| Handling the X-significant other. - Click HERE for Original Thread |
| Scintillater |
| Haven't you ever tried to be friends with an x, because they decided they wanted to move on, but the moment that you DO move on, suddenly there's a reprisal of interest? When do you decide that they're just trying to see if they can reel you back, or if they actually genuinely care about your "friendship?" |
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| REFLUX |
i dont understand the poll
wat's the question?? |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Chances are, if you've spent a long enough time apart, you only remember and think about the good times and forgotten about why you broke up in the first place.
You have to ask yourself, do you really want to get back together, or is it because you just miss them. |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
*rolls on the floor, laughin her ass off*
i think that when your ex cuts you off.. you two can't be friends anymore =P
no wait, when you even TRY to be their friend and they cut you off, you can't be friends anymore!
or maybe when they decide they never loved you at all you two can't be friends anymore!
no wait.. even better, when they make you feel like it's a good breakup, go out with someone new within a month and THEN say that they "made" themself "believe" they loved you, it's time to move on
.. =} oh yea.. go peggy!
did i mention that this wasn't kinda like a fling thing either? |
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| Scintillater |
so you've been cut off? *heh hehe*
I meant when do YOU cut THEM off? They're the one being clingy! |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| Oh, girls, that's not even funny <!--emo&???--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt='???'><!--endemo--> |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
you think it's cutting off?
hmm.. never saw it like that
i figured it couldn't be
cut off isn't something that happens to a relationship of over a year |
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| Talented |
| Some people just don't know when to let go. Just ignore them long enough and they should go away. At least it worked on me.. hahahahha jk.. <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
| Woops, thought you girls were refering to being "Bobbitized" |
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| Genki |
quote:
Originally posted by -Talented
Some people just don't know when to let go. _Just ignore them long enough and they should go away. _At least it worked on me.. hahahahha jk.. <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->
ignore!? haha that is too mean <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> |
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| Scintillater |
| I didn't want to ignore...but it got seriously out of hand. He was making me cry on a every-other-day basis because he would just hit the right emotional spots. Tried to make me feel guilty when really, I had done NOTHING wrong. So....eventually I said "I think we need to not talk for a while, until things settle a bit, because you obviously can't handle being friends with me while I'm seeing someone else." I don't think that's being too unreasonable, do you? |
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| Genki |
no that sounds fair. Its pretty obvious he is still clinging to you as mroe than a friend...
I thot u meant jsut all of a sudden ignore.. with no notice... <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
hey scint.. how long did he cling onto you after you two broke up? you mentioned a new bf.. maybe your ex was feeling hurt you were so quick to move on? .. with regards to the guilt trip biz..
then again, no one knows your story better than yourself so i'm not arguing.. just wondering
like honestly, like you said, you didn't do anything wrong so who cares now? you've already done it, right? |
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| BlueTurboEGG |
Well, regardless of what happened in the past, it's in the past.
You've moved on and it's obvious he can't maintain a "just friends" mentality.
If you ask me, he probably realized he lost somone worth staying with a little too late. But you probably knew that already <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| Scintillater |
| well...he clung to me for like...1 month after we broke up...then...he secretly started "seeing" someone after about 2.5 months that we broke up. I found out from a slip of the tongue from his friends. Oops. i was devastated, because I thought we might get back together later when we'd had more time apart, and he'd been professing his "ever-lasting love" to me, so I was heart broken. Since I was his first f ever, he was like "I need to date other people so I can grow (b.s.) so I know how to treat people. We're not going to get serious. blah blah blah" Yet, he keep sorta reeling me in, then throwing me back out to sea. Finally, I got tired of that, accepted our "friendship" and refused to be the psuedogirlfriend when he was bored. Nothing really developed outta him and that girl, because I think they were both just too busy, and then I started seeing someone 7 months after we broke up. Now...if he thinks I was being bad and tearing apart his heart....what the hell was HE doing dating some chick, not telling me, while trying to be affectionate and all? After we stopped talking, only 2 weeks later, I found out he's seeing that girl again. *sigh* Poor girl...soooo backburner. |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
eww.. what kinda guy is that?
wow.. wow.. wow..
scint.. that was the exact same reason my ex broke up with me for.. hmm.. something fishy.. haha
but we stopped talking period.. i tried to be his friend but he told ppl he "couldn't deal with ex's" .. *shrug*
and then he called a week ago and FINALLY.. after 9 months.. took his stuff back and gave me back my dress
after 9 months.. NO contact.. what's up with that? haha |
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| Genki |
same reason!? maybe it was the same guy!! <!--emo&:0--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wow.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':0'><!--endemo-->
haha j/k <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| Scintillater |
| yeah.....he claims its due to jealousy...being unable to figure out what to do...inexperience (im his first gf), etc. I figure a lot of stuff doesn't need experience...just takes a LITTLE thinking and placing yourself in the other person's position. Oh well. Do you think I should even bother trying to contact him first after a period of time, or should i let him be the one who's decided he's "ready" to be a normal friend and call me? |
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| DrunkenGoddess |
scint.. let him decide =}
i'm sure 9 months later you'll post a msg similar to my previous one.. hahaha
but really, since it's HIM who isn't ready to be a FRIEND.. it's gotta be him to decide when he is <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> |
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| Genki |
hrmm im just curious abt this... but how many ppl here have broken up and are still fairly good friends with their ex?
Cuz to me.. i dont think that is very likely....
but i mean u have had to be dating a long time for this to be valid.. not a 2 mth thing <!--emo&:p--><img src="http://asianet.ca/images/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'><!--endemo--> say.. at least a yr... |
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