live without them for a week or two but they can't live without us for that long! (they might break a nail or something!<!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| REFLUX |
| um..... <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> |
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| masterv |
| ur messed dood...... |
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| 240Babe |
| Hey not all women are trouble, you just gotta find the right one <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> |
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| ho_len_jai |
| does anyone believe in sole mates? Is there really only one girl out there for you? if so can my sole mate carry a sign above there head i'm sick of looking for u! <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
omigod! i was just talking to a friend the other day about this!
wanna hear my amazing analogy? =}
too bad.. here it is anyway =P
*ahem* i'ts like we're all a piece of a jigsaw puzzle.. there is ONE perfect match out there but you may never find it and it's all good because so many others fit too! just not.. PERFECTLY.. you know.. couple flaws here and there
and THEN, there are the types of pieces that DON'T fit with you at all! that's when there are problems coz you basically jammed the pieces together!
wow.. great analogy =}
hahahahaha =} i think this was worth at least $50 =} |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Yeah, you just gotta figure out which piece fits you best.
ps. WB Cheryl <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
quote:
Originally posted by -240Babe
Hey not all women are trouble, you just gotta find the right one <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->
you said it Cheryl.
I am very happy being single, less hassle that way. <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Whoa, waidaminute... "I'm very happy being *single*"
Am I missing something here?... |
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| REFLUX |
single?<!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo-->?
btw, good analogy DG |
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| Talented |
| hmm Perfect piece ... where art thou ? <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
| Yes guys, single. Been like this since the 22nd. Its okie though... hoping to stay friends with Alan, he's a great guy. |
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| Genki |
quote:
Originally posted by -ho_len_jai
does anyone believe in sole mates? Is there really only one girl out there for you? if so can my sole mate carry a sign above there head i'm sick of looking for u! _<!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo-->
what qualities tho would u consider a person to be to be the perfect soulmate tho? |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
I do.
As for how you can tell, that's up to you. |
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| Scintillater |
| Men are JUST as bad as women. Some worse, some better. It's all the same. No one is safe. |
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| wong |
Yeah but when a guy sleeps with a bunch of chix he's a stud, if a girl does it she's a slut.
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| BlueTurboEGG |
HA!, either way for whichever party, is not that acceptable.
Sleeping around is bad. |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
i was just thinking.. do you know that probably each year.. counting from the whole world.. there probably isn't even ONE perfect match. .. you know.. that "soul mate"..
so many ppl claim to have met that "one" in their life.. simply coz it's been the best they've had.. but overall.. i still don't think they were so lucky as to find THAT one. not to be a pessimist.. it's just hard. but then again.. so many random pieces fit together too =} just.. wouldn't it be great to find that specific one? to be honest.. i can't even think of an example.. but for those two destined pieces to connect.. i think that's a love that no author/movie/picture has been able to illustrate for the world because really.. how scarce is that? and oddly enough.. i think that a person's soulmate don't even hafta share a common tongue.. like.. there'd be this natural understanding.. total marriage of body and soul.. without logic..
oh yea.. what have i been reading? House of the Spirits .. by Allende.. it's pretty good eh? =} and yea.. i was forced to read it.. dammit.. another 300 pages to go.. *sighs* |
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| Bimmer |
| The one soulmate theory is interesting Pegz, but if that's the case then most people's soul mates are probably living somewhere else in the world and it'll be like impossible for them to meet. Too bad though, I think it's be interesting to see two people get along so perfectly. Very interesting. |
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| ho_len_jai |
so you guys believe in soulmates but think that you will never find them?
The puzzle idea is a really good one. I don't think there is a perfect match for everyone (perfect piece to fit the puzzle) Each different person brings out a different aspect in yourself. In other words lot's of people are needed to form the perfect piece in the puzzle.
What does soul mate actually mean? Perfect match? If you did find this person you will still need your friends? |
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| Genki |
quote:
Originally posted by -DrunkenGoddess
i think that a person's soulmate don't even hafta share a common tongue.. like.. there'd be this natural understanding.. total marriage of body and soul.. without logic..
Well its more like you 2 can get along.. enjoy each other's company and not change how u act.. jsut be yoruself. She likes u for who u are and u liek her for who she is. |
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| 240Babe |
| There are no such things as soulmates! |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
the "soulmate" is a myth =}
who knows if they exist! if my theory of this perfect match is true.. then we basically don't find them so.. who knows if they exist period!
no.. i don't think you'll ever need anything else in the world if you found that specific piece.. visualize this.. that piece is everything you need in life.. fits and fulfils all your needs.. what more will you need after that? but then.. problem is.. we are never fully satisfied so i'm not sure that works out..
blah.. screw soulmates.. just be happy you can find someone you are happy with =}
in fact.. your soulmate can be anyone you make to be. it's all in us, right? if i say you're my soulmate.. then you are. who can question that? |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
But isn't that what a "Soulmate?" is?.
Someone you're happy with?, all of the good things are wonderful and bad things just don't seem as bad?.
No matter how bad of a disagreement the two of you get into you're willing to work it out to be together?.
A Soulmate is difficult to put into something as crude as words, it's a feeling. Like everything just seems "right."
It's not something like "Oh, yeah, see that guy there?, He's gonna be my Soulmate" or "Yeah babee, that chick is gonna be my Soulmate"
It just doesn't work that way.
You don't find a Soulmate, they find eachother. |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
actually.. i think that if you think that someone is your soulmate and you believe it.. then by all means.. that person IS your soulmate. who's better than to say who fits your idea of a soulmate best? now.. thing is.. just because YOU claim that THEY are your soulmate.. THAT person does NOT have to agree. that's life, right? many points of view but there's never a lack of self-will and determination. we are free to choose but in return, that person must also have the freedom to choose. so.. perfect soulmate match? when both ppl decide they are eachother's soulmate =}
yea.. there's my refined theory! haha.. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
p.s. so i think you CAN say "that guy is your soulmate" and believe it. as long as you're not cheating in your decision. |
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| 240Babe |
| ok so what do you do when you think you've found your soulmate but they dont thing your their soulamte? |
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| Racoon |
| I was thinking the same thing. Maybe if the other person does not feel the same way, then they were never really your soul mate. |
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| 2000silverimpreza |
| if you think someone is your soulmate but the other person doesn't feel the same way then they aren't really your soulmate right? aren't soulmate's perfectly matched couple's? |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Racoon, 2000Sil, you two hit it bang on the center of the nail <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
A relationship is a two way road, all you selfish people should be ashamed for even thinking like that <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> <shakes finger at you all>
I wouldn't say soulmates are a *perfect* match, but somewhere close. Close enough so nothing else matters <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| ho_len_jai |
| You can't just say someone is ur solemate. It's has to be a two way thing! Otherwise anyone can be your solemate e.g. i could say that britney spears was my solemate. I might think she is perfect but there's no chance for the same in return. So thta can't be solemates. But this whole thing is really confussing me now!!1 <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| You don't classify someone as your soulmate, you feel it. |
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| ho_len_jai |
| the feelings still have to be a two way thing! |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
nope. i stand my ground =P
if you think brit is your soulmate.. then she is. you just don't happen to be hers =P
so what? what if you can't be with your soulmate? at least you had the freedom to choose =} isn't that all about life? we fought so hard for liberty and now i'm telling you that you are free to choose who you decide your soulmate is and you tell me i'm wrong? hmm..
lemme remind you ppl.. no one gets hurt in the process of you deciding who your soulmate is.. maybe you do at the end coz the feelings aren't returned but life's not perfect.. furthermore.. this is like a goal.. the more realistic, the easier to achieve.. but again.. you are free to set your own goals and until you make a goal (you decide a soulmate).. nothing's gonna happen. |
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| GirlRacer P1 |
Hmmmm, I know I said relationships are a hassle,
but I guess it depends on who you are with, and your feelings for them.
I'm soooo confused!!!!! <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--> |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
You can't just say "Brit" is my soulmate, nope, perhaps with time, she would see you in the same light, but not right off the bat.
You don't meet a soulmate right away, you don't assign a soulmate. It's a mutual feeling between a couple without words.
If you think someone is your soulmate, and they don't think the same of you, chances are, the two of you aren't.
If I think Brit is my soulmate and she doesn't and I'm not willing to change my mind, then I am what society calls a Stalker.
But again, this isn't something that is discovered after initial contact.
You may figure it out after 1 year, two years or 3 years. I can guarentee you that you won't figure it out within two minutes.
You don't decide on a soulmate, you decide on what are the outward appearances (working outside to inside) or deciding on the personality before looks (inside before outside) Either way, that paves the path for your future relationship. Perhaps you may have already passed them by, or they are right under your nose. You choose who you want to be with, that's fine, you figure out later whether it is good or bad, is it's good, it only gets better. But again, it takes a concentrated effort on both sides.
Nothing is perfect, to think so, that is unrealistic.
What is realistic, is to expect both parties to work together for the relationship. That means giving and taking. If you can compliment eachothers strengths and weaknesses, the puzzle is already starting to fit together alot better. The old addage that it takes two to tango, ring true each an every time. |
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| REFLUX |
hey i haven't been following this thread so if this doens't apply, apologies in advance.
i just read Andy's post, thought this quote would go nicely with it:
"Don't marry the person you can live with, marry the person you can't live without." |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Thanks for the support quote Terry <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
I'll add to my message because I thought of something last night.
Think of it this way (and I'll use DG's analogy of Puzzles to help)
When you're seeking that one piece of the puzzle for a part of the whole puzzle... You don't grab the nicest looking piece and immediately assign it "the missing piece" (or in this example, the "soulmate") and proceed ram it into place shouting "That's your home, don't you want to go home!?"
You study the void space in the puzzle for abit, then you check your pile of unassigned pieces, look for something similar, not the prettiest piece, but the one appears to have the same contours as the missing piece. You try one, then another, observing how each piece appears to fit, but doesn't. As each piece goes by, you begin to get an idea of what contours best suit the void space in your puzzle. You begin to narrow down the contours that you need, coming closer with each piece. Soon, you find the right one, and with a little adjustment, it fits.
Now I don't know about you guys, but every puzzle I've ever put together never has really fit well, but they're supposed to.
You may find your puzzle piece right away or you may not, either way, it's there, you just need to know what to look for. |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
i just read eggy's last reply and.. damn.. go puzzle theory! <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo-->
but see, referring to your reply.. ppl make mistakes in choosing their soulmate.. thus someone CAN say Brit's their soulmate =} and she will not fit with him watsoever.. because he was wrong.. BUT he may think that he's right and then until he changes his mind or finds a better fitting piece, he can keep that thought in mind because i wanna remind you ppl.. when you pick up a puzzle.. it doesn't fit in all ways.. sometimes, you turn it upside down and THEN it fits.. so the perfect pair CAN experience a misfit at first so that person can continue to think Brit's for him staying optimistic. and you know how sometimes when you're piecing a puzzle together.. some pieces just DON'T appeal to you? like.. you never thought it'd fit.. but it does? well.. some ppl never find their piece or realize it so whatever that person feels is their "piece" can't be told he's wrong because HE's putting together that puzzle. and if that piece doesn't fit (the girl/guy doesn't feel the same way) then eventually, that piece will have to be taken out of the picture or sh it results.. you all know what i'm talking about. a dying relationship stubborn to call quits. |
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